"How Compatible Are We?" - Find Out If He's Right For You!

By: Carlos Cavallo
 |

When you're looking for a life partner, the first question you need to ask is how compatible are we?

Compatibility in a relationship will help you understand if you're right for each other. Yes, you can take a quiz to find out more about your compatibility. (I'll point you to my compatibility quiz in just a moment.)

article relationship advice are you compatible How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

Which one is The One?

Your personality, your interests, and so many other qualities can be used to figure out whether you and your significant other are compatible with each other.

You've probably been told that compatibility is one of the most important things in a relationship. But there's lots of stuff that will tell you what really makes a love connection work.

And there are some unexpected signs that you might miss.

First let's clear up some myths:

MYTH 1: If you have too many differences, you're not compatible

This one is very misleading. The fact is that you do need some differences or you run the risk of being too much like each other.

Relationship compatibility needs two people who are willing to work with one another. Inevitably, you will have conflict in your relationships. What's more important is how you handle your arguments and disagreements.

MYTH 2: You might have to change to be compatible

Again, this is false. If you are changing your habits and behaviors to match your partner, or to save your marriage in some way, this is a disaster waiting to happen.

dating relationship question how do I know hes the one How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

Fizzling out...?

Part of the reason that opposites attract is because we want to connect with someone different from ourselves. Our level of attraction is in direct proportion to how unique this person is.

Keep in mind that anything you change just to match him becomes something that turns boring later on. You can never sacrifice your unique individual qualities and characteristics just to seem more "compatible" with him.

Keep this in mind when you answer the questions on the compatibility quiz.

MYTH 3: How compatible you are means: how many things you both like

While you should like some things in common, you also want some variety and diversity in your interests.

The truth is that happy couples don’t always have as much in common as you might think.

Research findings show that the happiest couples have some different interests that they do while NOT together.

compatibility signs is he the one How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

Happiness is the spice of life!

Being in a happy relationship is a function of how much effort and focus you put on it, not on the relatively "easy" situation of just being alike.

Which makes sense, if you think about it. Most people rely too much on the easy part - simply liking the same things. Anyone can match in that way.

The HARD PART is being willing to WORK on the relationship when things are difficult. That's the true test of "compatibility!"

Unhappy couples often blame "incompatibility" for their relationship dissatisfaction. They put a high value on 'similarity,' as if being more alike would fix their troubles.

When we blame incompatibility, that's shorthand for "I lost the will to work through the really tough stuff." Many times, this also means "I just found it easier to find a new person."

MYTH 4: In order to be compatible, your personalities must be the same.

Another mistake people make about how compatible you are is thinking that you must have the same opinions and beliefs. While this certainly helps, you can't match everything.

16 How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

And when you consider that we often change our opinions later in life, you get a new perspective on the important factors that make up a couple.

Your personalities should be compatible - but not the same!

MYTH 5: You need to be compatible in bed.

Many people believe that you have to be compatible with sex.

But what does this even mean?

The fact is that if you are truly in love with each other and connected in your hearts, you will find compatibility in the bedroom. You'll work things out.

You'll simply have the desire and the motivation to meet your partner's needs.

MYTH 6: Your zodiac signs must be compatible.

Bottom line: You can't tell what compatibility you have with your boyfriend from his birthday, or the position of the stars.

Yes, checking your astrological charts can be fun, but the best focus is on the day-to-day real issues of your relationship. Unfortunately it's always easier to - again - blame stuff we can't control so that we don't have to work on the things we DO control.

Be sure to spend most of your attention looking at his willingness to meet you halfway rather than whether or not he's a 'Taurus' or Libra man.

MYTH 7: When you're compatible, you don't argue.

Incorrect!

This is one of the biggest mistakes people make about compatibility. Instead of trying to find the right partner for the right reasons, they seek to avoid conflict.

how do I know boyfriend I are compatible How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

Have healthy respect for one another...

Arguments are a necessary part of relationships. You simply can't avoid them.

And you cause more problems when you try to avoid conflict in your relationships. You also develop a bad habit of not facing your problems!

