So you want to know the signs he likes you more than just a friend?
Have you been the best of friends for years and you’re beginning to realize that you have deeper feelings for him, but you’re scared to leave the “friend zone”? Or maybe you just met and are still “just friends”, but you’re hoping for more. Do you just want some clarity so you know how he feels about you, and whether he’s happy being just friends or if he’s looking for something more?
Whatever the reason is, you want to know the truth about his feelings for you. And you definitely don’t want to risk the friendship without figuring out how he feels first. Does he think of you as just a friend? Or does he like you more than a friend?
When you’re attracted to a guy, it makes it very difficult to relax into being with him and just letting go of your wild emotional roller-coaster. Most of the time, this is because you’re not quite sure if he’s into you or not. Which is why it’s so scary at the start of any romance. And when you’re feeling so uncertain about things, it’s also easy to get caught up in whether or not to be vulnerable with him.
After all, you don’t want to risk rejection if he’s not really into you. So let your best Guru friend (uh, that’s me, Carlos) help you out…
Let’s take a look at the signs he likes you – Here are _ signals he likes you more than a friend:
He likes you more than a friend – Signal 1: He’s different around you…
When a guy likes you, he might start behaving differently towards you, ESPECIALLY in a group. If he starts acting “protective” towards you, like shifting himself closer to you in any seating arrangement, or putting his arm around the back of your chair, it’s a sign that he’s interested. When a guy likes you, it’s an extremely abnormal feeling for a man, so he should show signs that he is totally different when he’s around you.
He will go out of his way and do things for you that he wouldn’t do for anyone else. It always seems like he’s there to help out when you need him, and he’s always in a good mood. I always say you can tell how much someone likes you by the amount of effort they are willing to exert for you.
When a guy is head over heels for a girl he will do just about anything for her. Helping her with homework, or giving her a ride is a pleasure, not a chore.
One of the easiest signals to read is whether or not he seems to be treating you differently than his other female friends. Now, of course the best way to do this is to get around him and his female friends, which is pretty scary if you think about it. You’re putting yourself right in the thick of the Jealousy Monster’s lair.
But if you can keep your cool, it’s the fastest way to see if there’s something more about how he attends to you than the other women in his life.
One interesting tactic that some guys use is to start flirting with OTHER girls when they’re actually interested in you. A guy will do this when he wants to see your reaction to him flirting with other women – so that he can tell whether YOU like HIM .
It’s pretty easy to spot this tactic though – watch him when he’s flirting with another girl. If he keeps trying to sneak peeks at you to check your response, you can be reasonably confident that he’s doing it to get a reaction out of you.
Try leaving to go to the bathroom or get something from outside, then see if you can find a sneaky observation point to watch him. If he stops flirting with her when you leave the room, that’s a dead giveaway that he’s just trying to see what you’ll do.
Ultimately, you have to trust your gut on this one. If your instincts are telling you something’s up, chances are they are. Guys are terrible at hiding their interest.
So if you see the signs, you can take it as a signal that you want to give him a “come closer” vibe.
Hard to resist this cool, steely gaze.
Some of the other ways a guy can be “different” are:
Makes you more of a priority…
Spends more time focused on you than others…
Speaks to you in a different tone/emotional state than others…
More than friends – Signal 2: His eyes give him away…
Guys are notoriously bad about eye contact. Yes, we tend to stare sometimes. Even to the point of being a bit creepy.
What is it with men, anyway? Well, first off – guys are visual creatures. This is also probably not news to you.
Men have a heightened visual focus because throughout the hundreds of thousands of years we’ve evolved, man’s greatest survival skill was seeing and recognizing threats with our eyes. If that slight movement in the underbrush might mean a poisonous snake or wild mountain lion, we had to see it ahead of time. If we missed that signal – we were not going to get a chance to procreate and make babies with that same visual ability. It’s the evolutionary momentum in action…
This visual ability also shows up in our search for a mate. Men could tell everything they (initially) needed to know about a woman by taking her in visually.
Some of those visual mating cues are:
Luster and sheen of your hair
Whiteness and clarity of your eyes
Fullness of hips & breasts
These were fast signals to a man-brain that you were healthy enough to bear children (Yes, a man’s FIRST concern about a woman is if he can have healthy children with you. Not JUST the sex…). So as early as we can, we’re going to look at you. Drink you in with our eyes… Because if we’re attracted to you, we gotta know what we’re getting into before we start actively courting you.
And when a guy sees a woman that strikes his fancy, he’s going to find it damn irresistible to look at you over and over. Taking in all the detail of your face and body. If you catch him stealing glances at you, there’s definitely some interest there.
He’ll also probably hold your gaze a little longer than you might find comfortable. It’s probably not the “creep” part of him – it’s the wow-struck part of him. Eye contact is one of the most important things to notice about a guy. Many guys will try to secretly look at you when he thinks you’re not watching – so if you catch him looking away when you glance over at him, that’s a good sign!
More assured and confident guys will actually make and hold eye contact. It’s true. If you want to “test out” whether he’s attracted to you, try this: Look over his face for around 3 to 4 seconds (don’t make it awkward and hold it too long!) and then look away.
After a second, look back at him – if he holds eye contact with you he’s definitely interested. If he glances towards your mouth he’s REALLY interested. However, if he breaks eye contact and looks away, he’s probably not into you.
If you catch him looking left, then looking right at your face, then looking right – congratulations, he’s very attracted to you. But be careful – don’t confuse a shy guy’s reluctance to make eye contact with a disinterested guy’s. If he’s shy but attracted, he’ll keep looking over at you, you just have to wait and see if he does it.
The wanted affections of a gentleman...
A man’s eyes can say a lot about what he’s feeling. You should feel a brightness or alertness in his eyes when you look at him, and when you speak he’s always paying attention. He stays off his phone – A big sign that a guy likes you in modern times is how often he’s on his phone when he’s around you.
We all know smartphones are the ultimate anxiety reliever in a bad situation, so if you see him doing everything in his power to stay looking at his phone that’s a bad sign. When a guy is interested in someone he will pay close attention, and even avoid looking at his phone when he needs to. If you see him ignoring his phone when you’re around that’s a good sign that he likes you.
More than Just Eye Contact – Signal 3: Does He Notice When You Change Your Look
Change your look recently? Maybe you changed the way you do your hair, or put on different makeup, or even changed your hair color. Whatever it is – if he notices and compliments you on it, it’s a big sign that he’s interested.
That’s because if he notices – he’s paying special attention to how you look, which means that he’s attracted to you. If he compliments you – even better, that means he’s trying to get closer to you.
From Friends Into Lovers – Signal 4: Silver tongued devil…
Well, the fact is that most guys aren’t the most elegant (or subtle) about their words when they dig you. He’s probably going to give you some seriously obvious signals with his words. He’ll show you with the things he says that he’s digging you…
So what do most guys do when they like a girl? What do most of them talk about? It’s pretty simple actually – they talk about themselves.
Lots of guys feel like they have to prove themselves to a woman they’re interested in, so they’ll start bragging (or humblebragging) about themselves during conversation. This also plays into when guys get rowdy and risky around the girl they like. If you see him going for the big trick, or basically doing anything outgoing for your attention, it’s a good sign he likes you.
Men will always try to flex and impress a girl they like, whether they are trying to or not.
One good way to see just how interested he is in you is to watch his body language during a conversation. Try saying something softly. Does he lean in to hear you? Great! Does he stay close to you after leaning in, or does he retreat away from you? Keeping an eye on how he positions himself during your conversation will help reveal how interested he is in being with you.
How much he likes how you look... Typically this is his way of saying he finds you physically desirable.
He says: “So maybe we could get together or something?” What he’s saying is that he wants to take you on a date, but doesn’t want to risk rejection. Guys are always indirect about asking you out because of the looming specter of rejection. So yeah, it’d be nice if he was direct – but don’t count on it. Just take what you can get for now.
He turns almost anything you say negatively about yourself into something positive… Again, you might miss this if you’re focused on that self-deprecating female thing. Keep an ear out for a guy who doesn’t agree with your modest description of yourself. He’s trying to make you feel his interest.
He’s going to try to compliment you many different ways, so you have to be alert. When he compliments you he is trying to communicate his interest. And he’s telling you that he thinks it’s a good match. He’s got the lovin’ if you got the interest.
Does He Like Me? – Signal 5: Protective & Jealous…
Guys have a streak of possessiveness in them, just like women. We want to keep our investment safe. If a guy wants to invest his heart and time and energy into you, he wants to know that you don’t already have a boyfriend or you’re interested in another guy.
This is clearly his way of finding out if you’re in a relationship. Do him a favor and be clear with your answer, don’t dance with it. Let him know your status so he gets a clear “Move Forward!” message.
“So who’s that guy that called you?”
Yep, he’s really asking “Are you sleeping with him? Dating him? Do I have to worry about you picking him over me?” Just like when you ask him the same sort of question.
You get the point…
He’ll ask you questions that are trial balloons, hoping that you’ll clarify your interest in that “other guy.” And then maybe you will hint about your interest in HIM. He might even seem to get a little cold or distant for no reason in these early interactions.
He’s probably not rejecting you in those moments. He’s just trying to work out some confusing feelings of jealousy he might have. So if you see a little green-eyed monster show up, that’s a big clue he likes you.
Does he really like me? – Signal 6: Closer… CLOSER…
Touching someone else and being touched is a super important way of gauging how interested and how intimate he wants to be with you – and a great way to figure out how he feels is to watch how he reacts to touching you and being touched by you.
Ultimately, he’s going to want to feel you as close to him as he can get. It will start out with occasional touches on the arm or back. He not only wants to satisfy his OVERPOWERING desire to sense you with his own skin, but he wants to establish some ‘ownership’ over you.
Feels good to be in his space.
Look, I know how that sounds. You think it’s sexually objectifying, maybe… That’s fine. Because EVERYONE objectifies their love interest at the start. You’ll find yourself doing it, too.
I feel compelled to explain this to you, because there’s a lot of misinformation about what men are doing when they move in toward you physically. Just let that be a part of your natural sexual attraction that comes up. He’s going to start getting closer to you with his entire body.
Usually it starts with his occasional touch, then the rest of him wants in on the action. He might brush up against you, or really insert himself into your personal space. He will be looking for any opportunity to come in contact with you.
Guys who are interested will generally find excuses to touch you – like touching your hand when he laughs, or brushing your leg with his without moving it away, or even giving you hugs for the flimsiest of reasons.
When a guy likes you, “accidental” touching is a major sign that he is moving towards deeper feelings. Next, watch what happens when you touch him. If you brush your hand gently against his neck or hold his arm gently with your hand – does he flinch away?
Does he move his hand away from yours if you touch him? Or does he move to stay in further body contact with you? Here’s one thing to remember – if he’s typically a shy person, he might jump a little bit when you touch him. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you – keep watching him to see the truth.
And if a guy is doing this, it’s almost assured that he likes you. Just remember that – for a man – sexual desire IS liking you in those early stages. It’s part of his natural order.
You can tell a LOT about what a man is thinking and feeling just by watching his body language carefully. In fact, here’s something that most women don’t realize about men – while women have more than 50 different body language signs to let a guy know they’re interested… men only have about 10. So you’re in luck as this narrows down the signs you can use to tell if he likes you.
Some of the most common signs that a guy likes you is that he looks at you a lot. I mean, like a lot. If he’s looking at your face a lot or making a lot of eye contact, that’s a sign he’s interested. Also, if he’s leaning towards you or positioning himself close to you, it’s a major sign that he likes you.
His smile is also another major indicator you can use to tell if he likes you. Men will be happy around the girl they like, and when they are around a girl they are interested in a smile will be impossible to hide. It will be a subconscious reaction to the inner joy he feels when he is around you.
When a guy likes you it’s impossible for him not to smile. So, if it feels like he’s always in a great mood when he’s around you, that’s a hefty sign he’s interested in you.
Want to know if he’s subconsciously interested? Watch his hands, feet, and legs. If they’re pointed or angled towards you, it tells you a lot about what he’s really interested in.
When he first sees you, does he straighten a tie, or fix his shirt, or smooth down his hair?
This is a very telling sign that he’s thinking about his appearance while you’re near – because he wants you to find him attractive.
Watch his sitting positions too. Men who sit with open legs or with their hands on their hips are trying to impress – and are usually interested in the woman they’re talking to.
You can also tell if a guy likes you by how shy or extroverted he’s acting. If you see a guy acting out and going the distance when he’s around you it’s a major sign he likes you. Guys will take risks and try to show off when they’re around the girl they like.
Men are inherently providers, so this is a primal way that men subconsciously show off their skills, and the risks they’re willing to take to provide for a girl they like.
Turn him on!
Does He Act Interested in Things You’re Interested in? – Signal 8: ESPECIALLY if he’s never acted interested in them before!
You can always tell a guy likes you by how interested he is in what you do. Especially if something you brought to his attention becomes his favorite thing. Like, let’s say you told him to listen to 21 Pilots or to watch Downton Abbey because you love it. If it becomes his new favorite thing, chances are he’s interested in you, especially if he is showing sincere interest in the topic. That means he has sincere interest in you.
Does He Look Nervous Around You? – Signal 9
Guys aren’t usually nervous around women they aren’t interested in, so if he’s nervous around you, that’s a good thing. It means he’s probably worried about making a good impression. Women tend to forget how intimidating they can be to a guy that likes them.
Does he nervously laugh whenever you’re near?
Is he wiping his palms on the front of his pants?
Is he fidgeting?
Is he suddenly shy? If the outgoing guy you knew is suddenly shy around you, it’s pretty obvious he likes you. Men don’t come down with a case of shyness for no reason unless they feel they have something to lose.
Watch His Friends Closely! – Signal 10: He introduces you to the important people in his life
Listen carefully for how he introduces you or refers to you in a group. Chances are, if he’s got feelings for you, he’s not going to say, “My friend [name].” That’s because in his head he’s thinking about you as more than a friend, and it doesn’t feel right to him to say that you’re just his friend.
