Are You Smothering Him? Find out...

By: Carlos Cavallo
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When it comes to a relationship, there are signs you are smothering him. And like it or not, one of the things in life a girlfriend doesn't want to do is smother her partner.

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How do you know?

There are lots of reasons for this coming up in a relationship. But the most important advice for you to know is if you're being too needy, and if your behavior is undermining trust in the relationship.

Sometimes insecurities show up in the way you feel and the little red flags you notice.

It's very hard for a man to explain to his girlfriend that she is suffocating or smothering him in the way she's handling the relationship. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so he may hint with his own behavior.

The goal is to have your man feeling your openness, not your insecurities. I want to show you signals that you are smothering him or making him feel pressure.

Smothering Signal 1: You're trying to control too much of his life

Now I'm sure that most women don't feel they are trying to control the relationship too much. You want to believe that you're the cool girl that is easy going.

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You don't want to be mom...

But the truth is that if a man is a 'go along to get along' kind of guy, he may be letting you take on too much. He may be guilty of not controlling his own boundaries very well. When that happens, a woman tends to take over.

And you know what? I wouldn't blame you. But the unfortunate thing is that this is smothering behavior that will compromise your happiness - and his.

A man needs to feel independence and a separate identity from the relationship. If this doesn't mean that he is not committed. It simply means he has to have a balance.

Take a good look at the places where your relationship overlaps with your significant other and his life. If you're managing your social life too closely, I urge you to give him more autonomy.

It's always easier for a man to let the woman take over. But that doesn't mean you fall down that slippery slope. When you get a chance, get him to put in the effort and plan activities.

As a relationship expert, this is one of the most common places where things go wrong. It's easier for you to just take over, I agree. Which is why, in the end, it will simply cause him to feel a loss of intimacy.

Besides, you want him to put in an effort and show his feelings, not give him an excuse to tell you you smother him.

Smothering Signal 2: His body language is closed

When you start to sense distance from him, the first thing you have to look at is his body language.

I'm not talking about the subtle signs like if he's turning his hip towards you or his eyes are dilated. Nothing like that.

But you should look at how open he feels overall during a conversation.

With a little bit of attention, you should be able to sense if his body language is open or closed. You'll know whether or not you have a connection or if he's checking out.

Most warning signs show up in communication. If he's crossing his arms and not seeming receptive, you may be suffocating him.

You should be able to detect a lot of his hesitation and fear

Smothering Signal 3: You feel anxious and stressed about your relationship most of the time

Men typically pull away from a relationship if they sense clinginess from their partner.

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Relax...

The anxiety and stress you feel is because of your fear that you might breakup, and the energy between you two.

At times, relationships may reach a point where your affection dwindles. Or the partners feel like something needs work.

But it's confusing to know where to start. Your boyfriend may have a problem he doesn't know how to tell you about. Or he has questions he doesn't know how to ask.

If you feel like your emotions are out of control much of the time with him, you're probably doing something that smothers him, and this will make him pull back.

Be especially careful of any manipulation you find yourself engaging in just to get what you want.

Smothering Sign 4: He expresses a need for more privacy

One of the ways he might signal you directly is if he comments about needing more privacy and possibly some time apart. This doesn't mean he's ending the relationship. He just needs to reclaim a feeling of independence.

He also needs your permission to reclaim his freedom. Which can be hard for you to do because it will stir up insecurity and fear that your breaking up with each other.

For example, he might not want you to see what is going on his phone all the time. You might feel jealous or scared that he's texting some other woman. But in reality, he just needs a separate space so that he doesn't feel smothered or controlled.

You might question his need for privacy - that this is a need to stay separate from you. Instead, just watch for a sudden change of habits that could be a sign of distance between you.

Smothering Sign 5: You find yourself stalking him on social media

The problem and risk with social media is that we are sometimes TOO connected to each other. There's no space for guys to be guys and girls to just let it be.

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Put the phone down.

Between Facebook and Twitter, email and texts, people are often communicating but not always connecting.

If your relationship feels threatened, chances are you may get the idea that you can keep track of him on line. After all, we tend to put everything about our lives on Instagram or some other social media.

If you've ever found yourself checking out a comment or one of his posts online, just to see if he may be connecting with someone else, you may be guilty of cyber stalking.

Look, let's be honest, it can be easy to look for an answer to our situation this way. We all put too much of ourselves online.

But if he senses that you're doing this, he will very likely make some decisions about your relationship that you're not going to like.

Smothering Sign 6: You feel like you're always in competition with his hobbies

Many women feel that there's no room in her boyfriend's life for her.

Maybe he's sitting on the couch and playing video games, and you're right there next to him, hip-to-hip. Maybe you feel like he doesn't make enough time for you, or there's just never enough of him to go around.

When his hobby or his recreational interest seems to push you out, he may be using them to keep you at a distance to give him some breathing room.

An important reminder is in order here: You can never force your man to love you or open up to you. He has to give it willingly. If he isn't capable of openness up front, you may have chosen an unavailable man.

Pressure feels like a burden to men. It won't help him open up or to relax into intimacy.

Smothering Sign 7: You feel like you can't get enough of him

Sure, you get together, and you make plans, but you don't feel like that's enough time. In fact, you might feel a bit insatiable when it comes to spending time together.

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Too close for comfort...?

This is another of the common issues in relationships.

Maybe you've had a talk with him about this too. There's just no amount of time that makes you feel like you're a couple or that you have enough contact.

As a result, you find that you may push or press him into spending more time with you.

"Hey, what's he doing in the bathroom now, anyway?"

This feeling of never being able to fill up your bucket is a red flag for your relationship. And for your mental health.

Take a look at the reason why this is happening. Everyone has the desire to spend all their time together at the start of our relationship. But occasionally you need a break. And he does, especially.

Smothering Sign 8: You feel jealousy a lot of the time

You're jealous of a lot in his life.

  • His video games and hobby interests seem to get more attention
  • His friends get more time than you
  • His mom is getting more attention - and yes, you're a little jealous of that, which makes you feel kind of crummy
  • His family seems to crowd you out (but you're pretty sure this is your imagination - or maybe not)
  • You may even feel jealous of your girlfriends when they get attention from him, even if it's only friendly and harmless

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Jealousy is one of those feelings that can plague you unless you resolve it. Either he's really doing things that are making you fear you might be losing him, or you're imagining it.

But even if you're imagining it, I have some news for you: It still feels real. And that means you may have a self-esteem issue to resolve.

Smothering Sign 9: When you kiss him, he feels like he's somewhere else

The lips never lie, as I like to say. Another part of his body language is how he feels when you're close to him.

  • Does he feel warm and engaged?
  • Or cold and disinterested?
  • Do you sense that his kisses are "holding back" from you in some way?

If you sense that he's not really "feeling it" when he kisses you, he may be feeling the effects of smothering. His emotions are dampening his desire.

Smothering Sign 10: You feel let down by your relationship

At the start, all relationships seem fantastic. Thrilling and passionate.

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Love has its ups and downs.

But then Reality ™ comes along to remind you that there's another side to relationships. And the intense feelings can't last. It can't be that way forever.

And so we realize that disappointment is going to show up at some point, too.

But it's a problem if, most of the time, you feel like your expectations just can't be met. And maybe you're not sure if it's a problem with him or a problem with your expectations.

Maybe you have a similar situation with your friendships. This is a difficult situation to face when you feel it in most of your relationships because you're also sensing that it could be something for you to work on.

The best thing you can do is take a step back and get some answers about where you are with your expectations. Make sure you do not have expectations that no relationship can meet.

Make sure you're really open to the experience that relationships are not capable of living up to "fairy tale" expectations.

Smothering Sign 11: He stops responding to you

Ever had that sneaking suspicion when you sent him a text message that he saw it and chose not to respond?

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Unnecessary worrying...?

Or maybe you left him a voicemail and you didn't hear back from him...

Or he has this funny way of saying he missed a lot of your texts, but you can tell when he's seen them. And there's always a long delay before he replies - IF he replies.

The same is true if you call him but you get his voicemail most of the time. And no call backs!

The lack of contact can make you worry.

But just like the feeling of being let down, you may want to make sure you don't have an unreasonable expectation of him.

Most men do not call or text very often. It's not in his nature. While he may have started out doing this, he's not going to be able to keep it up forever. And this is disappointing to you as it raised your hopes.

Allow him the ability to get a little comfortable with you. And perhaps also let him not have to be so fervent about texting or contacting you. It can be tiring.

And as long as you're not feeling regular dis-regulation and anxiety over these pauses, you'll do fine.

On the other hand, if you're feeling regular anxiety over your attachment with him, it's time to take a look at it.

It can be very difficult to figure out if you're actually smothering him, or he's just emotionally shut down. Many women make the mistake of assuming their man is emotionally unavailable, but he's really just reacting to feeling too much pressure in the relationship.

You need to know if he's really into you or not.

You need to know if there's a future in this relationship, so you can either continue investing your heart in him or move on. This is especially important if you're looking for marriage, and time is ticking.

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When you're looking for a life partner, the first question you need to ask is how compatible are we?

Compatibility in a relationship will help you understand if you're right for each other. Yes, you can take a quiz to find out more about your compatibility. (I'll point you to my compatibility quiz in just a moment.)

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Which one is The One?

Your personality, your interests, and so many other qualities can be used to figure out whether you and your significant other are compatible with each other.

You've probably been told that compatibility is one of the most important things in a relationship. But there's lots of stuff that will tell you what really makes a love connection work.

And there are some unexpected signs that you might miss.

First let's clear up some myths:

MYTH 1: If you have too many differences, you're not compatible

This one is very misleading. The fact is that you do need some differences or you run the risk of being too much like each other.

Relationship compatibility needs two people who are willing to work with one another. Inevitably, you will have conflict in your relationships. What's more important is how you handle your arguments and disagreements.

MYTH 2: You might have to change to be compatible

Again, this is false. If you are changing your habits and behaviors to match your partner, or to save your marriage in some way, this is a disaster waiting to happen.

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Fizzling out...?

Part of the reason that opposites attract is because we want to connect with someone different from ourselves. Our level of attraction is in direct proportion to how unique this person is.

Keep in mind that anything you change just to match him becomes something that turns boring later on. You can never sacrifice your unique individual qualities and characteristics just to seem more "compatible" with him.

Keep this in mind when you answer the questions on the compatibility quiz.

MYTH 3: How compatible you are means: how many things you both like

While you should like some things in common, you also want some variety and diversity in your interests.

The truth is that happy couples don’t always have as much in common as you might think.

Research findings show that the happiest couples have some different interests that they do while NOT together.

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Happiness is the spice of life!

Being in a happy relationship is a function of how much effort and focus you put on it, not on the relatively "easy" situation of just being alike.

Which makes sense, if you think about it. Most people rely too much on the easy part - simply liking the same things. Anyone can match in that way.

The HARD PART is being willing to WORK on the relationship when things are difficult. That's the true test of "compatibility!"

Unhappy couples often blame "incompatibility" for their relationship dissatisfaction. They put a high value on 'similarity,' as if being more alike would fix their troubles.

When we blame incompatibility, that's shorthand for "I lost the will to work through the really tough stuff." Many times, this also means "I just found it easier to find a new person."

MYTH 4: In order to be compatible, your personalities must be the same.

Another mistake people make about how compatible you are is thinking that you must have the same opinions and beliefs. While this certainly helps, you can't match everything.

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And when you consider that we often change our opinions later in life, you get a new perspective on the important factors that make up a couple.

Your personalities should be compatible - but not the same!

MYTH 5: You need to be compatible in bed.

Many people believe that you have to be compatible with sex.

But what does this even mean?

The fact is that if you are truly in love with each other and connected in your hearts, you will find compatibility in the bedroom. You'll work things out.

You'll simply have the desire and the motivation to meet your partner's needs.

MYTH 6: Your zodiac signs must be compatible.

Bottom line: You can't tell what compatibility you have with your boyfriend from his birthday, or the position of the stars.

Yes, checking your astrological charts can be fun, but the best focus is on the day-to-day real issues of your relationship. Unfortunately it's always easier to - again - blame stuff we can't control so that we don't have to work on the things we DO control.

Be sure to spend most of your attention looking at his willingness to meet you halfway rather than whether or not he's a 'Taurus' or Libra man.

MYTH 7: When you're compatible, you don't argue.

Incorrect!

This is one of the biggest mistakes people make about compatibility. Instead of trying to find the right partner for the right reasons, they seek to avoid conflict.

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Have healthy respect for one another...

Arguments are a necessary part of relationships. You simply can't avoid them.

And you cause more problems when you try to avoid conflict in your relationships. You also develop a bad habit of not facing your problems!

But what helps make them less frequent and less intense is knowing that you're both on the same team. You look for ways to meet your relationship goals together.

Your arguments will simply be a way to grow CLOSER than ever, when you know what REAL compatibility is!

MYTH 8: To figure out how compatible you are, you should be friends first.

NOPE!

Another big mistake, that tries to remove romantic pressure is a way of making a better relationship. The truth is that if you want a romantic connection, both partners need to start with attraction and desire.

You also have to keep your intuition turned on and not let your feelings run away from you.

If you're the type of person that can't stop from jumping in feet first, there's a good possibility your problem isn't really compatibility. Your problem is more likely controlling your impulses - and fear of loss!

If you're brutally honest with yourself, you may have noticed that anytime you started out as friends first, you lacked the passion and fire necessary to make it a romantic love story.

Okay, so those are some of the myths you should watch out for. There's plenty of them, as you can see.

But now let's shift gears and start to talk about how you CREATE compatibility with your man.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 1: Make sure he's got at least a few activities in common with you

It's a good idea to have activities you can share with each other. They don't all have to match, but your guy should be open enough to share in some of your hobbies and interests.

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Recipe for love...

Again, it's more important that he's willing than if he appears to instantly match all of your interests. After all, you should have things to share with each other along the way.

Challenge each other to grow together!

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 2: The stuff you like isn't as important as the values you share

After all, which is more important:

  • He likes the exact same music / movies you do?
  • He wants to travel to the same places you do?
  • He likes to party like you do?

OR

  • He loves music in general and exploring new groups
  • He enjoys the novelty of visiting new locations
  • He enjoys being fun and social

The second group is obviously more important than the first. They reflect more reasonable and realistic compatibility.

It's an attitude that will last through your relationship. Long after the sparkle of infatuation has disappeared.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 3: Make sure you're both on board with the money

The most common area of compatibility that splits couples up is their attitude towards money.

If you don't share a similar attitude about your financial situation, it's easy to build up resentment for your partner. Most marriages end because of disagreements around financial decisions.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 4: Celebrate each other's freedom

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Feels good...

One of the most unlikely areas of compatibility is your individual freedom. The more freedom you feel within your relationship, the more affection and patience you will have.

Freedom within the relationship is especially important for man. Not so that he can step out on you, but so that he can feel his independence. Most women go in the other direction which is why she tends to smother him and scare him away.

Smothering your man is one of those (accidental) mistakes that women make from fear of losing him.

The more trust and space you allow him, the more likely he is to willingly keep pursuing you. The less freedom he has, the more he will doubt his emotions and feelings for you.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 5: It's how you complement each other

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You're a perfect fit.

Instead of focusing on how many things you share, take a look at how well you fit together.

  • Do you have the same goals for creating a family together?
  • You find inspiration from learning from each other? Sharing interesting ideas together?
  • Is conversation easy between you? A two-way street?

You sense that your partner always has your best interest in mind? They want what's best for you more than almost anything else?

Almost everyone in the world dreams of sharing their future with a person that matches them in some way.

Forget the old rules and instead focus on what really matters in your relationships.

How compatible are YOU?

Would you like to find out?

I've got a weird quiz that can tell you more about your relationship - and whether you're really right for each other.

This quiz works because it looks at YOU and whether you are going to be compatible with most men.

You see, guys are almost universally similar in what they want in a woman. If you understand what he wants, you can be compatible with any guy you want!

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For most women, the first time you kiss a guy is important, because it's the first intimate contact you have with him. Let's talk about how to kiss a guy - and how to make him crazy for you when you do!

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Let's get real here - you're probably not a beginner. But you do want him to think you're a good kisser.

And kissing a guy isn't always intuitive. Especially when so many guys don't kiss well in the first place.

Ultimately, you can get him to fall in love with you simply by kissing a man the right way. You just need some basics to understand what a guy is thinking about you in that make-out session.

All women have questions about how to kiss a man the right way - or they want some kind of "rule book" for how to kiss a guy. You may have even wondered:

  • How do you kiss a guy for the first time?
  • What is the best type of kiss?
  • What should you NOT do when kissing him?
  • How to get a guy to kiss you?

Let's break this down and show you exactly how to kiss a guy.

Kiss Guys Secret #1: Make sure you use more than just your lips

The one thing a man wants to know is that his partner is really into the kiss. He doesn't want to feel like you're checking out for not really there.

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He's looking for sincerity.

One of the first techniques you can use is to use your mouth and lips to express a little passion. Sure, your lips are Making a connection with his, but you can also move your head and face a little.

As it happens, this is also a good tactic for when he's not good at kissing or is a bit awkward. You can guide him with your body language and how you move with him.

  • You can put your hands on the back of his neck
  • You can use your fingers on his ear or on his earlobes
  • Run your fingers through his hair
  • Tickle the nape of his neck
  • You can even put a hand on his collarbone. This is very erotic on one level, and allows you to push away from him when you're ready to end the kiss as well.

How To Kiss a Man Secret #2: Use your eyes

Opening your eyes while you're kissing and making a little eye contact is extremely sexy to guys. A guy wants to know that you're there with him. And you don't have someone else on your mind.

So occasionally opening your eyes and letting him catch you can really spice up your kissing techniques.

Occasionally scanning his face in between kisses is a great idea.

Kissing a Guy Secret #3: Use your tongue effectively

Perhaps one of the most important kissing tips I can give you is to really develop your French kiss ability. Very few people kiss like they're on a 1950s television show. We all get into it in our own way.

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Not everyone enjoys a French kiss. Some people are grossed out, and there are many reasons for taking your time with this kind of intimate contact.

But for most people, a passionate kiss is one that involves an exchange of contact between your mouths.

Your tongue is one of the more powerful erogenous zones. There are a ton of nerve endings in and around the mouth.

So you need to use your tongue effectively.

Simply knowing when to use the tip to tease him - or to surprise him with a lick of his lips - will make him hot with anticipation. Your tongues can create their own conversation between you.

It's an exchange of romantic energy. And the sensation will leave him weak in the knees if you do it correctly.

Think of it like a snake charm dance. You're creating romance and intimacy simply with a confident process of dancing with your mouths.

Kissing a Guy Secret #4: It's all about the pressure

Knowing how to calibrate the pressure and force that you use in your kisses is a skill that will separate you from the amateurs.

Don't press too hard with your lips. You don't want to crush his jaw or chin with aggressive "mashing."

And lips are fairly sensitive, so delicate pressure is best. If he's kissing too hard, it's probably because of his desire. Your reaction is simply to pull back a little and turn down the intensity.

A man's kiss is rarely soft. So it's up to you to keep the kissing as soft and light as you like them.

Kissing a Guy Secret #5: Be ready for the kiss

This may sound like an obvious tip, but you want to be soft and desirable for him to kiss. One of the best ways you can do this is to make sure you put on a good layer of lip balm discreetly by the end of the date.

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The more sparkly and supple your lips look, the better.

Try not to use a lipstick that is too vivid or looks to perfect. It sounds strange but he will be less likely to want to kiss you. He won't want to ruin how you look. And let's face it it can get a little messy.

Of course, you also want to make sure your breath is fresh.

Pop in a piece of gum or a breath mint, like an Altoid or similar. You can even park it in your mouth until the big moment happens.

Yeah, avoid onions and garlic if you want to be fresh to his nose.

And also make sure your teeth are as clean as they can be. I know a lot of women that carry a toothbrush with them all the time, just in case of a particularly messy meal. Don't forget to brush your tongue.

Which leads us to the next Tip -

Kissing a Guy Secret #6: Know how to use your teeth

Of course you don't want to bite his tongue, or leave any serious marks on him. But you should be aware that a little nibble on his earlobe, or even a tug is powerful.

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Some parts of a man's body are exceptional erotic zones. You can show affection, or really turn him on with your technique.

I even had a woman bite my cheek and put her teeth on my throat - gently of course. I would not recommend use that one right off the bat, but it shows that there's a place for everything. Especially if you want to master the art of kissing a guy.

Kissing a Guy Secret #7: Know the DON'Ts

of course with any method, you have to know some of the things you don't want to do at the same time. Sometimes the intensity of a make out session gets a little bit much and you can lose control.

1.Don't leave a hickey.

This probably goes without saying if you're over the age of 25, but I want to remind women to be careful about how much suction they use when kissing a man's skin. You don't want to leave any public marks that could be an embarrassment to him. Hickeys aren't cool after high school.

2. Know how to pull back before it gets too hot.

Again you might get into it and not realize that your kissing partner is now wanting a little bit more. Even a slight grinding of the hips could make him ready for sex. Know what your limit is before you have to kill the mood - and the fun you're having.

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If there's one thing that will ruin your chances for a relationship it's misleading him or teasing him and then having to assert your boundaries back in again.

3. Don't use too much saliva

I can imagine this might already seem a bit gross, but one of the basics is to make sure you don't get too sloppy with your kissing. It's a classic teenager mistake that will make it look like you have no real kissing experience.

4. Do your best to warm up and not feel cold to the touch.

What I mean here is to warm up your hands and even your lips before you go for the kiss. The colder you feel, the more it will steal energy from your kiss.

5. Don't peck him on the cheek.

If you have any romantic interest in him, avoid giving him a peck on the cheek. Even if you do feel attraction for him, he will interpret this as you brushing him off.

A man needs lots of strong signals from you to believe there's a chance at becoming a couple. A quick kiss on the cheek sends the "just friends" message.

6. Don't kiss like you're one of THOSE high school girls.

And what I'm talking about here are one of those girls who uses kissing as a means to an end. There were always the girls in my high school who were clever and manipulative - even with their kisses.

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A guy wants to feel that you're genuinely there and into the kiss, or he will not come back for more. Make the kiss feel as heartfelt as you can.

7. Don't wear too much makeup

This is similar to the advice about lipstick. You don't want a guy to feel like he's "ruining" something by kissing you.

Go light on the makeup if you want him to feel comfortable moving in for the kiss. And you also don't want to leave makeup on his clothes in the process.

Kissing a Guy Secret #8: Manage the height difference

If you're dating a tall guy and there's a large height difference, try and help set him up to make the kiss work. Standing up on the step, and even tilting your head position, will give him the sense that his kiss is welcome.

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You can even go up on your toes to make it easier.

However, if he's shorter than you, well... that's another topic entirely. Chances are, you're not interested or excited by a guy who can't match your height.

Kissing a Guy Secret #9: Know the other kisses

Don't forget that there are many ways to lead up to the kiss as well. Rubbing your nose with his - sometimes called an Eskimo kiss - is a fun way to lead up to the real kiss.

If you want to start his heart pounding, one of your best options is to ask him if he knows what butterfly kisses are. Most guys don't, and this is a great opportunity for you.

A butterfly kiss is when you flutter your eyelashes against his. Or even against his cheek. The sensation is subtle, but extremely effective. (And pretty arousing, I have to admit.)

You can send him an air kiss across the table to send a signal that you're ready for the real thing after dessert.

Kissing a Guy Secret #10: Use hesitation

Effectively used, pausing before you make contact - and knowing when to break contact - is an important part of good kissing.

Of course, this should start with a very slow beginning. The slower the start of the kiss goes, the better the rest tends to go. Don't rush in to make the kiss.

A slow build is extremely effective. And it's one of the best bits of advice I can give you. Pause every so often to build up the passion again.

After the kiss has started, it's nice for a guy to have the woman pull back and maintain this pace. It keeps the kiss from turning into foreplay, and gives each person a chance for enjoyment.

Kissing a Guy Secret #11: Hands! Hands!

Knowing what to do with your hands during your kiss is also an important part of the action. Depending on the direction you want to go, it's important to know where to use your hands. There is a whole layer of communication going on based simply on where you put your hands.

Slipping your hands off the back of his shirt sends a completely different message than keeping your hands on his waist.

Kissing a Guy Secret #12: Relax - and do it...

For a man to feel like this is comfortable and welcome, nothing says this more than low or no tension in your body. If you're feeling any anxiety or too much nervousness, make sure you find a way to relax during the kiss.

If you're in doubt whether or not you're attracted to him, it's better to delay the kiss then take the feelings with each other.

Kissing a Guy Secret #13: What if he's a shy guy...?

Some women find that the guy she's dating is on the shy side. And then she wonders if she should kiss him first.

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Here's another thought on this: If you initiated the first kiss, how would you ever know he desired you? That he really wanted a relationship with you?

The answer is: you wouldn't. Which is why you can give him all the opportunity in the world, but you should not be the one making the first kiss happen.

If a man doesn't have enough confidence to kiss you on his own, he would not give you a happy sex life. Or make you feel safe and protected.

It might seem charming at first, but it would grow old really quick.

Kissing a Guy Secret #14: Drop the rules

Ultimately when you're going for the kiss, you can let instincts take over. It's only when you're feeling really nervous that you have to think about rules and tricks like this.

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Kissing comes naturally for most people. More than likely, you've already created your own kissing style. And there's no perfect way to kiss.

Anyone can find a way to kiss that communicates their emotions. The further you get into a relationship situation, the less you need to worry about your kissing skills, after all.

"Kissing is simply another form of connection. It's a physical connection."

And there are many ways to create a connection with a man. Kissing is the easiest; knowing how to connect with him is probably the hardest.

If you'd like to learn more about connecting with men, you should know how men connect with women.

If you don't understand how men connect, it's like having the wrong charger cord for your phone. You'll never create a lasting connection that way.

Go take a look at this article on how to connect with men...

Discover The Secrets Of A Loving, Committed, & Unbreakable Relationship With The Man You Love.

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It's tricky enough talking to people in person, but what if you want to start a conversation on dating apps? How do you do it?

After all there are a crazy number of apps out there for your phone, and even websites for those of you dating on your computer. Online dating is a huge time-suck, too. So you gotta know the right questions to ask and what to say!

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Creating attraction and connection using dating apps...

Which app are you using?

  • Tinder?
  • Hinge?
  • Bumble?
  • HER?
  • Match.com?
  • BLK?
  • The Sauce?
  • Victoria?
  • Thursday?
  • Happn?

I could go on and on with this list. But the truth is that no matter what dating app you're using, your conversation starters are pretty much the same no matter which one.

Let's run through a few quick tips for how to start a conversation on a dating app…

Conversation Tip #1: Use the profile

The best way to connect with someone is always using information you know. Start with his bio, and then look for something about his personality for his interests. The best conversation starter is a question about his life.

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Use the information you do have...

If you need any proof of this, just take a look at your own life. I'm sure you would respond positively to a message asking you about your own life or hobbies.

The beauty of these apps are that a woman has information and material she can use to connect with him. It's all in his profile information that he added.

Starting Conversations - Tip #2: Remember the first impression

Make sure your first message to him is kind and positive. Everyone wants more positive messages coming in these days so make sure to avoid sarcasm and keep your focus on the positive details.

We always remember that first encounter with someone. Make your first impression powerful.

Conversation Tip #3: Use the dog

If you see a picture with him and his dog, call attention to that. Compliment the dog if you can. Even ask what the dog's name is.

If you're a dog owner, you know that you give a positive response to anyone who shows interest in your pet.

Way To Start Conversations Tip #4: Reference something in common

The best thing you can do to start out with is to find something you have in common with him.

Sometimes it's a mention of a show on Netflix. Sometimes it's a book he mentions. Maybe even a song he was listening to on Spotify recently.

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Take every opportunity to point out something you share with him.

Conversation Starts Tip #5: Use every bit of information you possibly can

But it probably goes without saying that you must use every little advantage you can. Which means look for things in his photos, his job, any random quote, ANY topics you can come up with from what you see in his profile.

Be on the alert for anything in his pictures that gives you an idea for conversation openers.

Nothing is off-limits here. And make sure you Google anything you find in his profile that you don't recognize or understand.

Guys will appreciate the effort you put in to starting smart conversations.

Conversation on Dating Sites Tip #6: Remember your first goal - chemistry

if you want this guy to crush on you and feel attraction for you, make sure that is in the back of your mind at all times.

Many women forget that the best way to do this is to make sure the fun starts immediately. That means fun messages, humor you sprinkle in, and demonstrating your confidence.

Staring a Conversation Tip #7: Forgive the pick-up lines

A lot of guys have read from the dating experts and the pickup artists. So he may be a bit transparent with his conversation openers.

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He's trying...

Be forgiving, because most men are very shaky when it comes to dating conversation. The opening line he uses to start chatting you up Is simply because he lacks confidence in himself. He feels under pressure to make something happen. So he might use lame compliments, or some other technique to initiate conversation with you.

Guys find their courage in a known technique. And that's why he might use it on you to get things moving forward. You might roll your eyes at this, but it's not necessary to eliminate him for giving it his best shot.

Initiating a Conversation Tip #8: Remember, everything leads to love

When all is said and done, whatever you had to deal with to just start talking with him will be worth it. You will look back on how you met as an amusing story.

But right now it might seem like there are plenty of reasons to throw in the towel as you trying to start conversations with guys. Don't get caught up in it.

Yeah, it's frustrating. There are hundreds of ways that you guys might fail to make a connection. But don't let one of those ways be pessimism or being in a hurry to quit and tell your friends that it “just didn't work.”

Starting a Conversation Tip #8: Curiosity Is The Start Of A Relationship

The easiest way to start a conversation is using your curiosity. For example, knowing the reason behind a favorite music playlist of The Village People will help you start more conversations on dating apps than sharing a picture of your dessert on Instagram.

Asking him what's on his reading list will generate more banter then hoping he gives you a compliment about the dress you're wearing in your profile.

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Being curious is a great place to start...

Simple cues to trigger fun curiosity are the name of the game when you're getting to know each other...

For example:

  • Find out why he's such a football fanatic, even if you're not a fan
  • Asking him why he switched from snowboarding to skiing
  • Find about why he moved to that city in Texas
  • Asking him why he chose a career in travel
  • Finding out the stories behind a shirt he's wearing in one of the images he posted

There is literally no end to initiating conversations when you plug into your curiosity.

Dating Conversation Starters Tip #9: Take your chances, take a risk

Don't be afraid of sending him an answer that is a little edgy. Take a chance.

It's a greater failure to not awaken his interest then it is to occasionally lose a man's interest by not standing out.

And standing out is what makes a woman seem confident. Yet so few women take this chance.

Starting a Conversation Tip #10: Be prepared with a little copy paste

Hey, if you come up with a few good choices to start dating app conversations, keep them on your phone or on your computer. Ready to copy and paste again if need be.

Why should you constantly have to reinvent the wheel? There are no rules. And you need to keep this online dating conversation stuff from feeling like work, or you will eventually burn out.

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There is no harm in falling back on a few scripted words and answers to help your success rate.

Don't feel like you have to be original every single time. I guarantee you that many guys are also reusing some of their chat thoughts and the occasional comment.

Save your energy for when the relationship starts.

Right now you are strangers.

Go ahead and reuse a sentence here or there, or some of your dialogue. If it makes you feel better, switch a few words around to make you feel more original.

Just having a convenient list of questions to ask will remove a lot of anxiety from your online conversations and texts.

Starting a Conversation Tip #11: Keep It Simple!

When it comes right down to it, we usually overthink these things.

Talking to a friend is always easy. Why? Because we feel our familiarity is established and we have nothing to worry about.

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Relax... And have fun!

But isn't that true of any conversation?

A stranger becomes an acquaintance after only one short conversation. So just keep it simple.

If you're having trouble finding the right thing to say, just use something simple. This is where small talk came from. It gives us an easy way to dig in to the deeper conversation.

After all, we can't start right out talking about deep philosophy and politics right away.

(Actually, I would recommend you never talk about politics until you have a relationship established. But that's another article...)

You can start out a conversation with something like:

  • "Hey, what kind of dog do you have?" (If you saw a dog in his picture)
  • "What do you do to keep busy on Sundays?"
  • "Hey Mark, I'm Denise..."

Sometimes just a simple introduction like that last one is all you need.

Starting a Conversation Tip #12: Get Some History

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What's his story?

One of the easiest things for us to talk about is our past. You can just ask a question about his history to find out more about him and open him up.

  • Where are you from?
  • Where did you grow up?
  • How long have you lived in Boston?

You can ask him where he went to school, what part of the country he grew up in, etc.

Starting a Conversation Tip #13: Avoid compliments

The truth is that compliments are nice, but flattery shouldn't be the way to start your conversation. Some people are very sensitive to this and you could turn them off right away.

Avoid openers like this:

  • You look great in that shirt
  • I bet you work out a lot
  • You're so handsome in that suit

Trust me that you don't want the kind of guy that would respond to immediate flattery. More than likely you'd end up with a closet narcissist.

Starting a Conversation Tip #14: Stay With Common Ground

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What do you have in common?

One of the best ways to have a conversation with a guy is to touch on his hobbies. Ask him about:

  • Movies
  • Netflix shows
  • Video games (if you're into them)
  • Music

Common ground is always effective because it immediately establishes a connection between you and him.

The more you can demonstrate that you have things in common, the more compatible he will feel with you. He will know that it won't just be a shallow relationship.

Which, by the way, is why many men pull away from a relationship. He seems to retreat to a friends with benefits relationship when he doesn't see much more potential than friends between you.

If you'd like to know more ways to create a real connection with a man, you need to know his connection code.

A man's connection code is the specific set of ways that you can reach his heart.

It's like unlocking a combination lock. And each man has a specific way to open up to you.

The good news is, there are a fixed set of "connection codes."

If you'd like to discover these codes, go watch my presentation here...

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It can be tricky to admit you're wrong. BUT if you made a mistake, you need to know how to apologize to your boyfriend (or your husband).

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It's hard to admit it...

It's an essential skill for any woman that finds herself needing to make amends.

After all, anyone can make a mistake or act out of impulse and say the wrong thing.

But it's much more important to heal the hurt feelings and the relationship with your partner. It's tempting to say something in anger, and then stick to your guns because you don't want to be wrong.

But ultimately you could ruin a relationship by NOT giving him an apology. Words of forgiveness can mean everything to him.

And it's also the fastest way to end your fight!

Right here, I'll show you some tips for how to apologize to your boyfriend.

Your situation may be different in some ways, but you should search your heart for ways to forgive each other.

Yes, even if it's not your fault and you didn't make a mistake, you don't want to regret not reaching out to at least try to fix the problem.

If he's done something genuinely awful, then of course you should definitely NOT apologize for that. However, if you know you're in the wrong, you have to put your ego aside.

Sure, it can be as easy as saying you're "sorry," but you also don't want to appear like you have no remorse or you don't mean it.

There are a lot of mistakes you can make while you're apologizing. I'm going to help you with the words and action to help you regain his trust.

And, seeing as I'm a man, I can help you with the right words and phrases that will send the right message to him.

So let's dig into a few tips to help you get that apology out.

FIRST: The best place to begin is to figure out where you are with him right now.

  • Have you just had an argument or disagreement?
  • Is he cold and distant?
  • Did you send him a text and got nothing back?
  • Are your emotions still raw and tender?
  • Are things so bad that you need to see a counselor or therapist?

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Wherever you are starting from, take a moment to really consider your situation. Wherever you are starting from, simply resolve to let go of your own hurt first. Because if you're just seeking an apology from him with your own apology, you could come across as being cold.