But what helps make them less frequent and less intense is knowing that you're both on the same team. You look for ways to meet your relationship goals together.

Your arguments will simply be a way to grow CLOSER than ever, when you know what REAL compatibility is!

MYTH 8: To figure out how compatible you are, you should be friends first.

NOPE!

Another big mistake, that tries to remove romantic pressure is a way of making a better relationship. The truth is that if you want a romantic connection, both partners need to start with attraction and desire.

You also have to keep your intuition turned on and not let your feelings run away from you.

If you're the type of person that can't stop from jumping in feet first, there's a good possibility your problem isn't really compatibility. Your problem is more likely controlling your impulses - and fear of loss!

If you're brutally honest with yourself, you may have noticed that anytime you started out as friends first, you lacked the passion and fire necessary to make it a romantic love story.

Okay, so those are some of the myths you should watch out for. There's plenty of them, as you can see.

But now let's shift gears and start to talk about how you CREATE compatibility with your man.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 1: Make sure he's got at least a few activities in common with you

It's a good idea to have activities you can share with each other. They don't all have to match, but your guy should be open enough to share in some of your hobbies and interests.

dating relationship tips signs you found soulmate How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

Recipe for love...

Again, it's more important that he's willing than if he appears to instantly match all of your interests. After all, you should have things to share with each other along the way.

Challenge each other to grow together!

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 2: The stuff you like isn't as important as the values you share

After all, which is more important:

  • He likes the exact same music / movies you do?
  • He wants to travel to the same places you do?
  • He likes to party like you do?

OR

  • He loves music in general and exploring new groups
  • He enjoys the novelty of visiting new locations
  • He enjoys being fun and social

The second group is obviously more important than the first. They reflect more reasonable and realistic compatibility.

It's an attitude that will last through your relationship. Long after the sparkle of infatuation has disappeared.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 3: Make sure you're both on board with the money

The most common area of compatibility that splits couples up is their attitude towards money.

If you don't share a similar attitude about your financial situation, it's easy to build up resentment for your partner. Most marriages end because of disagreements around financial decisions.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 4: Celebrate each other's freedom

dating advice tips signs youve found mr right How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

Feels good...

One of the most unlikely areas of compatibility is your individual freedom. The more freedom you feel within your relationship, the more affection and patience you will have.

Freedom within the relationship is especially important for man. Not so that he can step out on you, but so that he can feel his independence. Most women go in the other direction which is why she tends to smother him and scare him away.

Smothering your man is one of those (accidental) mistakes that women make from fear of losing him.

The more trust and space you allow him, the more likely he is to willingly keep pursuing you. The less freedom he has, the more he will doubt his emotions and feelings for you.

COMPATIBILITY RECIPE 5: It's how you complement each other

how do I know hes compatible with me How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

You're a perfect fit.

Instead of focusing on how many things you share, take a look at how well you fit together.

  • Do you have the same goals for creating a family together?
  • You find inspiration from learning from each other? Sharing interesting ideas together?
  • Is conversation easy between you? A two-way street?

You sense that your partner always has your best interest in mind? They want what's best for you more than almost anything else?

Almost everyone in the world dreams of sharing their future with a person that matches them in some way.

Forget the old rules and instead focus on what really matters in your relationships.

How compatible are YOU?

Would you like to find out?

I've got a weird quiz that can tell you more about your relationship - and whether you're really right for each other.

This quiz works because it looks at YOU and whether you are going to be compatible with most men.

You see, guys are almost universally similar in what they want in a woman. If you understand what he wants, you can be compatible with any guy you want!

Go take the "Weird Compatibility Quiz" here...

how to tell he likes you from text messages How Compatible Are We?   Find Out If Hes Right For You!

Carlos Cavallo's Dating Advice Guru Relationship Tips For Women
Carlos Cavallo - Dating Advice For Women

Carlos Cavallo Dating and Relationship Guru

FREE Report!

The 7 Mistakes Women Make That Make Men Pull Away...

