How to Stop Thinking About Someone FAST 

How to Stop Thinking About Someone FAST 

Whether you are obsessing about your newest crush, or have anxiety about your recent break up and don’t know how to stop thinking about someone, this article is for you! “I can’t stop thinking about him!” – Having a crush on a guy isn’t easy…

Have you ever been in a situation where you can’t stop thinking about him? You wake up in the morning, and there he is – on your mind first thing.

  • You think about him on the way to work or school…
  • You think about him every time you see something that reminds you of him

Infatuation is a 24/7 job it seems. It doesn’t even matter if you are together or not. In fact, it would be fantastic if you were, but being apart is driving you crazy. You might not even really know much about this guy. Which makes it all that much more crazy in your head.

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You gotta sort out those feelings before they drive you too far up the wall…

You can be any age, any place in your life, and a guy can just knock you on your butt. I know married couples that each have a crush going on – AND their relationship is great! So what gives?

Why can’t you stop thinking about him?

And what’s it going to take to get your life back under control? Your first step should be to ask yourself what it is that you find so attractive about this guy. Why is he on your thoughts so much?

Is it a chemistry thing? Or is it something else? The best thing you can do is to whip out that pencil and your journal and work out what it is that you find so irresistible about him.

The second thing to do is look at yourself and how you view your status next to this guy. If you think for a moment that he is better than you, or you don’t measure up in some way – guess again. Keep things in perspective when it comes to your situation. You probably feel inferior in some ways, and even intimidated… But don’t.

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It’s fun having your head in the clouds, but make sure some part of you is still down to earth…

Carlos Cavallo, Dating and Attraction Adviser

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As the saying goes, no matter how gorgeous and fantastic you think he is – someone is tired of his crap. Keep him in perspective. But as it happens, there’s a reason why this guy is on your mind so much. It comes down to some physical – and psychological – science.

Let’s dig right in with the 3 reasons you can’t stop thinking about him… 

He’s on your mind and in your thoughts – Reason 1: Your brain has been reprogrammed

There’s a part of your brain called the “Reticular Activating System.” (RAS for short.) It’s a small bundle of nerves that is basically the traffic cop of your brain. You ever buy a car and then suddenly see that car everywhere? Could be shoes, or a purse instead of that car, but the effect is the same.

What happened?

Your brain got reprogrammed – your RAS, basically. You told your mind what was important to you, and now it’s pointing it out in your environment. Your RAS is also connected to a phenomenon called the Baeder-Meinhof syndrome – also called the “frequency illusion.” Baader-Meinhof is the phenomenon where one happens upon some obscure piece of information– often an unfamiliar word or name– and soon afterwards encounters the same subject again, often repeatedly.

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This is your brain on that love high…

It might even seem like coincidence – or even some kind of cosmic signal. But you know what? It’s not. It’s just your brain bending your reality. Again.

It happens more than we think, and you have to be on the lookout. And that’s one of the big reasons a guy will stick in your thoughts like a catchy song from the 1980s… So watch out that you don’t fall for the trickery of the mind… 

Why can’t I stop thinking about him? – Reason 2: Your hormones are on FIRE…!

Well, not literally or anything. But your brain is dumping chemical after chemical into your system, and it’s making you more suggestible and on edge. Here’s a short list of the chemicals at work:

  • Adrenaline
  • Dopamine
  • Serotonin
  • Oxytocin
  • Vasopressin

You have a virtual cocktail of hormones raging through your brain when you get infatuated like this, and it creates a whole new reality where you can’t stop thinking about the memories of the other person. 

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Those love goggles will do a number on you if you’re not careful…

Why can’t I get him out of my head? – Reason 3: Suppression makes it worse…

So by now you’re probably wondering how you wound up so obsessed with this guy, right? Well, for you to understand how it works, let’s do a quick experiment

For the next 5 seconds, close your eyes and do NOT think about a purple unicorn… Don’t think about it, and don’t let the image into your mind. Okay, now if you’re like most people, you couldn’t help yourself. You saw that purple unicorn whether you wanted to or not.