From here you can take the steps to open up communication and get back to being a couple. But you have to be willing to look at your own behavior first before you get into making a list of all his faults.

The reason most people let a small argument get out of hand is because of pride. It's tempting to try to get satisfaction by squeezing an “I'm sorry” out of him. But no one will really benefit if you're just looking to install guilt at the first opportunity.

To make a relationship work you both have to be willing to make amends and admit your part in the disagreement.

Of course this always starts with you.

If he's not admitting his own problems and just gives you excuses, your problem might not be in the apology. It might have to do with your partner's attitude towards relationships.

But let's stay focused on what YOU can do right now.

How To Apologize to Your Boyfriend - TIP 1: Seek first to understand his position.

There's an old saying that goes:

“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

Which simply means that if you are more focused on getting him to see your point of view and your perspective, you could risk pushing him even further away.

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Patience and understanding...

Healing the rift between you may require some growth on both your parts. If you're still stuck in your blame, apologies won't do much for you. So you've got to be patient.

Once you understand his position, then you can start to work on getting him to see your point of view.

So pay attention to what he says he's feeling. The more you know about why he's angry or disconnected, the easier it will be for you to fix the situation.

It takes a lot for man to communicate his emotions. You may even have to ask his friends to really find out what he's feeling and what pain he's going through. (Just be delicate.)

To be honest, most men experience that a woman has an emotional reaction, which then shuts out talking about his feelings. And of course men are more likely to retreat into silence, where he can feel comfort and safety. So he won't always speak up.

Which now leads us to…

How To Apologize to Your Boyfriend - TIP 2: Just because he's distant doesn't mean he's leaving!

Very often a woman will panic and think that a man's distance means he is leaving the relationship. Or that he's falling out of love.

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Give him space.

In reality, his process of getting over your fight simply means he will turn inward - toward himself - while he figures it out. Just because he's quiet doesn't mean he isn't thinking over what happened. Or thinking about his responsibility in the relationship.

Most men become very reasonable after their emotions calm down. And yours calm as well!

So when a man disconnects after an argument, he may not be leaving you. But you should check your instincts just in case. You don't want to ignore the distance either.

Stay cool, stay patient. But keep a close eye on him just the same!

TIP 3: Make sure you are cool and composed

You don't want to go back to him with a lot of heated emotions. You gotta stay calm, cool, and collected.

This is the one thing that will not change his mind: If he thinks you are trying to smooth everything over just to get him to like you again.

The last thing you want to do is go apologize to him and then slip into anger and blame all over again and reopen the old wound.

Your intentions are to face and let go of your own pain is much as you can. This way he will pick up on your willingness to heal the wounds and reestablish your intimacy.

HINT: Your apology should focus on him, not on you. The last thing you want to do is start your apology with: “I'm sorry … but you made me do this!” NOT a good way to make him forgive you.

All he's going to hear is that you're not taking responsibility, and his frustration will return. (And probably another argument.)

By staying as relaxed as you can, he will also keep his cool. This will keep him open to you - and get him talking as well.

And then, after he feels like he's been heard, you can delicately begin to address anything that you may still feel hurt about.

TIP 4: Review the damage

Spend some time with your journal and review what happened.

Very often you lose perspective of how your argument may have crossed boundaries or hurt your mutual respect.

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Introspection...

Take a moment to reflect on the words that were said.

  • Is it possible you misheard or misinterpreted him?
  • Is it possible you were blinded by some emotional panic and you couldn't hear him?
  • Is the issue a difference of opinion?
  • What do you think his reasons were for what he said?

Really take a look at the statements each of you made. It's possible you jumped to a response which made it hard for you two to hear each other.

And make sure you review what he said to you that you may not have heard completely the first time. Chances are he gave you plenty of clues as to what's really bothering him.

One of the best ways you can turn the damage into a stronger relationship is by simply explaining where you're coming from.

Explain to him why you have the reaction you did. Tell him why you said the wrong thing or did the wrong thing.

Helping him understand you is how to apologize to your boyfriend without having to say you're sorry.

TIP 5: Be careful of makeup sex

This may seem a little bit out-of-place, but be very careful about jumping back into bed with him too quickly.

It's very tempting to get back to physical intimacy so you can feel like a couple again. Don't rush it. If you don't solve the situation that got you here, you'll probably find yourself here again.

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It can be fun, BUT...

Once you feel the relief that comes with dropping your intense emotions, your apology might not serve much more than a way to rush into physical intimacy again.

Even if you know how to apologize to your boyfriend, if you don't get to the core of your conflict, the truth is it could come up again and again.

Be on your guard against jumping into sex too quickly. It might feel like a relief, like you healed something, but this tactic could backfire on you.

TIP 6: Switch over to gratitude and appreciation

The fact is that it's nearly impossible to have an argument with someone that you are feeling gratitude for.

If you're appreciating your boyfriend or husband, it's hard to keep up the tension. You have a different tone of voice, and you will communicate with much more warmth and empathy.

That's why I encourage you to express your feelings of gratitude in your conversation when you apologize to him. A simple statement of how much he means to you is a big deal. It can really shake a guy back into remembering that it doesn't matter who is more right.

The priority is healing the damage.

TIP 7: Use touch with your loved one

One of the best ways to open the door to love again is to use some touch to reconnect with him.

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The healing power of touch...

It can be difficult, but if you can put aside your anger and frustration to give him a quick hug, or a small amount of touch, you can bring the emotions back down.

Men are especially responsive to a woman's touch. It helps bring his heated emotions back down to room temperature.

Try placing your hand on his arm or on his back at some point. Reconnecting physically will also reconnect you emotionally.

TIP 8: Should you say you're sorry with a gift?

Of course you could get him a small gift as a token of apology. But gifts often lack sincerity.

I recommend staying away from purchased gifts as a way to say you're sorry. It doesn't feel genuine. They also don't take any real effort.

And they can seem like bribery.

Think of how you might've felt if your man bought you a gift as a way to soothe the anger. Most women can smell this as manipulation instead of remorse.

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A small token...

If you want to get him a gift, you want to pair it with words of affection. Keep the gift small and sentimental.

For example, if he likes cars, maybe get him a small hot wheels version of his favorite sports car. It's fun, inexpensive, and it's an expression of a bigger statement that you “get” him.

Even better, if you can tie your gift to your apology. You could add a note with the car gift: “You make my motor run, and my heart is always hot for you…”

Corny? Maybe.

But that's the kind of thing that the best apologies are often made of.

TIP 9: Actions speak louder than words

The best kind of apology is the one that shows him the promise and benefits of your new level of character.

We all know that anybody can say they are sorry, but it's rare to see someone make a change for the better. It's this kind of action that will speak volumes to him.

He really needs to know that you intend to make some changes.

Step up to the plate and show him those changes. Show him that you're a better girlfriend than you used to be.

If he really means something to you, and you want to make it work, demonstrate your commitment.

TIP 10: Consider counseling or therapy - but…

You should consider bringing in a professional if it will help you get past any of the issues in your relationship.

But only as a last resort!

You want to go here only if you know he is willing to work on the relationship this seriously. Treatment doesn't usually help if you have a hostile partner that isn't ready to dig into the relationship issues.

He has to have a huge commitment to your love to begin with.

The problem with most professional counseling is that the couple seeks it out way too late. Which is the reason that it rarely works to heal a relationship.

Just remember the both of you have to be equally committed to the hard work. Without it, resentment will usually outweigh the good feelings.

TIP 11: Be careful with your texting

When you're communicating with a guy using electronic methods - texting or email, typically - you're more likely to want to use that method to avoid the discomfort and awkwardness of face-to-face communication.

You might think that you can send your apology in text.

Certainly, you CAN do this, but is it a good idea? Usually, it's not.

Why?

First of all you don't get to see his expression, or read his body language. Which is critical for you to make sense of his behaviors. If he responds in anger or in some other manner, how would you know?

And how would you adjust your message?

Second, in a text you can't answer his questions with your emotional energy. Sometimes words on the screen are just not enough to communicate your feelings. There is no tone in texts.

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And third, if you do make up, don't you want to be there to hold him and share your affection?

If you do decide to use texting to send him an apology, you want to send something like this:

"Hey babe. I'm really sorry for how I behaved yesterday. I've had some time to cool down. Look, you don’t deserve that kind of treatment. I'm going to spend some serious time working on understanding why I lash out and change my behavior."

Be very careful about promising that you will “never do it again.” This can sound like an empty promise. And if you are talking about a behavior that you fall back on a lot, you may be making a promise you just can't keep.

Keep the text sincere and simple. And then follow it up with a face-to-face conversation.

If you chicken out and do it only in text, he may not believe you. You've got to check in and make sure he's hearing you and believing you.

TIP 12: Get Working On Solutions

If you had a fight, or a disagreement, and you know you want to apologize - then you need to also work on solving the problem that came up. Especially if he came up with some legitimate concerns that you need to address.

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Recognize your patterns.

Yes, this means a little bit of work. But unless you want to keep apologizing every week for behaviors you won't control, you have to get to work on them.

Relationship problems don't solve themselves.

That may go without saying, but most couples act as if their problems will just magically disappear over time.

Let's put it this way - relationships that break up typically follow this pattern:

  • Everything starts out great...
  • Eventually there is a disagreement or argument
  • There is an apology from one or both people just to get back to the love...
  • If the cause of the fight isn't fixed, it repeats
  • and eventually the relationship breaks up

Spend a little time thinking about what it would take to change some of the behaviors that are causing the problems. Make small changes each day.

Eventually, you will work through some of your issues. And you'll find unnatural rhythm of forgiveness in your relationship.

When you understand each other well, apologies aren't as necessary anymore.

TIP 13: Commit yourself to working on the relationship

This one goes hand-in-hand with tip # 11. If you have an action plan for making your relationship better, that's the secret for most couples' success.

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Weathering the storm...

Eventually this commitment becomes a kind of faith in each other. If you're just willing to make small improvements every day, you'll find that you become much more secure in your relationship.

Just tell him what you plan to do, whatever solution you came up with from the last step.

  • You might say: “I decided I will stop using those kinds of words because they hurt your feelings.”
  • Or: “I will make a commitment to change my schedule so we can see each other more each week.”

Just tell him exactly what you plan to do and that will often be enough of an apology for him. A man just wants to know that this won't keep repeating over and over again.

The more solutions you can bring to the table, the happier he will be. And the faster you will forgive you.

Every relationship runs into its share of problems.

But if your relationship is on the rocks right now, you may be at risk of losing him.

If he's growing distant or pulling away, it's time to get him back.

Is it too late?

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It's probably pretty obvious but there are things you should never say to a guy. Some things are better left unsaid when all is said and done.

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There is a better way...

One of the questions I ask all of my newsletter subscribers is, "What have you said to a man that you regretted?" And it's one of the most popular emails I send out, because I almost always get a response.

We've all said something in a relationship that we regretted. And we wish we could take it back.

I'm in saving you some of the trouble right now by helping you understand a few of the things you never want to say to a man.

Don't say this to him: “It's no big deal. It happens to everyone.”

Of course we're referring to the inevitable failure in bed. Which is one thing a man doesn't want to experience. He never wants to let you down.

We know your heart is in the right place when you say this, but it is still a huge blow to a man's ego to fail in this one department. Everything a man feels about his own masculinity can be destroyed in a moment when he just can't get it up.

And when a woman tries to brush this embarrassing event aside quickly to avoid the discomfort and awkwardness, the comment doesn't land well in his brain.

Instead, focus on giving him physical affection and attention.

Chances are he's just anxious about performing. And once his thinking gets out of the way, his feelings can come to the front.

And everything will rise after that.

Don't say this to him: “What's the big deal? It's just a game.”

To you, he might seem like he's getting excited over nothing. After all it's just a football game, right?

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You don't need to always understand...

But to him it's a lot more than that. And if his girlfriend or wife tries to squash his expression of excitement and enthusiasm, he feels like he's being scolded like a little boy.

As a counselor, I often see women that do this because she's uncomfortable with a man's powerful emotional expression.