  • The REAL Reason Men Run From Relationships...
  • How To Know If He's Still Interested In You...
  • Is He Afraid To Commit? Find out...
MORE
  • Take The Quiz!...
  • Listen to Carlos podcast

  • Carlos Cavallo's Relationship Tips

    Dating & Relationship Advice Published By:

    Morpheus Productions, LLC
    1115 Madison St NE #1047
    Salem, OR 97301

    1-888-414-0780

  • MOST RECENT POSTS:

  • Take The Quiz!
  • DATING & RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

  • DatingAdviceGuru Product Catalog
  • START HERE - RELATIONSHIP GUIDES:

  • featured program
  • More Articles

    Are You Smothering Him? Find out...

    When it comes to a relationship, there are signs you are smothering him. And like it or not, one of the things in life a girlfriend doesn't want to do is smother her partner. There are lots of reasons for this coming up in a relationship. But the most important advice for you to know […]

    Read More
    "How Compatible Are We?" - Find Out If He's Right For You!

    When you're looking for a life partner, the first question you need to ask is how compatible are we? Compatibility in a relationship will help you understand if you're right for each other. Yes, you can take a quiz to find out more about your compatibility. (I'll point you to my compatibility quiz in just […]

    Read More
    How To Kiss A Guy - Tips & Secrets No One Taught You!

    For most women, the first time you kiss a guy is important, because it's the first intimate contact you have with him. Let's talk about how to kiss a guy - and how to make him crazy for you when you do! Let's get real here - you're probably not a beginner. But you do […]

    Read More
    How To Start a Conversation On Dating Apps

    It's tricky enough talking to people in person, but what if you want to start a conversation on dating apps? How do you do it? After all there are a crazy number of apps out there for your phone, and even websites for those of you dating on your computer. Online dating is a huge […]

    Read More
    How To Apologize to Your Boyfriend

    It can be tricky to admit you're wrong. BUT if you made a mistake, you need to know how to apologize to your boyfriend (or your husband). It's an essential skill for any woman that finds herself needing to make amends. After all, anyone can make a mistake or act out of impulse and say the […]

    Read More
    13 Things You Should Never Say To a Guy

    It's probably pretty obvious but there are things you should never say to a guy. Some things are better left unsaid when all is said and done. One of the questions I ask all of my newsletter subscribers is, "What have you said to a man that you regretted?" And it's one of the most […]

    Read More
    What A Man Is Thinking When He Pulls Away

    What is a man thinking when he pulls away from you? Is he thinking about the relationship? Is he thinking about another woman? What exactly goes through a man's mind when he pulls away from the relationship? That's what were going to investigate here. The truth is going to surprise you. Very often a woman […]

    Read More
    The Best Cure For A Broken Heart

    If there's one pain that we experience that we would prefer to avoid it's a broken heart. But there is a cure for a broken heart, no matter how painful it may seem right now. But the most important thing you need to ask is, "Does my heart have to stay broken?" "Can I win […]

    Read More
    The 7 Attitudes Men Love About Women - Do YOU Have Them?

    Let's talk about the attitudes men love about women. A lot of people get this wrong, so it's really important for you to get it right. If you do, he'll find you irresistible. If you don't, you'll struggle. Let's look into the most irresistible attitudes for women - the ones men can't resist. And probably […]

    Read More
    How To Tell If He Likes You By His Texts

    So you're texting a guy, and you're wondering how to tell if he likes you by his texts. How do you really know what he thinks about you? It's hard to NOT read into whatever words he sends to you, after all. You finally exchanged numbers with that guy. You know the cute guy you […]

    Read More

    WHY HE STOPPED LOVING YOU...

    FREE EBOOK & VIDEO Shows you why you're not his priority anymore

    - The REAL Reasons Men Disappear

    - How To Know If He's Still Interested

    - Is He Afraid To Commit? Find out!

    Your Book is on the way... Check your email now!

    linkedin facebook pinterest youtube rss twitter instagram facebook-blank rss-blank linkedin-blank pinterest youtube twitter instagram