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Trying to suppress a thought just makes things worse. (people with OCD have a bit of trouble with this test) Telling yourself to stop thinking about him is only going to reinforce the fact that you keep thinking about him! It’s enough to drive you crazy, isn’t it?

Darned if you do and darned if you don’t. Trying to suppress such thoughts can even lead that person to appear in your dreams. It’s called the rebound effect. The key to overcoming this – if that’s something you want to do – is to REDIRECT your thinking, not try to stop it.

Instead of indulging and ruminating about him endlessly, you need to steer those thoughts toward something else – something less glowing and romantic. For example: Focus on the natural emotional evolution you go through with your relationships.

Infatuation always leads to what? Eventually, love. Then what? A warm comfortable place. Usually. And then? REALITY!

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There’s no fighting it…

Reality sets in and you realize that no matter what you thought going in, there’s a long time relationship you need to work on here. And his flaws will always come out eventually, which is both a bit of a buzz-kill and a blessed relief. If you were to live your life in infatuation, you’d go right out of your mind.

So stay grounded – and stay real. Don’t go thinking into the future, either! No indulging in fantasies of marriage or happily-ever-after. Stay out of that zone for your own good.

Far better to stay grounded in reality. Your neural circuits – your RAS, and your subconscious mind – will be primed to think about your love interest, simply from being awash in these love chemicals. So always remember that your mind is working to reinforce this love interest in your thoughts. And every time you think about him, you’re going to make this guy your overwhelming focus.

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The cycle will keep going all on its own. And, ultimately, you gotta ask yourself – why don’t you just go for it? Why not ask him out and let the chips fall where they may? Okay – I’ll tell you what to do next to get the ball rolling –

Step 1) First, figure out where you’re feeling an “emptiness” in your life right now. 

This is where you feel unfulfilled, and it’s also very likely why you’ve got a crush on this guy.

If it’s just a hole in your heart, then figure out if he’s really a good fit for you, or just a case of overwhelming chemistry.

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Beware of getting lost in your own head – not all mental appetites are healthy…

Step 2) Be careful you don’t start OVER valuing him too soon.

He’s just a guy, and if you start chasing him in your mind before you’ve even gotten a date, you’ll be in the worst position to get him to fall for you. Make sure you keep an eye out for red flags and other behavioral signs that suggest he might not be the best match for you.

(Some of these signs include: treating service staff horribly, flipping out over the smallest things, and so on.  You can also check out a more detailed list of warning signs by clicking here.)

Step 3) Get out there and meet some OTHER guys.

The last thing you want to do is leave yourself completely vulnerable to this guy, only to be crushed if he doesn’t return the interest in you. Make sure you’ve got your own social and romantic calendar balanced with other possibilities

There are many reasons why, and I reveal you more in The Connection Code. You gotta get out from under this spell he’s got you in, eventually. 

So, it’s either give up on him (don’t, unless you think he’s bad news), move in on him (if he’s unaware, this is an option), or get on his radar soon.

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It’s hard to see straight in the heat of the moment…

Of course, if you want the simple, short formula for true love, here you go:

  • Find a complete stranger
  • Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour…
  • Then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes

Am I pulling your leg?

NOPE…

Is that really all there is to it? YES! York University psychologist, Professor Arthur Arun actually experimented on this in the lab. And you know what? It worked so well that – after 34 minutes of this experiment – several test subjects started dating – and one couple got married.

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It could work for you – but do you know HOW to do this the right way?

  • First of all, don’t find a stranger – you don’t want to wind up married to a weirdo.
  • Second, you gotta know WHAT to reveal to him that’s “intimate.”
  • And Third – you gotta know how to get him to open up and reveal his intimate details…

The rest will come easily…

How do you Stop Thinking about Your Ex after You Break Up? 

It’s painfully hard to force yourself to stop thinking of someone when you know it just can’t work out. If only we could just switch off our brains, it would make break ups so much easier! Unfortunately we can’t just flip a switch, BUT there are several practical things we can do to retrain our brains to not associate the emotional state of missing somebody with the absence of their presence in our lives. 