It can be frightening to a woman who may not see the emotional side of him very often.

His emotions might come out as anger, or exuberance. A lot of men's emotions express with a lot of power.

Many women try to manage a guys emotions to avoid the "bad ones" and bring out the "good" ones.

Or, she might be jealous of the fact that he responds emotionally to his sports but not her. (I've had to counsel many couples who get into a fight because that's how the woman wants to feel that he has feelings for her in the relationship - as much as his football or basketball.)

Just realize that to him it's a big deal. The same way it's a big deal to you when a woman makes a sly, sassy comment about you or your appearance.

Don't say this to him: “You have to choose  between __  or  __ .”

You may not recognize it, but this is a form of ultimatum. You're making him choose between two things, which may not be mutually exclusive. Meaning that on their own they don't need to push each other out of your relationship.

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Don't set yourself up to fail.

Sometimes a woman get so fed up with her situation that she just declares that he has to choose between her or something that seems to be pushing her away. Maybe it's his Sunday afternoon football, or his mom, or the car he's fixing up in the garage.

It's important to note that even if you get him to choose you over the other thing, you will only create resentment. You don't want a boyfriend that gives up something he loves because it seems to be taking time away from you.

Much better is if you can become part of his hobbies and interests. There is space and room for everything in relationships.

Be very careful about making an ultimatum in your communication. He will not hear that message well.

Things to never say to him: “Does this __ make me look fat?”

That could be your outfit, your jeans, your yoga pants, whatever.

Whatever you feel uneasy about, don't put him in the middle of your internal insecurity conversation.

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It's a trap!

Make up your mind about how you feel about your own weight first. Then decide if you care about it, or if his opinion will really make you feel better.

Every woman has moments where she feels a little insecure. Do your best not to pass that moment on to him.

This also goes for any time you ask the question “Do you think she's pretty?” It's a no win situation, and you're setting him up to fail.

Things to NEVER say to a guy: “Your friend is so cool…”

Under no circumstances should you compliment his friends much the first time you meet them. You can say they are "interesting" or "cool" as a group. But don't ever pick one out as a favorite, or that you may have even found attractive. (Oh, yeah. C'mon! It happens!)

Later on you can tell him that you like Steve or Joe or Gary. But initially he will be very insecure about you leaving him for another man. He won't say it, but he will be highly sensitive to it.

Yes, men can be very insecure about their own status. His friends are best to just hang out with and demonstrate that you're just a cool friend.

And if he asks you what you think of one of his friends, he may be kind of setting you up. Just say you like them all, kind of matter of fact.

That's your safest bet.

Things to never say to a guy: Comparing him to your ex boyfriend. (or husband)

Here is another minefield that you must never get into.

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Totally different things...

Comparing a man is like questioning his status and value.

Again, just imagine if you compare you to one of his exes. It would be painful.

No man wants to think that he has to measure up to someone else's example. He wants to believe that you picked him for his unique qualities.

As always, if you find yourself comparing him to someone else, try and figure out what you think doing this to him would accomplish. Just ask yourself if you think what you're about to say will make the change you want.

Or are you just acting out of frustration because you're refusing to let go of a relationship that you probably shouldn't be in?

Yes that's going to sound harsh, but it's usually the reason that women find themselves in these verbally heated relationships. If you find yourself using violent communication, that it's very likely the anger isn't so much with him as it is with your situation.

Simply resolve to fix it and move on.

Never say to a man: Any retaliation in order to hurt him.

In the emotional heat of an argument or conversation with a guy, you may feel the urge to lash out at your partner.

Maybe he said something really insensitive. Have you ever said something like that to a friend of yours? Of course you have.

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But the point here is that YOU must stay in control and keep your reason at all times. It is brutally easy to take the cheap shot and insult his masculinity or some other part about him that you know he's sensitive about.

(You don't just bruise his ego when this happens. You plant a seed of resentment and contempt.)

And if you do let yourself take the cheap insult, that's one of the ways that you destroy your bond and he will run for the safety of another relationship.

Never say this to a guy: ANY insult in public

If you've ever felt so frustrated with him that you needed to speak "your truth" in public about him, you're not alone.

But I'm also not saying that's a good idea.

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Imagine how you'd feel if it were you.

Just like being careless with your words in private, the number one thing you can say to a guy that will turn him into a silent ticking time-bomb is if you insult him in front of other people.

He may even let you get away with it. But ultimately, he will leave you. Because you've demonstrated he can't trust you to help him keep up his self image.

He will never feel safe around you again. One harsh word of insult destroys months of connection building.

Trust me when I tell you this is one of those lines you never want to cross!

Never tell a guy this: “You should get back to the gym.”

Enough said here. For the same reason I'm sure you would never want to hear him say this to you either.

Never say this to a man: No heavy conversation in text!

This one is a rule that is being broken every single day by countless men and women everywhere. You use your smartphone as an intimacy communicator.

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Lost in the shuffle...

And sometimes you may even want to have a war of words with someone. Mostly because it's less confrontational and uncomfortable for you to use texts instead of face-to-face communication.

But you should resist this temptation to take the quick and easy way out. Texting will make your emotional message misunderstood, in all likelihood.

Even if you're only telling him information, or asking him about an emotional topic, you should NEVER do this in a text message.

Inevitably one of two things will happen:

  1. He will text something to you that sounds hurtful or insensitive
  2. He will text something to you that you misinterpret as hurtful or insensitive

In either situation, you could say that he was baited into it. And so were you!

The biggest problem with texting is that your messages don't carry any subtlety or emotional tone. It's hard to read what's actually going on inside the words you send in a text message.

If you've ever been misunderstood on Twitter or anywhere else online, where no one understood what you are thinking or feeling, then you know what I mean.

Never NEVER ever say this to a man: “Shut up”

You really shouldn't say that to anyone. It's one of the most rude things to say, even when you're doing it jokingly.

This is one phrase that is illegal in my relationship and within my family.

Telling someone to "shut up" is verbal abuse. And you should never tolerate it from anyone else either.

Don't ever say this to a guy: “Your parents are (anything bad)”

Look, I get it, just about everyone knows some parents that suck. There's a bunch of them out there.

However, even if your boyfriend's parents do suck, you should never speak ill of them. There is a deep emotional bond there that transcends the relationship he may have with them.

It's just a general negative way to discuss his mother or father.

If you do have issues, do your best to work through them with him. And, if his parents are really bad, you might want to consider if he is worth having to deal with that for the rest of your life.

Parents can be deal breakers for a girl!

Please never say this to a guy: “We need to talk.”

This is another one of those phrases that immediately activates a man's anxiety. When a man's anxiety is turned on, the most likely response is him ghosting you. Guys just pull away from conversations they don't want to have.

The reason “we need to talk” is so activating is because men feel like they are being called on the carpet. It's like having to answer to his parents all over again.

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Do you really need to talk?

He literally feels like he has to go to court to defend himself in a civil case. And the likely sentence for his crime will probably be: No sex!

That may sound kind of silly to you, but that's precisely the experience a man is having inside.

If you need to have a conversation with them, don't tell him about it in advance. That is not gonna make it any better.

First, ask yourself why you needed to tell him “we need to talk” in advance.

  • Was it to express your own frustration and anger?
  • Was it to subtly imply that you hold the power? The upper hand?
  • Was it to correct him and see if you could get him to apologize?

Whatever the reason, pledge to never use this phrase with him again. The best way to get him to talk to you is to not scare him away before you have that conversation.

And of course, bring up the subject compassionately. When he learns he can feel safe talking to you, then he won't be as likely to run for the hills.

It can be tricky to talk to men without him reacting or withdrawing from you.

You have to know what to say to him to get him to do what you want them to do. Let's be honest, very few women know how to do that.

Words are essential when it comes to communicating with men. So make sure using the right one for the right situation with him.

If you don't, it could mean more distance or even a breakup.

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What is a man thinking when he pulls away from you?

  • Is he thinking about the relationship?
  • Is he thinking about another woman?

What exactly goes through a man's mind when he pulls away from the relationship? That's what were going to investigate here.

The truth is going to surprise you. Very often a woman will assume that when a guy starts putting space in the relationship that he is falling out of love or closing his heart.

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What is he thinking...?

The real reasons that his feelings seem to have changed has to do with the different stages of commitment that a man goes through. Not all guys pull away because they're falling out of love.

However, the unfortunate part is that many times a woman will break the connection because her fear tells her: He is pulling away! Quick - get him back!

The critical part of understanding men and how they handle relationships is knowing that not everything points to a problem.

SECRET #1 About Men That Are Pulling Away: It's more about how YOU respond to him

The truth is that a man can pull away for a variety of reasons. There are things going on in his emotions that he may not have the words to explain. And all you see is the behavior.

One reason men pull away is that it's an instinctual response. This is a behavior that has been going on for hundreds and even thousands of years. All over the world, women have experienced distance in their dating relationships.

Ask any woman and you'll find that she's had this experience of a guy growing distant.

The fact that this is SO common tells us that it's probably a part of every man's masculinity. It's a built-in response!

When men get to the place where they are going to either fall in love with you or move on, he has to retreat for a little while. 

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Poof! He's gone...

Sometimes this might look like ghosting - when he stops text messaging you or disappears.

His silence might even look like unhappiness.

But once he has a question in his mind about committing to you, he will stop and reflect. He has to make a decision about whether or not your relationship will work.

So what a man does is he retreats so that he can stop, focus, and make sense of what's going on.

Anything you say to him it feels like pressure at this point will only make the situation worse. So while he's pulling away to think about your relationship, he's also watching to see how you handle it.

  • Are you going to panic?
  • Are you going to assume this is the end? That heartbreak is up ahead?
  • Will you jump on social media and make a scene?
  • Will you send him 35 text messages to calm down the butterflies in your stomach?
  • Will you immediately jump to conclusions and start analyzing all the problems?
  • Are you going to let low self-esteem freak you out?

Will you have the patience to give him time so he can figure out his feelings?

In a way, when he pulls away it's kind of a test to see if you can handle it. If you become needy or have an insecure reaction, like freaking out in your texts, he may pull back as a way to control his own fears and thoughts.

Hint: one of the best things you can do in your communication is not ask too many questions or look for too many answers. Just keep your own happiness under control. You can't make your boyfriend come back with pressure.

SECRET #2 About Guys That Are Cold & Distant: Men need occasional distance to feel masculine

One of the little-known secrets about men is that we feel a lot of stress being when we're around women too much. Women have the same feeling about men, but women can usually handle it better.

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He needs to BE...

When we're around friends, and people we know, it's different. But when a man is with a woman for too long, he wants to exercise his freedom. He may even want to engage with his hobbies, like playing video games, as an escape from something that isn't naturally comfortable to him.

What he's thinking is that his masculine identity is in jeopardy. It doesn't mean it really is, he just thinks he feels this way. The same way a woman might feel hurt from an innocent question from a man.

What's happening is he may be thinking the intensity of intimacy is too powerful. Men are not equipped to handle too much emotional content.

So when a man cools off, you sense his withdrawal, he has less interest in sex. And what he's doing is seeking more independence from the relationship.

It doesn't mean he wants to leave, mind you. That's the mistake many people make that ruins their chances at becoming a couple.

SECRET #3 About Men That Withdraw: Sometimes he has to get back to his own goals and pursuits

He may not feel like he's on top of his work, or situation with his family, or that he's been giving enough attention to his friends.

He may even have financial issues that have nothing to do with you. He just knows he has to give his own life a bit more focus.

Men are much more about doing and accomplishing. This gives him a feeling of self-worth and shows him that he does matter.

Once he's done taking steps to regain his perspective, he'll be back. You only have to respect his process.

SECRET #4 About A Guy Pulling Away From You: The best strategy is to expect that he WILL pull away.

Right from the very start, you should expect a man to reach a point in the relationship where his instinct will make him withdraw from the relationship.

Just accept this right off the bat.

The reason you want to do this is that it actually probably will happen. And when it does, you don't want to be freaked out or panic.

