Whether you've just met a man for the first time, or you've been with him for months - or even years... ... how do you get him to notice you? SEE you? I mean, wake the heck up and smell what you're cooking! Is that too much to ask? Sometimes, guys are truly clueless. But […]

When I was in high school, I'd listen to music pretty much 24/7. I'd get up, put on my walkman (hopefully you remember that ancient device), and listen to songs I'd recorded off the radio. A specific "classic rock" hit that I always puzzled over was "Hold On Loosely" by .38 Special. If you don't […]

I'm sitting in my office, sipping tea, and thinking back to when I first started helping women get closer to the men in their lives... And if there's one question I hear more than most from women I coach, it's this: "Carlos, what is it with guys and sex? Why are guys such dogs?" And […]

A friend of mine sent over a link to an article someone had written recently. It wasn't really meant to be offensive, but the title just made me cringe: "B*tch, Are You Crazy?" It was all about how women are creating situations that don't exist in their heads, based on clues they are over-interpreting. The […]

QUESTION FROM READER: Carlos, I've been dating this guy for about three weeks now. Last week he asked me if I was seeing anyone else. I told him not really, even though I felt like it was a mistake. Well, he called me up later that night and accused me of seeing other guys. After […]