Don't settle

By: Carlos Cavallo
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“There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living” – Nelson Mandela

If you’re in a romantic relationship that just doesn’t feel right and you feel like leaving - but you’re scared to…

Because - what if you won’t find another guy like him? Or, what if he’s The One?

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Or maybe you’ve been single for some time. Desperately needing someone to be with and thinking of jumping into the arms of the first guy who’s attracted to you (no matter what level of quality he is).

It’s time to think again.

It’s normal to be afraid of being alone or having that unbearable feeling of being un-loveable.  Settling is an unpleasant and depressing word, too.

And the people around you might urge you to lower your standards and not to be “too picky,” which definitely doesn’t help.

If you do give in and settle down before you’re ready or before you find the right match, you’ll always have that ache of discontent.

There’s a saying:

“Being alone is always better than being
with someone who makes you feel alone...”

New research conducted by Stephanie S. Spielman shows that the fear of being single is an indicator of settling for less in relationships – the decision to stay with a partner who is wrong for you.

Her groundbreaking study, discovered that the fear of being single predicts when women will settle for less in romantic relationships. It’s not surprising by any stretch, but the correlations is hugely important to you.

Furthermore, her study showed that individuals who report being fearful of being alone will stay with unresponsive, less attractive partners rather than face the possibility of having to move on.

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 Here are some signs that you’re settling for less than you deserved:

  • The relationship doesn’t make you the BEST version of yourself. 

It brings you down and your needs aren’t met. Your partner then tends to be too focused on his needs rather than make the relationship a “give and take.”

  • You’re slowly forgetting who you are in order to adapt to what your partner wants and needs you to be. 

You change your values, goals, or dreams. And soon enough, when you see yourself in the mirror, you don’t recognize the person that’s staring back at you. You’d feel lost and unsure of yourself.

  • You tend to put his needs above yours.

You fear that if you don’t, he’ll leave you. And your relationship will collapse – or it would become emotionally and physically abusive.

  • He’s cheated on your repeatedly and you’d look the other way.

You’re scared to face the reality that if you put him on the spot. He’d leave you for another woman.

“Your worth to others depends on how you value yourself.
Don’t be an option to someone, be their priority!”

 The pressure to “settle” can be very daunting, especially to a single woman who’s faced with the social stigma due to their solo status. And then there’s the whole “biological clock” ticking.

If you’re faced with this situation, here are some reasons why you should consider holding out for a relationship that could truly make you happy.

Don’t be afraid!

Your settling is a choice triggered by fear of being alone. This alone should give you the warning signs that the foundation of your relationship is eroding.

“Be yourself. Accept yourself. Value yourself. Forgive yourself. Bless yourself. Express yourself. Trust yourself. Love yourself. Empower yourself.”

Be strong. You’re good enough to attract someone who’d adore you…the real you. Trust in the good life that’s waiting for you.

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Mutual partnership

“I love what I do, and I love the fact that he respects that and is willing to take a back seat when necessary...”

When you’re in a quality relationship, you move forward and mature together. You explore the world and see it in its entirety.

You don’t have to step back so he can catch up with you. He adores you that way, and supports you in all your endeavors.

You’re more confident to face all the challenges because you know he’s there for you…and you for him.

You deserve more

Understand that settling is a sign you’re cynical about your future. If you’re thinking that you’ll never meet someone who can love you and that you can love back in return…STOP.

It’s because of this negative spiral of thoughts that you’re having a difficult time meeting the one that’s right for you. If you want to feel happy, feed yourself with positive thoughts.

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection” 

– Buddha

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Always remember this – Love yourself before someone else can love you. The reason for this is simple, because the one that’s right for you is a reflection of you.

“Birds of the same feather, flock together”

So, learn to like yourself and turn yourself into the person that you’d want to be. Once you adopt this mentality, you will eventually attract the right person, because you’d start seeing others the same way.

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life”

–     Steve Jobs

Soon, without you realizing it, you’ll be in the relationship you’ve wanted all along – finding the right guy who adore and loves you just as much as you adore and love him.

CLICK HERE - to know the secret way to make any man irresistibly desire you...

Yours In Perfect Passion...

- Carlos Cavallo

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