And if it doesn't happen, in that case there's no harm and no foul, as they say. You were ready for whatever might happen.

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But I can pretty much guarantee you that if he's an independent and normal guy, he will absolutely at some point in your relationship pull away to deal with his own emotions.

The shock to you is that you always think that this is a signal of the end of the relationship. It's NOT!

The interesting fact is that many women pull away in relationships, too. But they do it in a slightly different way.

Some women get their own distance by pushing HIM away!

SECRET #5 About Men That Grow Distant: It's a defense mechanism

Maybe you have an argument with your man. He might think that you're planning to break up with him.

So what does he want to do?

He wants to protect himself. He may pull back just to keep himself safe.

Frequently men pull away to protect themselves and their emotions. Especially if he feels like he's getting in over his head.

And I'll tell you a little secret here: Most men feel incompetent at relationships as compared to women. We don't feel like we are as skilled at dealing with relationship issues.

So you can expect that a man will withdraw when he feels unsafe and needs to protect himself.

SECRET #6 About Men Who Run Away: He's avoiding intimacy and creating self-sabotage

Let's be real here and talk about reality.

There is always a possibility that a man is avoiding an emotional connection with his girlfriend, and self sabotaging to break up. He may do this to avoid a committed relationship with his partner.

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He may be scared...

The truth is though that very few men actually do this. Most men are eager to keep the relationship going.

But the reality is that he may not have the skills to do it. What a man feels attraction, he rarely understands it. He thought he could handle it, but maybe he couldn't.

My best advice for you if you know you're involved with a man like this is to point him towards a therapist. And then you should move on. You could waste half your life trying to fix him.

That's not your job!

SECRET #7 About Guys You Think Are Pulling Away: He's a commitment-phobe who wants to stay single...

This secret is kind of related to the previous one. Sometimes a guy who just wants to be single and enjoy the physical intimacy without the emotional intimacy will simply pull away when he's had enough.

Yes, he is a red flag relationship!

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Warning! Warning!

And if you're fairly sure you're in a relationship with a commitment-phobic guy, LEAVE.

Just walk away!

Don't even attempt to change him or his interests in a relationship. Don't cling or rationalize. Don't make excuses just because you feel insecure without a relationship.

When a man give you the signs that he's not ready, you must move on.

No matter how good of a woman you are, you'll never be good enough for a man who isn't ready.

SECRET #8: Don't doubt yourself

Another easy mistake to make is to lose sight of your own value. You might get the idea that his pulling away is a reflection on you somehow.

When a man pulls away, it's something to do with him.

Sometimes no amount of effort on your part can turn him into a good partner.

As a relationship expert, I've also had my struggles with partners who weren't ready for me. Sometimes that created doubt inside me.

  • Wasn't I good enough?
  • Wasn't I worth loving?

It can be hard to find the right meaning when someone raises your expectations and then leaves you. You have to have a firm grip on your own value.

SECRET #9: Solitude is always better than being in the wrong relationship

If he is pulling away, and he doesn't intend to break up with you, you should remember that clinging to him and hoping he will desire you and chase you is a bit delusional.

It's even better that you remember that you are perfectly fine alone.

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Beauty in grace...

Yes, it's true. There is no need to jump into relationships - or feel like you're "less than" because you're not in one now.

Ironically it's when you remember this - and you start to behave as if you remember this - that he starts to become interested again. He won't feel waves of needy energy.

He may not come back right away, but he will come back MUCH faster than if you try to push him.

SECRET #10: Get a grip on your anxiety

Yes, you heard me right.

Very often when a man pulls away it not only shows how disconnected from you he was in the first place, this also shows you that you were feeling incredibly anxious the whole time anyway.

There are  two primary attachment styles in relationships:

  1. Avoidant - this is the type of style that most men carry. He's more likely to avoid a relationship because of his own emotional issues than a woman would. Men are reluctant to jump too quickly into any relationship.
  2. Anxious - this is the style that most women carry. A woman is more likely to feel hypersensitive about the status of her relationship from moment to moment. Women are more eager to jump into committed relationships.

A woman's natural state is usually 'on alert' to threats against her relationship.

If you think about this in terms of evolution, this makes sense. Most situations that threaten a woman's primary relationship also threatened her survival throughout history. If she didn't have personal protection for her and her children, she wasn't likely to survive.

It's only within the last few hundred years that we've gotten away from this evolutionary model where women can live more independently from men. It's a primary difference between the genders.

And it's only happened in the last 50 years - as compared to hundreds of THOUSANDS of years of evolution.

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So - if you notice your mood fluctuates frequently, you're very hesitant and anxious about your love interest, perhaps even feeling health challenges and fears of abandonment…

If you notice these signs and red flags, there's a good chance you have relationship anxiety. And you probably have an anxious attachment style in relationships.

Insecurity is a challenge for many women. 

If you notice this pattern in your own relationships, seek out a counselor or therapist. It's the fastest way to get past this problem.

Because the truth is that this will haunt you in every single relationship you have until you take care of it.

There are no shortcuts. There is no way to fool a man into thinking you got yourself together if you don't.

Confidence is much easier to gain than you might imagine.

A high level of relationship anxiety is one of the main reasons a man will pull away from your relationship.

SECRET #11: Beware Your Biases

Men and women have different approaches to life in some ways. This is fairly obvious to any of us who have been in a relationship or experienced the opposite gender.

Because men and women have slightly different outlooks, we see the world slightly differently.

FOR EXAMPLE: Most men lean more heavily into sports. It's not that women aren't interested in sports, but men are very driven to compete and follow sports.

This means he will likely have a competitive edge to him.

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What biases!?

Women on the other hand are much more collaborative. Not as much competition in the traditional sense. (But as you know women are very competitive with each other!)

So these biases will color our perception. We will see the world slightly differently through the lens of our masculinity or femininity.

Just think about all the times you've tried to communicate in conversation with a man and he doesn't GET what you're saying. But it's perfectly obvious to you, and even your girlfriends.

It should be plain to see that men and women don't always see things the same way. And yet we always seem to get angry or confused when it actually appears in our conversations and interactions.

So always remember that you have a certain filter in how you see the world. It's kind of like wearing orange tinted glasses. After a while you don't realize that everything is orange, it just looks normal.

If you remember this, you'll be more patient in your communication.

SECRET #12: The secret to keeping a man close to you…

There is a way you can keep a guy from pulling away. You can stop his tendency to withdraw from the relationship.

It all comes down to understanding.

A man that feels understood feels SEEN. He feels like someone GETS him. Which is pretty rare experience for most guys.

But because it's rare he also knows it's valuable.

Truthfully, most women don't really understand men today.

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The wisdom of women...

It used to be that women were taught how men think and behave by their mothers. And women also learn about men by watching their parent's dynamic in the home.

But we live in an age where many families had a divorce. And sometimes a breakup of the family unit.

Keep in mind that in the last 30 years or so, most mothers and fathers haven't even been home most of the time. They had to go out and make a living for the family.

So many changes to the family dynamic have left us ignorant about how men and women get along.

The true secret to keeping a man close to you is simply understanding him better than he understands himself.

Which, honestly, is not very hard. Not hard at all!

When a man feels safe near you - and understood - he knows how rare and precious this is. He won't want to lose that kind of connection.

It will even become a refuge for him in difficult emotional times.

  • Do you know how to make a man feel safe with you?
  • Do you know how to make him feel understood?
  • Do you actually understand how men think and feel?

If you don't, then it's time to find out.

Trying to have a relationship without understanding how relationships work is like trying to play a game without knowing any of the rules. Most likely you will not win.

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If there's one pain that we experience that we would prefer to avoid it's a broken heart. But there is a cure for a broken heart, no matter how painful it may seem right now.

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It happened...

But the most important thing you need to ask is, "Does my heart have to stay broken?"

"Can I win him back?"

No matter what you answered to those questions, let me share some tips on how to do that.

So let's start with this:

Curing A Broken Heart

Heartbreak can be felt in your emotions and in your body. They don't call it heartbreak for nothing!

It sometimes feels like your heart has literally broken. Research has shown that heartbreak can even feel like a heart attack. Same symptoms and all.

The good news is there are things you can do to mend your broken heart. And even if you don't want to mend your heart and you want to win him back, I'll tell you more about how to do that in a minute.

Yes, you can make it through your breakup.

Ultimately getting over your ex comes down to grief.

Any significant loss in your life is going to put you through intense feelings of grief.

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The feeling passes with time...

Now I covered the different stages of grief in another article. Suffice to say that you do go through many emotional stages while you're in the process of letting go.

It will take time. But you can move along and feel more stable and grounded as you go. You don't always have to wake up with that feeling of having to cry every five minutes or that the rug was just pulled out from under you again.

You can get back to normal again. You can let go of the despair and find connection again.

Let's get you through the healing process is fast as possible.

First let's tackle your beliefs:

BELIEF: "I'll never be happy again."

This is probably the first thing we start to think when our heart is broken. It's also the emotion that is never true.

All you can ever see when you're in sadness is more sadness. When you're in a low mood, everything looks bad. Your emotions blind you to what's really going on.

Which is also why you should never make any decisions from a low mood. Just wait long enough and your mood will change and so will your emotions.

One of the signs of maturity is coming to the understanding that emotions do not last forever. You will get over them.

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If you live long enough, you will encounter almost every single emotion. As long as you seek to understand your emotions and deal with them in a healthy way, you will inevitably build a high emotional intelligence in yourself.

BELIEF: "I'll never find a person like him again."

Again, a common belief because we are so attached to the idea of a loved one we lost. They're totally unique, right?

Your ex is not unique. We all really want to believe that. But if you look back on all of your dating, you'll notice that there were many men who were possibly the one.

Don't worry, you will find another after this ex is gone.

So what can you do to cure the heartbreak?

Let's dive in and help you with the healing process...

TIP 1: Watch out for the "just friends" trap

A lot of women go through a breakup with a guy and want to stay in his life.

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Don't give in...

The problem is that most men use the "let's just be friends" as a way to keeps having sex with his ex. He doesn't really want to be friends - he just wants a booty call.

So beware if he dangles the carrot of "let's just stay friends" After you break up. Most women want to keep some kind of friendship with their acts, but it usually isn't realistic. At least not right away.

Be willing to give him lots of silence and space. Ironically, this is the only way you can win him back if you want. (More on this in a bit)

TIP 2: Give yourself permission to grieve

Grief is normal after a breakup. You just gone through a tremendous loss, and it only makes sense that your emotions will need to recover. It's part of the healing process.

If you resist your emotions, you run the risk of making the breakup take much much longer. The more you let yourself feel what you're going through, faster those emotions will pass. And the better you will feel.

TIP 3: Time for self-care

Something else that's extremely important is taking care of yourself. Sure, it's not the sexiest of tips, but it's important.

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Time for YOU...

It's easy to forget taking care of yourself when you're going through the pain of a breakup.

Keep these in mind:

  • Exercise
  • Diet
  • Stay social

And it doesn't hurt to take up meditation, or a mindfulness practice. In fact, this is one of the best things you can do for your general state of mind. It will keep you more peaceful and emotionally calm.

Which will also help you when you start a new relationship in the future. (Yes, it will happen!)

TIP 4: Handle Your Anger

One of the most common problems that stops a woman from getting back with her ex boyfriend is her anger. If you're still holding onto a lot of anger from the relationship ending, you must let it go.

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Find strength and inner peace.

The key to this is in how you look at the relationship. If you view it as a failure, and "another guy who got away" - it's going to be very difficult for you to let go of your negative thinking. And your anger can consume you.

Maybe you had some revenge fantasies. Maybe you want to get back at him.

But this will only make things worse.

Start by going easy on yourself. And then remember that he most likely never wanted to hurt you. The pain you're feeling was not intentional.

There are very few people who deliberately cause suffering in someone that they had loved in a relationship.

Assume the best, and do your best to let go of any negative feelings you're holding onto.

TIP 5: If you need help, get help

Of course it goes without saying, if you're finding it difficult to let go of any emotions, or your stuck in thought loops and obsessive thinking, you may want to go to therapy. Or a counselor.

