Does love have to fade? Can't it always be like it was when you two first met? Well, we all know in our hearts that love can never be as powerful and magical as it is when it first starts - BUT... We also know we WANT it to be, don't we? Just to feel […]

Whether you've just met a man for the first time, or you've been with him for months - or even years... ... how do you get him to notice you? SEE you? I mean, wake the heck up and smell what you're cooking! Is that too much to ask? Sometimes, guys are truly clueless. But […]

When I was in high school, I'd listen to music pretty much 24/7. I'd get up, put on my walkman (hopefully you remember that ancient device), and listen to songs I'd recorded off the radio. A specific "classic rock" hit that I always puzzled over was "Hold On Loosely" by .38 Special. If you don't […]

Look, there are two words that most women simply HATE... You know what they are? Star Trek. Those two simple words probably bring to mind instant images of geeky fan boys with pointy ears... Hey, you might be one of those rare women that likes Star Trek, and that's totally cool... But one thing we all […]

7:38 AM - So I'm sitting at Starbucks with Marni, a good friend of mine. She's also in the business of coaching people on how to date and make more powerful connections. After almost scalding my mouth once again with my Chai Latte, we started talking about *attraction.* You know, that delicious electric ZAP you feel […]

I'm sitting in my office, sipping tea, and thinking back to when I first started helping women get closer to the men in their lives... And if there's one question I hear more than most from women I coach, it's this: "Carlos, what is it with guys and sex? Why are guys such dogs?" And […]

A friend of mine sent over a link to an article someone had written recently. It wasn't really meant to be offensive, but the title just made me cringe: "B*tch, Are You Crazy?" It was all about how women are creating situations that don't exist in their heads, based on clues they are over-interpreting. The […]

Imagine you're at the airport.. You just got off your flight and now you're headed to pick up your luggage. The bags start piling out, one by one. You even see other people from your flight getting their bags, which is always reassuring. But after about 15 minutes, they're all done, and no more bags […]

QUESTION FROM READER: Carlos, I've been dating this guy for about three weeks now. Last week he asked me if I was seeing anyone else. I told him not really, even though I felt like it was a mistake. Well, he called me up later that night and accused me of seeing other guys. After […]