You may be asking yourself questions like:

  • Why did he break up with me?
  • Will I be single forever?
  • What did I do wrong?
  • Can I win him back?

And on and on…

The best way to forget about someone FAST is to eliminate any questions about your relationship that just ended. You will need to find out why it ended in order to stop these questions from eating away at you (so you can stop thinking about him) and you also need to make sure that there is NO chance of a reconciliation so you can actually move on. Getting closure is the only way you will achieve this.

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Learn how to connect with him – keep reading…

The following tips that you could use to stop missing someone and realize where you’re going wrong at the same time.

  • Make a Decision. What is it that you really want? Do you want to get over him or do you just want to stop being obsessed with him? Sometimes, all you need is a little clarity to move on.
  • Accept What Is. Don’t ignore or avoid thinking about your break-up. Instead, accept the fact that the break-up happened. It’s okay to spend a day or two mourning it by yourself. Once you feel saturated by thoughts, it is time for you to let go and move on.
  • Stop Pretending. Don’t pretend that you don’t miss him. Don’t try to forget that he existed. Instead, you need to focus on ways to avoid being pulled under by it. 
  • Move On. The best way to stop thinking about someone, is to find someone else to think about. And no, that doesn’t mean you need a rebound relationship; think of others you can serve. It’ll work wonders.
  • Don’t be a Stalker. It’s easy to hope for happy reunions. Instead, give up on planning ways to “accidentally bumping into him” and accept the fact that you are trying to stop thinking of him. 
  • What Bothered You About Him? It’s easy to overlook his flaws when you’re infatuated, but it’s time to knock him off of that pedestal you have him on. Once you realize he wasn’t as perfect as you thought he was, it will be much easier to avoid falling in love with him.

 

  • Out with the Blues. It’s so easy to throw a pity party, get depressed and suffer from low self-esteem, especially when you feel like he walked all over you. Laughter is the best medicine. It’s time to have a good time. 
  • No Trolling. It is time to delete and block! Social networks have made it so much easier to be a troller. While it might seem like social media is a gift; that is the farthest thing from the truth. You will never be able to move on unless you stop having anxiety about your ex’s life. 
  • Have some Self-Respect. You loved him and he walked all over you and treated you like poop. He didn’t respect you and he doesn’t care about you. Do you respect yourself? 
  • Find a Hobby. Learn or do something that’s always excited you, be it playing games or joining a dance class. It’ll fill your mind with fresh, happy thoughts that’ll eventually wipe away all traces of the person you’re trying to get over.

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  • Self-Love. Women are incredibly hard on themselves. Please don’t try to find flaws in yourself to find a reason for his behavior. Sometimes, guys are just toxic. There’s nothing wrong with you, except for maybe you just don’t love yourself enough.
  • No Chick Flix. For a little while, it may be best to avoid romantic movies (even comedies), and love songs. It will just bring out all of your raw emotions and turn your world up on end. Instead, watch fun movies.
  • It’s Vacation Time. You know that vacation you’ve always wanted to take? Sometimes, the best thing is a change of scenery. A fabulous vacation with your girlfriends to clear your mind and focus on new things is just what the Dr. ordered. You’ll come back feeling a lot better and have some clarity. 
  • He Who??? It’s time to stop gossiping and complaining about him. 
  • Fake it til you make it. As hopeless as your life may feel right now, you need to push through those feelings before they consume you. Go out, and meet new people! Pretend like you’re having fun and before you know it, you won’t have to pretend any more.
  • Don’t make it Easy. Don’t let him know how much he has hurt you. Always remember that, the clingy girl who’s having a hard time moving on is the weak person in the relationship. And the weaker and clingier you act, the easier you will make it for him to get over you. Do you really want to make it that easy for him? 

Just remember these tips on ‘How to Stop Thinking about Someone FAST.’ They will help you realize that you need to move on. 

As hard as it is to face, he doesn’t care about you anymore. And you definitely have what it takes to move on, as long as you believe in yourself.

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You CAN take control of your relationship, and where it’s going.

If you want to know what will create an unbreakable connection with the man you want, CLICK HERE…

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