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Heal your heart.

Sometimes we just need a little bit of help getting us through the tough spots.

I will confess to you that I saw a therapist once for a relationship that was particularly difficult for me to let go of. I got through it all in just a matter of a few weeks, instead of months or years.

Talking to someone helped me see reality for what it was, and keep my perspective. I also freed myself from obsessive thoughts.

Everyone has their own stories, but sometimes you just need support!

A mental health professional can help you see things you couldn't see. There's no stigma, and you're not crazy. It's just helping hand that you may not be able to get from your friends or family.

TIP 6: Don't get stuck in memories

If you're constantly reviewing the past of your relationship, there's a good chance you could get stuck there for quite a while. Reliving emotional memories keeps us stuck in the heartbreak.

Part of the natural process of healing is that you'll want to remember the good times. But if you get yourself stuck there reliving the past, it can be hard to get back out.

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Chances are both of you made plenty of mistakes. You made a lot of memories together.

You may also want to take any pictures or reminders of him and store them in a box for a little while. When you're ready, you can get them back out again.

TIP 7: Make it a point to stay off of social media

Don't go cyber stalking him. Don't go looking at his post, don't even check in to see what his friends are doing. This can never help you get over your feelings.

What you need is a clean break where you can get yourself on stable footing again. And get over your strong emotions. In order for your heart to go on, you must let go of the loss.

Unfortunately, social media can keep reminding us and pulling us back into a pit of sadness, anger, and memories we may not be able to handle.

Give yourself a break until you feel like your heart is mending.

TIP 8: Remember that love is an addiction

Most people don't like to think of it this way, but a loving relationship is also a form of drug abuse. Your brain is under the influence of strong hormones. Many of them will remain in your system for a while after the breakup.

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It feels good!

And ultimately the breakup really just shows us how addicted we were to the feelings and love chemicals.

That's why it can feel so disorienting and painful when you break up. Everything your partner says suddenly has magnified meaning.

Everything you think about him in the relationship suddenly seems way out of proportion.

It will take some time for your brain to get back to normal. You have to go through a little bit of withdrawal before you will feel better.

TIP 9: Don't rebound!

One of the most likely mistakes you will make is to jump into a new relationship to erase the bad feelings of the last relationship.

Please, don't do this. Inevitably rebound relationships don't last very long. And then you'll have to deal with the guilt of the rebound relationship ending, and still have the pain from the previous relationship that ended.

As you can imagine, this gets really messy.

Take your time to heal yourself before you bring your emotions into the next relationship. He'll be glad you did this.

TIP 10: Give the relationship another try!

Maybe you still want the happy ending - and not the broken heart. Just like in the movies, you might not want your relationship to end. Maybe you still want him back, and maybe even to marry him.

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Forgive...

Why should you let him go? Especially after you went through all this work to find him.

And if you don't want to let him go, there may be a chance to win him back. If he's pulling away, or he's become distant, there still may be a chance to save the relationship.

Nothing is 100% foolproof when it comes to breakups. But there are some simple tricks you can use to get him to come back. Or at least consider coming back to you and your love.

If you're not ready to give up on him yet, go take a look at this...

Even if he has broken up with you yet, you can use my "win him back" tips to stop him from leaving.

Don't let them go if you know it's a good relationship. Sometimes a man gets cold feet and he just need you to handle it right.

Go find out how to save your relationship now...

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Simply irresistible.

Let's talk about the attitudes men love about women. A lot of people get this wrong, so it's really important for you to get it right.

If you do, he'll find you irresistible.

If you don't, you'll struggle.

Let's look into the most irresistible attitudes for women - the ones men can't resist.

And probably the best thing about your attitude is that it's something you can completely control. (Unlike your appearance and other qualities which you were born with.)

So this means you can do something about this and almost instantly make yourself irresistible to men.

The more you can bring these qualities out in yourself, the more you're going to stand apart from the pack. The women that men can't stop chasing? They all have these attitudes.

IRRESISTIBLE ATTITUDE #1: You make him feel needed and desired

Funny how this one works, because it's one of the most important attitudes a woman wants in a man, too.

A man needs to feel like you need him in your life. He has to feel like he has a role and a place for you.

  • This can be as simple as you inviting him to help fix something
  • Or painting some part of your house
  • Or even driving you home from your doctors appointment

As long as you don't make these requests too frequently so as to seem high maintenance, he will gladly help you out. It's part of his natural program for relationships.

And if you don't make him useful, he'll become depressed, lazy, and start to look elsewhere for happiness.

Another part of this attitude is wanting to make him happy.

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Men spend a lot of time and energy trying to make a woman in their life happy. And of course it makes sense that he might want a little of that back too.

When a man detects that it's important to you to make him happy, he understands that you have a good heart. And he knows that you will pass that on to your children. Even if you two don't actually have children together.

AND this will make him feel like you're both equal partners with an equal investment in the relationship.

  • Maybe send him a text during the day with nothing more than a happy thought.
  • Or even give him a massage to help him get to sleep.
  • Or make him one of his favorite desserts

Little things like this are important to a guy.

IRRESISTIBLE ATTITUDE #2: Be light-hearted and fun!

Playful is the key word here.

The key is to be able to joke and not take everything so seriously. I'm sure you've met people that were light-hearted. They aren't hard to be around.

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Fun and easy going...

On the other hand, when you're with somebody that take things too seriously you feel burdened by being with them.

 

Something happens when a woman gets into a dating and relationship situation. she seems to lose a lot of her sense of humor.

  • She becomes harder to talk to.
  • She becomes harder to please.
  • She becomes more prickly and easier to anger.

Positivity is important, too.

A positive personality is a guy magnet. Guys love a woman is not looking on the negative side of things.

Positive personality is a signal to him. This signal tells him that he will not be criticized or evaluated too harshly.

It's also a signal that he won't be nagged for the rest of his life.

And let's be honest - positivity is almost ALWAYS appealing to people.

IRRESISTIBLE ATTITUDE #3: Authenticity

There's an old joke about someone who says: "I've got just about everything down in dating right now. The last thing is being authentic. As soon as I can fake that, I'm unstoppable!"

Of course the joke lies in that you can't fake authenticity. It's absolutely impossible. Kind of like "dry rain."

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Be genuine and sincere.

Men desperately want a woman that is realAuthentic.

A lot of men see how women interact with each other and feel that it's very fake. Insincere.

(Most women also feel that their interactions with other women lack depth and a feeling of being genuine.)

And a man's greatest fear is that he will start dating you and never know the real you.

The secret to breaking through to his heart is to simply be vulnerable.

Being vulnerable just means that you show what you're feeling without letting those feelings run your life. Showing him the real you.

Showing him what your real opinions are, even if he might not agree with them. ( If you imagine this situation right now, I think you'll notice that you become anxious at the thought of it.)

Think of all those movies out there, the romantic comedies. There are usually two types of plots:

  1. The man who is a womanizer who the woman tames and conquers (gets him to commit)
  2. The woman who is controlling and kind of bitchy. Eventually, she drops the act, becomes vulnerable to him, and he wins her heart.

No one feels connection to someone who is closed off and fake.

On the other hand, we feel a raw connection and intimacy with someone who shows us their flaws and weaknesses.

I'm not saying that you should broadcast all your flaws to him, or show him your neediness and open up a bag of crazy on him.

But you should be willing to show him the real parts of you from time to time even if they are occasionally a little needy or a wee bit crazy.

You have to trust that he can figure out for himself if he can handle it or not. And eventually, if he's in a relationship with you, he'll figure them out on his own.

So why not take charge of the way he sees them?

IRRESISTIBLE ATTITUDE #4: Your life is a priority!

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Get a life.

Oh, I'm sure you've heard this advice at least a million times right?

  • "Make your life come first!"
  • "Pursue your own passions!"
  • "Be excited about your life"

You will probably hear this one bit of advice more than any other.

But it's still true.

The reason the "love your life" advice is not very popular is because no one ever tells you how to DO it.

But then again, no one should have to.

You can figure out for yourself how to make yourself a priority. You just decide it and DO IT.

The easy way of putting yourself first is simply to NOT make dating and a relationship your be-all and end-all focus.

Check inside your feelings right now. Close your eyes and ask yourself:

Do I want a relationship to make me happy? Or am I already happy?

You'll know if this is how you feel right now.

And if you feel that a relationship is going to give you peace, that you must have a relationship or you are failing somehow -

If you feel that way, it's time for you to deal with it. Stop brushing those insecure feelings under the rug and hoping that it goes away.

Look deep inside yourself and see what it is you're trying to avoid by putting a relationship first before you.

SECRET: Typically, we become focused on relationships for happiness when you have an unresolved relationship with one (or both) of your parents.

In fact, it almost always is because of this. It's time to deal with it and be done with it.

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Whether that's getting into therapy or counseling, get it taken care of right now. Because even if you manage to get the relationship you want, the problem will still come up again and again and again until you do deal with it.

You'll see the patterns in your arguments and relationship challenges.

It's kind of like driving on a flat tire. It might take a little time to change the tire, but if you don't you'll destroy the rim. And then you'll destroy the rest of the car.

Enough said?

IRRESISTIBLE ATTITUDE #5: Give and take!

It's a basic relationship skill: You must be willing to compromise in your relationship.

It's very easy to get into a stock pattern of thinking that you're right all the time.

  • That HE is the problem.
  • That men are this or that.
  • And you have to fix it every time.

"Here I go again!" she says to herself. "Another one of THESE guys."

But, in fact she's ignoring the fact that SHE is choosing him. And these men are actually choosing HER as well.

As the saying goes, give-and-take makes things go smoothly.

And don't forget: Choose your battles wisely!

If you're constantly at war, the battle fatigue will eventually kill your spirit.

IRRESISTIBLE ATTITUDE #6: Femininity

As a woman desires a man that is masculine, a man desires a woman who lets herself be a woman.

Let yourself be feminine.

There is a lot of misunderstanding about what it means to be feminine. Being feminine does not mean weak or submissive.

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Stay true to your self...

Femininity is a woman's confidence. It's her willingness to be herself as much as she can.

There have also been a lot of distortions about what it means to be a feminine woman. That being "girly" is somehow undesirable.

Never before in our history have we needed more femininity in our everyday life and our society. The things that make a woman a woman are essential to balancing out the masculine in our world.

If we don't find a way to stop approaching our problems from a masculine perspective, we could very well go extinct.

What is "Feminine"?

Just a few of the most important feminine qualities:

  • Thoughtfulness - being thoughtful about other people's needs
  • Beauty - not just physical beauty but inner beauty
  • Empathy - feel your feelings and others
  • Vulnerability - showing your weaknesses as well as strengths
  • Intuition - trusting your inner guidance
  • Patience - waiting it out
  • Radiance and sexuality - that glowing quality of femininity that warms all men

IRRESISTIBLE ATTITUDE 7: Understanding men!

Of course, the most important attitude a woman can have is that she GETS him. You cannot underestimate this attitude or how important it is.

You see, it used to be that women were taught about men by their mothers, or their girlfriends who "got" men. They were taught how to really understand (and get along with) men.

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Capsice?

But times have changed. We no longer live in extended families where this wisdom lives with us. And you may not have had a mother who is home enough to guide you in your femininity.

You may have even had a mom who just didn't understand it herself.

The bottom line is you may not have gotten the guidance you needed.

But there is a solution to this. Stick with me here...

When you understand men, you also understand the nature of your relationship with him.

  • You're less likely to make mistakes.
  • You'll know what he's thinking without him telling you
  • You'll know what to say and when to say it
  • You'll know how to recover from mistakes
  • You'll know how to avoid arguments when possible - and you know how to bounce back from them
  • You'll know how to predict his responses and avoid problems
  • You'll know how to keep a man close to you, and how to get him back when he pulls away

The simple fact is if you don't understand men, it's very unlikely you will find out by accident.

However, you will discover many problems along the way. Making it hard to keep a relationship running smoothly for very long.