If he’s interested in you, he might have told his friends. Or, they might have guessed it from him in the first place. If he’s introducing you to his friends to begin with that’s a big sign he is interested in you.
He will begin to integrate you with the people he cares the most about. When you’re around him and his friends, watch his friends closely. For example, if they start making subtle jokes and making fun of him, and the jest is that he’s interested in you – then he probably likes you!
Watch his friends when you’re with him. Do they smile when they see you? Do they smirk at him when you walk into the room – like they know something you don’t?
Has he mentioned you to his family or have you heard from other people close to him that he mentions you? If he’s doing any of these things it’s a sign he likes you. One thing to avoid here – watch out if one of his friends tells you he likes you when you haven’t gotten that vibe from him at all.
His friend might be looking out for himself – to your detriment!
Watch His Actions – Does He Copy You? Signal 11
A very good subconscious sign to look for is if he’s mirroring your actions back at you. This is often an unconscious tell that people have that they’re interested in someone – he won’t even know he’s doing it. If you make a gesture, and then notice he makes the same gesture soon after, it means he’s probably interested in you.
Is he a "copy-cat"...?
A great way to let him know you’re interested too is to copy his actions as well! Touch your face after he touches his, smooth your hair when he smooths his, and so on. This one is kind of obvious – but if he follows you around, he wants to be close to you and therefore he’s interested in you.
If he sits down at the same table as you for lunch, or follows you to the break room at work, he wants to be closer to you.
Does He Tease You? – Signal 12: Flirtation… Hello Middle School
If he teases you at all – definitely pay attention. Is it a fun, gentle tease? If so, it could totally mean that he’s attracted to you.
Be aware – younger guys are the most likely to use this tactic to demonstrate interest. However, if he teases every girl he flirts with, it might just be his style. But if you’re the only girl he teases, chances are that he’s got feelings for you.
Teasing a girl is just about the most forward way to get a girl’s attention, and it’s a great sign to tell if a guy likes you. There is only one reason a guy is trying to get a girls attention and that’s because he’s interested.
You’re Always on His Mind – Signal 13: What are you Doing Six Months from Now?
Does he always want to include you when he’s hanging out with his group of friends, or at parties? Is he looking for reasons to spend time with you? If he makes plans with you that has anything to do with his future, this is a major sign he likes you as well.
He is likely doing all in his power to ensure that you both get to spend some quality time together. If he is always the one who is making plans to go out with you (and only you), even if you both have other mutual friends, this is a sign he likes you.
He’s Always Calling and Texting You First – Signal 14
In a friendship, it’s usually pretty equal how much each person contacts the other. If one friend is always the one who has to reach out to hang out or talk, it means that the friendship is probably imbalanced. But if it’s a friendship between a man and a woman, and he’s the one always calling and reaching out to you – it’s because he has a strong desire to spend more time with you and keep talking to you.
"I just called to say..."
And usually, that means that he thinks about you as more than just a friend. Friends obviously call and text each other – that’s what makes them friends. So it’s up to you to determine whether he’s texting you a pretty normal, friendly amount… or he’s texting you a lot more than that.
One way to figure it out is to watch what he’s texting you about. If he’s texting to make plans, or about plans you’ve already made, that’s a pretty normal thing to text about. But if he’s texting all the time just to say hi, or coming up with excuses to call and text you a lot more than you’d expect from a normal friend, that’s a huge sign he likes you.
So there you have it, 14 Signs He Likes You More Than Just a Friend.
Men are great at many things, but communicating that we like you is not one of them. It’s intimidating, for a man to be vulnerable enough to put himself out there. It’s pretty much against our nature of self-preservation. So we make it a little challenging for you to figure out if we are into you.
For that, I apologize. But if you get out of your own way and pay attention, you’ll see that we’re giving you some very obvious signs that we’re in to you. It’s in our body language. In our speech. In our comfort or discomfort with you. In how fast we respond to your text or how eager we are to see you again.
Go with your gut. If you feel that he likes you, he probably does. He may be shy or scared of getting hurt, so he might be slow to make a move. If you think he’s worth the wait, be patient with him timing is everything.
And – look, there are many more signals than just these. I gave you 14 BIG ONEShere, and I’ll be giving you more, so stay tuned to this blog… But what do you do AFTER you’ve established his interest in you?
Turn him on!
What can you do to ensure that your romance and relationship has the best possible chance to blossom? The best thing you can do is to cement yourself in place as his priority: BeHis OBSESSION. It’s easier than you think to trigger a man’s obsession switch… And if you want to create a lasting connection & commitment with him – you MUST know how to flip his obsession switch.
I have a short presentation that explains how this switch works in a man’s mind – and how you can control how he feels about you, every step of the way… Go see this quick presentation HERE…
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