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There’s a recent article for wives on how they can make their husbands happier, and it looks like a LOT of folks have something to say about it.
I don’t know what’s your take on this article, but one thing’s for sure: it’s a polarizing piece that’s drawn plenty of reactions from the opposite ends of the spectrum.
I’m sure you’ll have plenty to say after you’ve gone through the article.
Or do you agree that women need to be more aware of the potential mistakes they could be making?
As for me, I think BOTH people in a relationship can make use of the author’s advice (she did mention that men can also apply it too).
That’s probably where the flak is coming from; these folks feel that there’s too much focus on women (and in turn, blaming them).
Since a relationship involves TWO people, I think BOTH of them are equally responsible for its health. If only one of you is working to make things better, the other person needs to get in the act as well.
With that, I do agree with the article when it says that you should get your feelings out in the open. It’s pretty much useless to pretend you’re not upset, which only prolongs the inevitable.
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to lash out at others. Arguments escalate mostly because of harsh words and negative labels thrown at others.
It’s best to stay on point, attack the issue, avoid hurling accusations and suggest what you can both do to resolve the disagreement.
Here’s the other thing that occurred to me after reading the article – any relationship needs a sense of balance.
Just imagine having a job that you really liked, but had to do it seven days a week without any days off. As much as you’re having fun, you can’t avoid feeling worn out after a while.
Pretty soon, your exhaustion is going to exceed your patience, and you’ll end up getting jaded about your dream job.
Being the perfect partner is impossible, and no one should expect you to be. I think that as long as you make the habit of keeping your relationship in good condition, it should be more than enough to keep that connection going.
As it happens, there is a way to know your partner better by learning his Connection Style.
Yours, in Perfect Passion,
- Carlos Cavallo