3 Reasons Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him
“I can’t stop thinking about him!” – Having a crush on a guy isn’t easy…
Have you ever been in a situation where you can’t stop thinking about him? You wake up in the morning, and there he is – on your mind first thing.
- You think about him on the way to work or school…
- You think about him every time you see something that reminds you of him…
Infatuation is a 24/7 job it seems.
It doesn’t even matter if you are together or not. In fact, it would be fantastic if you were, but being apart is driving you crazy.
You might not even really know much about this guy. Which makes it all that much more crazy in your head.
You can be any age, any place in your life, and a guy can just knock you on your butt. I know married couples that each have a crush going on – AND their relationship is great!
So what gives?
Why can’t you stop thinking about him?
And what’s it going to take to get your life back under control?
Your first step should be to ask yourself what it is that you find so attractive about this guy. Why is he on your thoughts so much?
Is it a chemistry thing? Or is it something else?
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The best thing you can do is to whip out that pencil and your journal and work out what it is that you find so irresistible about him.
The second thing to do is look at yourself and how you view your status next to this guy. If you think for a moment that he is better than you, or you don’t measure up in some way – guess again.
Keep things in perspective when it comes to your situation. You probably feel inferior in some ways, and even intimidated… But don’t.
As the saying goes, no matter how gorgeous and fantastic you think he is – someone is tired of his crap. Keep him in perspective.
But as it happens, there’s a reason why this guy is on your mind so much.
It comes down to some physical – and psychological – science.
Let’s dig right in with the 3 reasons you can’t stop thinking about him…
He’s on your mind and in your thoughts – Reason 1: Your brain has been reprogrammed
There’s a part of your brain called the “Reticular Activating System.” (RAS for short.) It’s a small bundle of nerves that is basically the traffic cop of your brain.
You ever buy a car and then suddenly see that car everywhere?
Could be shoes, or a purse instead of that car, but the effect is the same.
Your brain got reprogrammed – your RAS, basically. You told your mind what was important to you, and now it’s pointing it out in your environment.
Your RAS is also connected to a phenomenon called the Baeder-Meinhof syndrome – also called the “frequency illusion.”
Baader-Meinhof is the phenomenon where one happens upon some obscure piece of information– often an unfamiliar word or name– and soon afterwards encounters the same subject again, often repeatedly.
It might even seem like coincidence – or even some kind of cosmic signal.
But you know what? It’s not. It’s just your brain bending your reality.
It happens more than we think, and you have to be on the lookout.
And that’s one of the big reasons a guy will stick in your thoughts like a catchy song from the 1980s…
So watch out that you don’t fall for the trickery of the mind…
Why can’t I stop thinking about him? – Reason 2: Your hormones are on FIRE…!
Well, not literally or anything. But your brain is dumping chemical after chemical into your system, and it’s making you more suggestible and on edge.
Here’s a short list of the chemicals at work:
You have a virtual cocktail of hormones raging through your brain when you get infatuated like this, and it creates a whole new reality where you can’t stop thinking about the other person.
Why can’t I get him out of my head? – Reason 3: Suppression makes it worse…
So by now you’re probably wondering how you wound up so obsessed with this guy, right?
Well, for you to understand how it works, let’s do a quick experiment:
For the next 5 seconds, close your eyes and do NOT think about a purple unicorn…
Don’t think about it, and don’t let the image into your mind.
Okay, now if you’re like most people, you couldn’t help yourself. You saw that purple unicorn whether you wanted to or not.
Trying to suppress a thought just makes things worse. Telling yourself to stop thinking about him is only going to reinforce the fact that you keep thinking about him!
It’s enough to drive you crazy, isn’t it?
Darned if you do and darned if you don’t.
Trying to suppress such thoughts can even lead that person to appear in your dreams. It’s called the rebound effect.
The key to overcoming this – if that’s something you want to do – is to REDIRECT your thinking, not try to stop it.
Instead of indulging and ruminating about him endlessly, you need to steer those thoughts toward something else – something less glowing and romantic.
For example: Focus on the natural emotional evolution you go through with your relationships.
Infatuation always leads to what? Eventually, love.
A warm comfortable place. Usually.
Reality sets in and you realize that no matter what you thought going in, there’s a relationship you need to work on here.
And his flaws will always come out eventually, which is both a bit of a buzz-kill and a blessed relief. If you were to live your life in infatuation, you’d go right out of your mind.
So stay grounded – and stay real.
Don’t go thinking into the future, either!
No indulging in fantasies of marriage or happily-ever-after. Stay out of that zone for your own good.
Far better to stay grounded in reality.
Your neural circuits – your RAS, and your subconscious mind – will be primed to think about your love interest, simply from being awash in these love chemicals.
So always remember that your mind is working to reinforce this love interest in your thoughts. And every time you think about him, you’re going to make this guy your overwhelming focus.
The cycle will keep going all on its own.
And, ultimately, you gotta ask yourself – why don’t you just go for it?
Why not ask him out and let the chips fall where they may?
Okay – I’ll tell you what to do next to get the ball rolling –
Step 1) First, figure out where you’re feeling an “emptiness” in your life right now. This is where you feel unfulfilled, and it’s also very likely why you’ve got a crush on this guy.
If it’s just a hole in your heart, then figure out if he’s really a good fit for you, or just a case of overwhelming chemistry.
Step 2) Be careful you don’t start OVER valuing him too soon.
He’s just a guy, and if you start chasing him in your mind before you’ve even gotten a date, you’ll be in the worst position to get him to fall for you.
Make sure you keep an eye out for red flags and other behavioral signs that suggest he might not be the best match for you.
(Some of these signs include: treating service staff horribly, flipping out over the smallest things, and so on. You can also check out a more detailed list of warning signs by clicking here.)
Step 3) Get out there and meet some OTHER guys.
The last thing you want to do is leave yourself completely vulnerable to this guy, only to be crushed if he doesn’t return the interest in you.
Make sure you’ve got your own social and romantic calendar balanced with other possibilities. There are many reasons why, and I reveal you more in The Connection Code.
You gotta get out from under this spell he’s got you in, eventually. So it’s either give up on him (don’t, unless you think he’s bad news), move in on him (if he’s unaware, this is an option), or get on his radar soon.
Of course, if you want the simple, short formula for true love, here you go:
- Find a complete stranger…
- Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour…
- Then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes…
Am I pulling your leg?
Is that really all there is to it?
YES! York University psychologist, Professor Arthur Arun actually experimented on this in the lab.
And you know what?
It worked so well that – after 34 minutes of this experiment – several test subjects started dating – and one couple got married.
It could work for you – but do you know HOW to do this the right way?
- First of all, don’t find a stranger – you don’t want to wind up married to a weirdo.
- Second, you gotta know WHAT to reveal to him that’s “intimate.”
- And Third – you gotta know how to get him to open up and reveal his intimate details…
The rest will come easily…
You CAN take control of your relationship, and where it’s going.
If you want to know what will create an unbreakable connection with the man you want, CLICK HERE…
Go watch this short presentation – play it now…
And something off topic, check out some second date tips.