I don't like to paint a dire picture, but it is a fact that if you don't understand men you will have a tough time making a relationship work.

This is why I decided to show women what men think and why we do what we do. I want to help you fix this once and for all.

If you're finally ready to stop making the same mistakes and get the man you love to commit to you once and for all, there something simple things you can learn to get started on the right path.

The first step in getting a man to hear you and feel for you is showing him you understand him.

This is as simple as reading his signals.

A man gives off signals, not words. You may have experienced this in your relationship. Men very rarely come to you with a verbal explanation for how they're feeling or what they need.

If you don't read the signals he's sending you, you could make a serious mistake.

The solution is simple: Learn how to read his signals.

I have something that can help you with this right now - something you can download in just a few minutes and get started right away.

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So you're texting a guy, and you're wondering how to tell if he likes you by his texts.

How do you really know what he thinks about you? It's hard to NOT read into whatever words he sends to you, after all.

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He loves me? He loves me not?

You finally exchanged numbers with that guy. You know the cute guy you met, or the guy that had the courage to at least walk up and talk to you.

You're giving him a chance. Good for you!

But somehow you gotta figure out if this guy likes you or not.

  • Do you keep working on this romance?
  • Or do you just let him go and try the next guy?

Well that's what I'm going to explain to you here. As a guy I can show you if he's really interested or if you're wasting your time.

Ultimately that's what this is really all about. You want to be able to figure out what he's thinking and what he's feeling by what he sends to you in texts.

In fact, it's one of the most common questions I get from readers every day. Not just from women but from men, too!

Guys want to know if she's interested based on what she sends him in texts.

I've got some good news and bad news:

  • The bad news is that this is not an exact science.
  • The GOOD NEWS is that you can interpret a few things based on what he sends you. And how he sends it to you.

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And it really comes down to knowing whether he's interested or he's just being nice and friendly.

That's the trick of this whole thing. Because you don't want to be embarrassed by pursuing a guy who's not really into you.

No one digs rejection. It's not fun and it does nothing for your self-esteem.

The trick of texting is that you have to do your interpreting without seeing his body language or hearing his tone of voice.

Which is a huge obstacle to overcome.

If you listen to other people's advice, you could make a serious mistake.

So first let's cover a few of the texting myths that you will encounter.

TEXTING MYTH 1: He Likes You If He Writes You Long Texts

Sorry to bust this one open, but it's not necessarily true.

He might actually just be bored. And you happen to be a ready, listening ear.

Or he feels particularly emotional about something and you happen to be the person he was texting at the moment.

But the truth is long texts are a good signal if you've known him for a little bit and he's still sending them.

As you know I always advise you that men simply don't like to text all that much. (At least REAL men. These days, there aren't a lot of really masculine men around. So you do the best you can.)

So long texts don't really tell you much.

TEXTING MYTH 2: It's good if he texts you "randomly"

This one can be a good sign, but it's too ambiguous. What is random anyways?

What you're looking for is a pattern. A pattern of him texting you occasionally during the day about random topics. What this pattern shows is that he's trying to make conversation and trying to connect.

But if he just texts you out of the blue every so often during the week, it's hard to pin that down to any meaning.

He could be bored...

He could be just trying to keep you on the hook...

The best signals to interpret from a guy are ones that you received regularly. Random texting isn't a very good signal.

TEXTING MYTH 3: It's good if he texts you when he's drunk

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Truth serum?

Here is another one of those kind-of random signals.

When a guy is drunk, he can go in one of two directions:

  1. His inhibitions are lowered and now he's trying to express his interest in you.
  1. His inhibitions are lowered and now he's trying to get in bed with you because he's horny.

If you're over the age of 22, chances are you know how to tell these apart. And you probably already received plenty of number two!

Drunk texting is simply not a signal.

How To Tell If He Likes You By His Texts

Okay that's enough of the myths.

Let's get into how to tell if he likes you from his texts.

But first let me say one thing:

If you're watching signals too closely, trying to interpret small signs, you may be TOO afraid of being rejected!

Here's the thing: When it comes to dating and romance, you have to have a little bit of fearlessness.

A guy can tell when you're trying to avoid being rejected. And that is not attractive.

When you are more concerned with avoiding being hurt than you are trying to meet and get to know him, it looks like you have low self-esteem and no self-confidence. And that something a guy will do anything to avoid.

So sometimes you end up creating the rejection you're trying to avoid.

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Simply by trying to look for too many signals. You avoid showing your interest, and you just end up looking too scared.

The best thing you can do to improve your success in dating is to let go of your fear. If a guy doesn't like you, so what? That's just him and his opinion. And no strangers opinion of you should matter all that much.

Cultivate your fearlessness when it comes to dating. It will improve your successes.

One more thing you should know is that it's very difficult for guys to approach women now.

The climate between the sexes is not the best it could be. With gender roles in flux all the time, It can be confusing for a guy. Men are very simple when it comes to their sexual response.

Quite honestly if he's texting you at all, you should take that as a positive sign and move forward.

Now - let's start with the generic signals first. These are the signals that are a little more hazy. So you'll need a few of these to make a decision as to whether or not he's really into you.

He Likes You - SIGNAL 1: He tells you he'd rather be with you than text you

Yeah, this one is a huge one. When a guy tells you he'd rather BE there with you, it's pretty damn clear.

Ultimately this should be our goal anyways. Unfortunately, in our fear ridden culture, we've gotten too used to avoiding social contact.

So if he expresses sentiments like: "Sure would be great if we were talking instead of texting!"

OR

"Wish you were here right now" / "Wish I were there right now"

Then you can be pretty sure he's interested.

SIGNAL 3: He's reading your future

Well he's not telling you what's going to happen in the future, but he's telling you what he would be doing when he's there with you.

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He thinks about... forever.

When he talks about the things you'll be doing together, he is doing what is called future pacing. He's getting you to buy into the future cool stuff you'll be doing together.

If he does this, he's actually doing two things:

  • The first is he's expressing his interest.
  • The second is that he's trying to gauge whether or not you're interested too.

Interesting, huh? You might find yourself with a guy who's also trying to figure out if you're into him at the exact same time!

SIGNAL 4: He Gives You Reasons

One of the most frustrating things a woman can experience is when a guy ghosts her. Or he just doesn't respond in a timely fashion.

When a guy likes you, he will want to manage your perception of him. What this means is: he will explain his behavior to you!

  • He'll let you know if he can't reply to you right away
  • He'll tell you why it took him so long to respond
  • If he has to go run some errands, he'll let you know

A guy who is interested will just demonstrate politeness and courtesy.

As for the other guys ... well if they can't show you that same courtesy, you're not interested.

SIGNAL 5: Emoji's

This one is super obvious. If a guy is using a lot of flirty, goofy emoji's with you, that means he likes you.

Guys typically don't like using emoji's. We prefer straight up texts.

BUT when we are texting a girl that were interested in, we will get more playful and childlike.

As long as he doesn't go crazy with emojis. That would be just a little bit weird.

SIGNAL 6: Questions, Questions, Questions

As a general rule of thumb, if someone is asking questions, that means they are interested.

They're trying to get to know you. They're trying to understand what makes you tick.

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He wants to learn more about you...

Curiosity is on the same path as love, as I like to say.

When he's curious about you, he's looking to understand you more. He wants to do a deep dive into your world.

The deeper the questions, the deeper he wants to dive.

These questions should also continue when he's with you in person, but that may not always be the case.

Many men get nervous and start talking about themselves to rid themselves of their anxiety. And you might mistake that for bragging and ego instead of his nervousness.

SIGN 7: He tries to keep the thread going

When you get started on a texting exchange, and something interrupted your conversation, there's a natural desire to pick it back up where you left off.

If you have a fun and flirty text exchange going on, neither one of you is going to want to let the ball drop.

So if you notice him coming back to the same texting subject and continuing the conversation, you've got another huge sign that he wants you.

Especially if this texting session is charged and feels a little naughty.

But even if it's not, when a man tries to keep the conversation going, it's almost always a good sign.

SIGN 8: Weird or Goofy Jokes

One of the first things guy tries to do when he flirts is to get you to laugh. Guys instinctively know that if we can make you chuckle or giggle at something we've said, that's a step in the right direction to seducing you.

Back when we were kids, we would resort to tickling if it came to that. But now that we're older, we have to use more subtle tactics.

So a guy is very likely going to throw some goofy jokes at you to see if he can make you laugh. Of course you can't see or hear each other laugh, so he's waiting on an emoji from you. Or maybe just an OMG.

If you want to encourage him, send him a laughing emoji - maybe the one with tears in its eyes.

SIGN 9: He Compliments You!

This is one of those interesting signs that women get confused about.

When it comes to women, compliments are a double edged sword. The woman that gives it to you might be trying to point something out about you that is slightly negative. I'm sure you've had a few women who give you a weird compliment as a way to be snarky and funny.

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He appreciates everything about YOU.

She may even be trying to "kill you with kindness" in a very nasty, bitchy sort of way.

So that leaves you mistrusting compliments when you hear them.

But when a guy complements you, you can take it at face value. He means it if he says it.

Don't second-guess men's compliments. Don't let your self-esteem get in the way of his genuine appreciation of you.

I've seen a lot of women make this mistake. A man compliments her, and she dismisses it because she doesn't want to appear vain or stuck up.

You have to prepare yourself and overcome your knee-jerk reaction.

If you refuse to many of his compliments, he will think you're not interested in him. It's almost like you're not accepting his gifts. And he will simply lose interest and move on because he thinks you must not like him. That's why you're not accepting his gifts.

SIGNAL 10: He's trying to figure out if you have a boyfriend

I think if you're over the age of 20, you should be able to figure this one out on your own.

When a guy is asking questions that probe into whether or not you got a boyfriend, he's obviously trying to find out if you're available.

This one is a no-brainer, let's move on.

SIGNAL 11: He Laughs Back

That's right, if he's giving you laugh emoji's and telling you LOL all the time, that's a signal that he's interested in you.

If you want to test this, tell him a really lame joke. If he still laughs and makes a big deal out of it, you got your answer right there.

SIGNAL 12: You make your own signal!

Hang on this is going to get a little rough...

I could have made this list of signals with 78 different signals. Then you could be interpreting every little thing he says or does until the end of time.

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Just do it!

In the end, we gotta drop the high school B.S. If you really want to know if this guy likes you, just ask him!

Enough of this juvenile crap, you've got a life to get on with!

If you want to get the romance you deserve, it's time to be forthright and put your big girl pants on.

Guys don't have a lot of patience for bullsh*t. The more you show that you know this, the better you'll do with him.

And quite honestly, guys are not showing their masculinity these days. There's a lot of pasty-faced chumps out there growing lumberjack beards and trying to make you think they are men.

They're confusing to be around. You might even find yourself wondering if these guys are gay.

You gotta weed these men out quickly.

Don't waste your time on soft, doughy, wimpy men.

There's just too many of them out there right now. You've got to get to the good ones.

That means you gotta have better skills!

In the end, signals aren't going to get you a man. Action is.

The best way you can get him to want you, desire you, and chase you is to flip his Obsession Switch.

A man's obsession switch lies just beneath the surface.

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He likes me. He really likes me!

When you meet a man and you know he's a catch, you don't want to lose him. The key to making him stay with you and pursue you and make you feel like a feminine woman is to flip his obsession switch so that he chases you!

Adores you...

And it's as simple as knowing what to say to him.

  • When you text him, you have to know what to send.
  • When you talk to him, you have to know what to say

If you're ready to stop playing games and start getting serious about winning the man you love, you need to know how to flip his obsession switch.

If you want to know more go here...

Just watch the short presentation and learn how the of session switch works in a man's mind

And his heart.

I guarantee you this is going to be the most important thing you're going to learn in the coming year.

The number of available, quality men is going DOWN.

Rapidly!

If you don't know how to win the man you're with when he comes along, you might be fighting for the scraps later on. And those scrap guys are not quality guys.

You deserve to have a man who will take care of you and make you feel loved.

That's all were here for and that's what you deserve to have!

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