How To Tell FOR SURE If a Guy Likes You – 7 Body Language Signs
One of the the hardest things to figure out is a guy’s intentions. Did that hot co-worker of yours chat you up this morning because he thinks you’re girlfriend material?
Or was it all in your head?
Who knows, maybe he’s just a people person and it’s second nature for him to strike up a conversation with just about anyone. So now you don’t know if you should flirt with him…
…or just keep your head down any say nothing.
That’s not a good position to be in, isn’t it?
It’s that uncertainty that drives women up the wall with anxiety. You wouldn’t risk your pride and “reveal your hand” to a guy who doesn’t have feelings for you after all.
The thought is just too painful – and embarrassing.
If it’s any relief, guys are in the SAME position too when it comes to approaching the women we like. For us, it’s also a 50/50 deal; one wrong move could mean getting shot down in flames.
The truth is that we’re scared of hitting on a girl and revealing our true feelings only to look like an idiot in the end. A lot of times, dating is like skating on thin ice, so we need to watch our step.
However, there is a way to deduce a guy’s behavior and get a good idea of his internal state. And in a lot of cases, he doesn’t have say much to tell you that he does, in fact, have the hots for you.
Body language is the great equalizer if you want to know what a guy really thinks about you. The signals we give off in our face and our posture always tell the TRUTH when it comes to what a person is thinking or feeling.
So let’s go through a few of the ways you can figure out how he feels about you based entirely on his body language signals:
Watch for this sign #1: The Eyes Have it…
They say the eyes are the seat of the soul.
If you think about it, the eyes are also a direct path to a man’s heart. Men are visual, of course, and everything he sees starts there.
So watch for the expressiveness of his eyes to tell you what he’s thinking.
– Glance, then look away quickly?
It’s most likely that he’s shy and doesn’t want to risk rejection.
These days, a lot of guys lack the cajones to give you that smoldering sexy stare from old black & white movies. But he’s probably working up his nerve.
Don’t check in on him too much, but make yourself look approachable.
In any case, there’s a high possibility of interest on his part – and that he likes you. But he’s facing that unique dilemma of trying to figure out just the right thing to say.
You see, guys want to use the “magic words” that will make you fall for him almost instantly.
What they don’t know is that you’ll respond to pretty much anything as long as he doesn’t come across like a douchebag.
Now, when you see his eyes when he’s talking to you, here’s what you want to see:
– He gazes long and hard – and you notice his pupils look dilated
You might even notice that his eyes sparkle a bit. These are all strong indicators that he likes what he sees.
The pupil dilation is an automatic response that gives away his interest as well. And of course, if he’s looking at you with “bedroom eyes“, that’s a sure fire indication of interest as well.
Guy interest indicator #2: Is he protecting your space?
This is an excellent sign that he not only likes you, but cares for you as well. All men have that built-in need to look out for the people close to them, and they’ll exhibit this in a number of ways.
Do you notice him leaning into your “personal bubble” when there’s a potential “threat” nearby?
Maybe you’re at a place packed with people (like a concert or some equally crowded event), and he’s using his body to keep you from colliding into the sea of humanity around you.
When you’re out to dinner (or even a casual coffee lunch date) with him, does he open the door for you? Does he sort of clear a path to your table and guide you to your seat?
These are the signs you also need to keep an eye out for. It means his guardian instincts are kicking in when you’re around him, and that’s a GOOD thing.
Does he dig you? Sign #3: He’s touching you
Ok, this is pretty obvious, but surprisingly a lot of my female clients and friends miss this one.
It’s not that they’re oblivious to it, though. A lot of times, they’re subconsciously denying the possibility, or downplaying this sign because it’s “too good to be true.”
And I always tell them that for most men, going out of their way to touch a lady as a HUGE barrier to breach.
Some guys of course, will cross this boundary at an inappropriate time (i.e. your garden variety jerk at the subway, etc.), but this is more of an exception than the rule.
For the men you do know, they will have carefully considered the ramifications of making physical contact before doing it. And that means your guy is probably attracted to you if he happens to touch you during an appropriate situation.
For instance, you might notice him touching your arm when he’s trying to highlight a point during the conversation. Maybe you’re goofing around and he mock punches you in the arm or shoulder.
These are signs of him testing the waters, so to speak. He’s trying to feel you out and see how comfortable you are around him.
In a lot of ways, this also goes hand in hand with the last sign. You can bet he’s getting those tingles when he has his arm around you to protect you from the big, bad world.
You can also think of it as him “marking his territory” and to keep “predators” at bay.
