What happened was that somewhere in the natural process of courtship, he felt that you two were a "done deal." That he'd won you.
You see, a man needs one thing in his relationship - and it's the one thing that women DON'T want. In fact, you're probably working really hard to eliminate this from your relationship.
And it's KILLING the love between you and him.
I've seen it again and again, and it's the biggest destroyer of relationships...
This one thing a man needs is...
Uncertainty creates suspense, as in "will they or won't they?"
"What's the deal with her anyway? Boy, Hitchcock got nothing on her..."
Here are just a few of the top "will-they/won't-they"s from television:
"Remington Steele": Pierce Brosnan and Stephanie Zimbalist
"True Blood": Eric & Sookie
"Muppet Show": Kermit & Miss Piggy
"Sex & The City"
"Cheers" - Sam & Diane...
This list could go on forever.
And I haven't even mentioned the biggest one of the last 20 years....
Remember the show "Friends"? The huge will-they/won't-they was Rachel & Ross.
Yes, it's kind of a cliche that this kind of plot device is a shameless manipulation.
All these examples prove the point - we need suspense in our relationships to drive up the passion and chemistry.
But eventually, a woman needs the commitment to become REAL. You get tired of the "will we or won't we?" and need to know where this is going.
And so does the man!
But if you make things TOO secure - TOO "established" in the hopes of luring him into making a commitment - you run the risk of short-circuiting his interest.
Cool your jets and play the long game...or else he might get funny thoughts of running away...
At the start of the relationship, a man's insecurities about whether you were into him was what drove him to chase you in the first place. Then, you slept together, and it became REAL. He knew you wanted him. Sex is the ultimate answer to that question.
And this is where a woman will usually give it up too soon, in the hopes of pulling him into a real love connection.
You figure once you sleep with him, he's yours. AND you don't want him falling into some other hussies bed!
When, in fact, this actually short-circuits the process of love in a man. A guy needs to be kept in "chase mode" to make sure the connection is really solid and indestructible.
Right now, you might be in a relationship, and you want to know if you've gotten him good and hooked.
If you want a man to love you - you have to create a real CONNECTION to him...
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