Did your non-negotiable personality traits match up with the ones they talked about?
According to Ty Tashiro (the psychologist in the video), emotional stability and kindness are the lifeblood of a happy, lasting relationship.
He says that these two traits will predict whether you and your guy will be together for keeps - or eventually call it quits.
Do you agree with this? But before you answer that, let’s take a closer look:
#1: Less Drama, More Happiness?
So, Tashiro claims that if couples are less prone to mood swings and have a positive outlook on the world, it’s likely that they’ll last for decades and decades to come.
To me, that makes sense - guys (me included) would rather date a girl who is predictable in the sense that she won’t surprise us with emotional ups and downs, or pick a fight over something trivial.
Guys won’t tell you this, but we want someone who isn’t going to complicate their lives because we’re generally NOT big fans of unnecessary relationship drama. Sure, the occasional argument over something that actually matters is fine.
But if a guy’s spending way too much time fighting over the relationship instead of enjoying it, he’ll probably reconsider his options - and an exit strategy.
#2: The Curious Case of the Nice Girl
Tashiro says that “agreeable-ness” is the key to a happy relationship because this type of person has a lot of empathy.
A partner who cares about your perspective means they’re more generous when it comes to emotional support and affection.
More importantly, a “nice” partner also doesn’t keep score - she gives freely and trusts that her partner will give back equally in the future.
However, he pointed out that these same people “get a bad rap in dating” for being nice, which is often perceived as a negative trait.
The way I see it, people see kindness as a weakness ONLY when “being nice” spills over to “being a pushover.”
When you’re TOO nice, you’ll put up with bad behavior, which means people will respect you less for it.
For instance, I’ve helped plenty of women put their foot down with men who treat them like a backup or a booty call.
I had to make them understand that the longer they tolerate poor treatment, the more their guy will keep acting the same exact way.
So, being nice is still a GOOD thing as long as you know when to draw the line and keep guys from walking all over you. In short, I’m on the same page with Tashiro on this one.
But what do you think? Is he telling the truth, or are your top two personality traits totally different from Tashiro’s?
By the way, I’ve got the key to making guys respect you and treat you like a prize - all without asking him for it.
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