If you've been dating at all in your 30s, 40s and up, you've probably found yourself wondering at some point if a guy really wants to be with you. You're trying to read his signals. And that means that you want to know how to get a guy to want you and how to get him interested in you.
It's not always easy to find the committed relationship you want when you're struggling to get this man to see that you're the right woman for him.
I'm going to answer some of the important questions about how to get a guy to want you right here and now.
And because you have to start any relationship with DESIRE if you want to be his girlfriend - or if you want him as your husband in the future - you need to know how men think.
Likes and dislikes aside, there's always a reason a man falls in love with a woman. And you'll have the advantage if you know HOW this happens with men.
So let's dig right in with...
It might seem like a pretty obvious tip - but one of the most important steps to nailing this person - this man - down as your boyfriend is knowing how to get him to give you his attention. If he's not noticing you, he's not attracted to you.
Now, you don't have to resort to any kind of cheap attention-getting techniques to attract him or get him interested, like showing off or being loud. Those always work against you anyway.
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But escaping the friend zone and creating some real sexual attraction with him is going to require you to know what makes men pay attention to one woman more than another.
Here are a few things men notice:
Look, we men notice just about EVERYTHING about a woman, even if we might not be able to conjure the words after meeting you. It's only later on that we figure out what made us feel attracted to you. And by then, it's too late!
If you see a guy you want to pay attention to you, go ahead and intentionally "run into" him - literally bump into him if necessary. Men don't care how you get into our field of awareness - only that you do!
(And most guys are clueless about the "bump into him" trick, so don't worry - he won't notice!
One of the things that good men really desire is high self-esteem in a woman. But that may not mean what you THINK it means. Pop psychology has redefined what "high self esteem" is in the last 40 years or so. And it's not very accurate.
Let me start by giving you an idea what confidence is NOT:
A man wants to see some indications that you're a strong person and can stand on your own two feet. And - yes - he wants to know that you won't let him walk all over you.
In fact, he wants to RESPECT you. It doesn't matter if you met on some dating sites, or you just started talking at a party. A man wants to know that YOU not only respect you, but he can respect you too.
RIGHT FROM THE START!
So when you show him some personal power, you should focus on telling him stories.
Tell him a story that demonstrates that you've got your life together. You're a person of depth and character.
That you're a good woman...
That's what will make men want you.
Not overly confident and cocky or pretentious. Just be laid back and unflappable.
This kind of confidence starts with knowing how to talk to men in the right way. I'll come back to this in just a bit...
It's widely accepted that first impressions are often lasting. But what you may not know is that you can easily overcome an awkward first impression if you fail to spark his interest. If he's a genuinely nice guy, he'll give you a second chance.
But at the same time, you should make it a goal to start things off with a bang. Don't risk him meeting some other woman that night who was more "on" than you were that night.
A man's feeling of love is amazingly similar to a woman's feeling of love. All he has to know is that he's being seen as a good person with the same kind of feelings you do.
Look, the fact is that Cyndi Lauper (does that girl ever age?) was right - girls just wanna have fun.
But you might not know that men want to have fun, too.
In fact, it's one of the "gut-feel" appraisals he's making about you all the time.
Can this girl have FUN? Because that means *I* will have fun!
One of the easiest ways a man can figure out how much fun you are is through your sense of humor. A guy is always looking to see how you respond to situations and people with a good sense of humor.
Here are just a few of the ways that guys appraise your sense of humor:
Men everywhere have a huge fear that their girlfriend or wife is going to turn into a jealous monster after he gets into a relationship.
Look, he's not planning to fool around on you. Every man starts a relationship hoping (no - PRAYING) that this woman gives him what he needs and that he never needs to look elsewhere.
So it's imperative that he knows you won't be texting him at all hours when he's out with his buddies, asking: "Where are you? What's HER name?"
He wants to know that if he wants to talk to a female co-worker at the Holiday party, you won't lose it on him.
... or any other crazy stuff.
He does want to know that you'll pay good attention to him and not leave him feeling under-nourished for love and attention. He wants to know you're attracted to him, too.
A man knows that jealousy can often mask some deep insecurities.
The feelings he wants to see from you are simply HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM. No jealousy - just appreciation for him that shows how much you're interested.
If you want him to want you, simply talk to men in ways that spark his imagination and desire. Talking to him about YOUR life is okay. But when you talk to him about an idea you had about how to make tomorrow more fun and exciting - THAT will stir him up!
Start a conversation about the things he likes in life. His hobbies...
And then hit him with a deep question about it so that he knows you're GETTING him.
And then listen to his answer!
For example, if he's into electronic dance music, you ask him which genre he likes most. (A few minutes research on the Internet would tell you that there are literally dozens of different kinds of EDM out there.)
He'll be impressed with you, and impressed that you came up with such a good, insightful question about it. Guys are used to hearing women ask some pretty lame questions - telling us that you're not really interested in our experience.
HIM: "Yeah, I like to fix up old cars. Rebuild the engines and restore them."
HER: "Huh, so you like to fix up cars? Yeah. I've got a car. What kind of a car do you drive?"
These questions feel empty and lazy to him. He just handed over the key to his heart, and she starts talking about "What kind of car do you have?" (Insert face-palm here.)
But when you pop a really powerful question that no other woman has asked him, you'll be amazed at how he starts to look at you differently. You're suddenly the person he wants to be with all the time.
When you're talking to him with interest and intelligence, he'll sit up and pay more attention to YOU.
He'll want to text a girl like you every minute of the day to make sure you're not thinking of some other guy...
You'll see his eyes start to sparkle as he looks you up and down, excited about you - and WANTING you.
And finally -
One of the least known tips about how to get him to want you lies in the secret of male psychology.
You see, men have very good imaginations. In fact, a man often has incredibly vivid fantasies about women.
The short cut to desire is knowing how to get a man thinking about you when you're not near him.
If you really want a man to want YOU - you have to know how to insert good thoughts of you in his mind so that he obsesses about you when you're not around. Most women don't realize that men fall in love with women in the time when he's not in your presence.
This is the PERFECT situation to have that ensures he will want you - all the way to taking his vows of love in marriage to you.
There is a good way to get a man to start thinking about you, and get him interested in knowing you more. Knowing you to your CORE.
The secret is simply in how you talk to men.
And most women don't really know how to make a meaningful, connecting conversation with a man.
If you want a man to commit to you, you need to show him your warm heart - but he has to ache for you when he can't have it.
The key to making a man think about you is through CONVERSATION. Certain words and phrases will activate his romantic imagination.
A man is always fantasizing about the woman who last flipped his "obsession switch" in his head. The Obsession Switch is the part of his brain that holds all his secret desires and fantasies.
When a woman manages to get into this part of his mind, HE WILL CHASE HER.
A guy can be obsessed with a woman for the craziest reason. When I was coaching guys in their relationships, they would regularly tell me that they would fall for a woman because she happened to look like his childhood sweetheart, or she triggered some memory that he couldn't get out of his head.
That's all it takes to get a man thinking about you every waking minute, in fact.
You just need to flip his Obsession Switch!
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