Not that he’s actually claiming any sort of ownership over you, but it’s more of a guy’s way of showing he cares (protective instincts, remember?).
Attraction Alert #4: Watch his smile
Not all smiles are equal, and him flashing his pearly whites may or may not be the sign you’re looking for.
Here are a few ways to tell that his smile has a more-than-friends ring to it:
– Do his eyes have that special twinkle that you won’t find in your average grin? A guy who has it bad for you will go the extra mile by putting all his facial muscles to work. That means you’ll see his teeth AND his eyes will squint ever so slightly.
– Is he doing it a lot? If he’s feeling it, your guy will naturally jump on the next chance to give you that sweet smile. One thing I often notice is how men smile just a little too long when they share a moment with their lady, or laugh with her over a private joke.
– His smile is basically giving off this “I’m really stoked to be with you” vibe and his face can’t help but show it. A man who’s genuinely happy to be in your presence will manifest his emotions in one way or another – his face included.
He’s digging you signal #5: His animated and expressive body language
If your guy’s feeling those sparks, he’ll have a kind of energy and excitement that’s palpable. And you’re likely to see this in the way he moves.
First off, check out his hands.
When a man’s around someone he’s attracted to, he’ll express his energy through his hand gestures. As he goes through the points he wants to get across, his hands will be moving around during the conversation.
Then, check out his shoulders and torso. Men draw a lot of their masculine posture from these two areas, so he’ll angle these in your direction if he wants you to notice him.
Not only does he want you to take in his manly frame, there’s also a sexual undercurrent going on here. Facing his torso – and consequently, his hips – is him telling you he’s not interested in anything platonic.
More importantly, your guy is going to be agreeable to your opinions and thoughts in the conversation. He’ll be more than willing to see things from your perspective, and his body language will reflect this state of mind.
That means his gestures will be more empathic than other guys, such as the way he nods while agreeing with you.
“I’m so into you” Sign #6: He’s trying to mimic you
You know how some people just seem to be on the same page? You’ve probably experienced this yourself, but can’t put your finger on why this happens.
Well, body language is a big (but not so obvious) part of this. Guys aren’t consciously aware of it, but he’ll be mirroring your own movements when he’s feeling attracted to you.
This is his way of creating common ground with you that’s under the radar, but an equally powerful indicator of male interest. You just need to develop an eye for it.
If your guy is imitating the way you stand or sit, you can bet that he’s trying to get in your good graces. That goes double if the rhythm of your breathing is the same as his.
Take it as a sign that he wants to make feel that you’re two peas in a pod and that he’s a good match for you.
He doesn’t want to be “just friends” Clue #7: He’s fidgety as heck
Remember that energy I was talking about? There’s also another kind that you need to look out for, which is a little anxiety on his part.
A guy who’s interested will be feeling that uncertainty that puts him on edge. Your approval is a HUGE deal to him, so his mind will be racing with thoughts like “Oh man, I hope she likes me…”
And again, his body language will betray his true feelings. So one way to tell if a guy likes you is if he can’t seem to stay put.
He’ll be fidgety and his hands will try to expend this nervous energy. I know this is off-putting to some women because it makes them uneasy.
For instance, they’ve told me how guys ram their straws into their drinks at a bar or keep playing with their napkins or silverware during dinner.
But if you’re into him, try cutting him a little slack. He just feels that there’s a lot riding on this one, so your guy is just trying to alleviate that anxiety.
These are all important signals to find out if a guy likes you, so keep them in mind the next time around. You’ll find these to be handy in feeling him out and figuring out your next move.
However, you might be interested in taking things to the next level when it comes to reading his signals. While these signs we talked about are essential, there are plenty other subtleties that will give you an even CLEARER picture into a guy’s mind.
In the dating game, you’re better off upgrading your man-reading skills to know a guy inside-out right from the start. That way, you can quickly find out if you should just be friends with him and move on – or treat him as a Potential Soulmate.
- 1 One of the the hardest things to figure out is a guy’s intentions. Did that hot co-worker of yours chat you up this morning because he thinks you’re girlfriend material?
- 1.1 Watch for this sign #1: The Eyes Have it…
- 1.2 Guy interest indicator #2: Is he protecting your space?
- 1.3 Does he dig you? Sign #3: He’s touching you
- 1.4 Attraction Alert #4: Watch his smile
- 1.5 He’s digging you signal #5: His animated and expressive body language
- 1.6 “I’m so into you” Sign #6: He’s trying to mimic you
- 1.7 He doesn’t want to be “just friends” Clue #7: He’s fidgety as heck