Get Your Man inspired Cathy Jo to take control of her dating destiny..."The first time I heard the title, Get Your Man, I flashed on the image of the roving hotdog vendor at the baseball park: 'Get Your Peanuts, Get Your Beer, Get Your Man...' Okay, sure - yes thank you, I would love one, hold the onions, spicy mustard please, oh and wrap him up, I'd like to take this one home. Growing up, we all thought we knew the rules of dating, love, and relationships. Didn't we learn everything we needed to know from Cosmopolitan and before that Ken and Barbie? Yeah, that's about right. Ken meets Barbie- Ken twirls Barbie around a few times showing her his latest dance steps, they do a few gymnastic feats on the living room floor, then bada-bing, and there they are in the blissful throws of happily ever after. Sigh. If only it was that easy. Or not. Do we really want the fairy tale, the prince charming that beckons to your every whim and whistle? Do you want a real man or a Ken doll? Before I elucidate on Get Your Man, I must admit, I approached this audio book with some cynicism - My fear was that this book would be another one of those sensational ramblings, and to be frank, the title does have that kind of echo to it. Fortunately, there is none of that. What makes this book so compelling, is Carlos Xuma knows first hand what men are attracted to and what makes relationships work - he has after all counseled thousands of men on the intricate facets of self-confidence, dating, and relationships. For dating to be successful, the single woman must first set goals to attain the quality that is most attractive in women- self-esteem, confidence, and a healthy and happy productive life. There are many books on the shelf these days that lay out similar infrastructures - that to be successful in a relationship, a woman must fully embrace herself. To my knowledge, there are no other books written by a man who has spent years researching the secrets of what men want, and no, according to Mr. Xuma it's not all about sex. Carlos Xuma has clearly articulated how the single woman can have a full and rewarding life, and get her guy. Xuma understands what the triggers are and how men respond best to women. He explains the difference between the average nice guy and the man that we all want and need. He covers everything from sex to enhancing your social networks, and understanding the psychology of attraction. Carlos Xuma lays out the foundation in a well-paced, clearly modulated audio book. This book is not for the faint of heart. It is filled with eye-opening tips and strategies, and so many formidable secrets; you will undoubtedly have to listen to the CD's a few times before it all really sinks in. Get Your Man inspires women to take control of their dating destinies. It's a wonderful tool for any woman, single or not, to develop confidence and courage to truly change her life. Sure, human nature being what it is, we all make mistakes... Take control of your life, be smart about your choices, and learn that being single can be truly fun and satisfying..." - Cathy Jo, Novato  |