Body Language Signs Men Use To Show Love
7 Body Language Signs Men Use To Show Love
If there’s one way to read a person, it’s through their body language. What body language shows us is what a person is really thinking and feeling on the inside, despite what their words say.
If you want to know if a man is falling for you, or if he’s really in love with you at all, the shortcut to his truth is through reading his signals. Body language is a way for the secret thoughts and feelings he has to “leak” out into the real world.
I mean, let’s face it – guys don’t always tell you what’s on their minds – or in their hearts.
Do you remember picking flower petals as a little girl and reciting: “He loves me… he loves me not…” ?
As a girl, that was fun to play at – the hoping and the promise of some boy’s interest in you. In fact, it was almost more fun than KNOWING if he was interested, if you’re truthful about it.
Once you KNOW, the mystery is gone.
Well, I’m assuming you want a better method for figuring out what he wants in your relationship.
First of all, I want to get rid of a few myths right now:
BODY LANGUAGE MYTH 1: Look at his pupils…
I used to actually tell guys to watch for this one, too. But after many years of using this as a signal – and having it be wrong – I decided that this advice is largely a myth.
Carlos Cavallo, Dating and Attraction Adviser
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Yes, you can sometimes see a person’s eyes dilated, and it is an involuntary response. But the reality is that there are too many other things that can affect it. And unless you’re a doctor with a penlight ready to go, you’re not going to see this signal easily.
My advice: Ignore the pupils – watch the eyes instead. I’ll talk more on this in a second.
BODY LANGUAGE MYTH 2: Which way is he facing…
Another popular body language signal for a guy being in love is that he’s going to face you directly – or his hips will align to face you… or his toes… or something along those lines.
Well, yes, it’s true that if he’s facing you more directly, he’s giving you the majority of his attention. But it’s not guaranteed that he’s in love with you.
You need more to go on than just his body direction.
BODY LANGUAGE MYTH 3: One signal will tell you everything…
There’s a lot of belief that you can take any ONE body language signal and it will reveal his true feelings for you. Whether he loves you or not.
This is an over-simplification. You can’t look for just one signal to tell you if he’s into you or not. You need to take in the big picture.
Studies have shown that women typically show about 52 different attraction body language signals – where men only show about 10.
This means you have to be sharp and look for the ones that matter.
So let’s jump into the real body language signs men use to show their love…
BODY LANGUAGE LOVE SIGN #1: He goes little-boy awkward…
If you’ve ever seen a guy act embarrassed, you probably know how adorable it is. He starts to act like he’s a 6 year old again at the playground. When you pick up on this little-boy energy, you’ll know he’s finding feelings for you that he won’t have for just any woman.
He may get goofy, or he might even get clumsy and drop things.
He might get embarrassed easily when you’re around.
It’s this kind of sincere display that’s a great indicator of a man’s affection.
BODY LANGUAGE LOVE SIGN #2: He’s a mirror…
Mirroring is when we adopt the body language of the person we’re with.
- If they lean on the bar, we lean on the bar…
- If we start playing with our drink, they start playing with their drink…
- If they play with their clothes, we play with ours…
And so on. It’s the subconscious way we try to attune to another person.
So when he starts to mirror your posture, match your breathing and your speech patterns, then you know he’s showing his love.
BODY LANGUAGE LOVE SIGN #3: He steals your words…
Not only will a guy match your tonality, he’ll also start using the exact same words or phrases you’re using.
It’s very common to hear a guy start to talk like you as a way of syncing himself to you. It sends the message “We’re alike, you and I…”
Sometimes this is obvious, sometimes not. But listen for the words he uses with you and what they reveal. He’ll start to show his interest by reflecting back the same words and phrases you’re using.
BODY LANGUAGE LOVE SIGN #4: Delicate touch…
Guys treat their girls like beautiful dolls they get to admire. The awe that a man feels about your beauty is reflected in his body language as well.
Men will often use their fingertips to delicately caress your skin…
Or he might caress your hair…
Or he might touch your arms or hands…
Light touch is a primitive way that a guy gets to experience the woman in his life. It’s both gently erotic as well as a way for him to express desire for you.
BODY LANGUAGE LOVE SIGN #5: STRONG touch…
Men like to lay claim to their “possessions.”
Let’s face it, women do too.
Women do this same exact same thing in their relationships. A woman will hang on her man or attend to his clothes or appearance. Fixing his hair, straightening his jacket… Leaning on him…
To show what?
Ownership. That she’s his.
The way a guy will do the same thing is to keep his arm around you, a very primitive show of his “ownership” of you as a girlfriend. “She’s mine” he’s saying.
Or he might stand behind or close to you to show his domain. These are all the innocent demonstrations of a guy that wants to keep the woman he loves close.
BODY LANGUAGE LOVE SIGN #6: Wow…
Humans are very prone to display something called “micro-expressions.” These are quick flashes of emotion that we cannot control.
Paul Ekman is a leading researcher in this field. He’s even created software tools to train people to read these “lightning quick” displays.
Guys will give off a subtle expression flash of “WOW!” when they first see the woman they’re in love with. It’s involuntary, which means it’s reliable.
But it’s also a very short window.
The initial display of desire is rarely there for longer than a fraction of a second. So you have to watch him show you the subtle signals, like:
- His eyebrows raise
- You catch a glimmer in his eyes
- He flashes a toothy grin
- He takes a quick breath in
- His lips part for a second
- You’ll catch him staring
All of those are very slight signals of interest from a man that happen very quickly. And you may find that you receive them so quickly that you wonder if what you’re feeling is real.
BODY LANGUAGE LOVE SIGN #7: The BIG Picture – and your gut…
Ultimately, the best signal if a guy likes you is that he just asks you out.
Or if you’re in a relationship, he just TELLS you how he’s feeling…
If he’s into you, enough to take action, then he will take action.
All this effort to figure out whether a guy wants you or not is going to come down to the simple gestures that are direct and sincere. It’s not going to be a big complicated interpretation.
Beware the man that WON’T act based on his interest. Because the bottom line is that if he doesn’t ACT on his desire for you, it doesn’t matter how much he actually does desire you.
It’s not always obvious, though.
Guys will hide their feelings from you.
Why does he do this? Mostly to give himself the illusion of control. Men don’t feel like they have any ability to steer the course of the relationship up front. He feels he has to:
- Do everything to impress you
- Hope that you’ll decide he’s interesting enough to date
And that leaves guys in the weird place of being out of control when it comes to a relationship. It’s not pleasant for him.
So he may hide his true feelings from you…
In the end, you have to look at the big picture of what’s going on with him.
- Do you get a body language signal that feels like he’s interested?
- Do you get a sensation in your gut that he’s into you?
If you feel these things, they’re better than a handful of silly small signals that you have to interpret.
When a guy loves you, you know it.
If you’re in a relationship or not yet, he’ll still show you his feelings in a way that a woman can see.
But you can learn how to read a man’s signals.
From his words to his body language, men are broadcasting a thousand things to you every minute. You only have to learn how to pick up on them.
I just put the finishing touches on a program that can help you understand his true desires: