I don't know any woman these days that doesn't have a phone and the ability to text.
Even one of my aunts - at age 71 - texts me regularly to check in on me. (I think my cousin got her started.)
"Now dear, what is this 'Tinder' I keep hearing about...?"
And the fact is that your phone is a clever bit of technology to use to your advantage.
Here's why: smartphones have been designed for MAXIMUM addiction...
That's right - those app designers and game makers all know exactly how to keep you addicted to your phone. Which means you've got a hotline into his head - and all you have to do is use it right.
- A man may not text or call as much, but he's always got this gadget on him...
- If you know how, you can break into his every waking (and even sleeping) thought...
FACT: 95% of women don't sext a guy because they're uncomfortable with it, and just don't know what to say.
I'm going to get you past that obstacle right now.
First, there is no nasty language in any of these "sexting" messages. In fact, you could have your mom - or even your grandma - send them, and they wouldn't be embarrassing.
You see, I know what makes a man feel attraction for you - and the big lie that almost EVERYONE wants you to believe - is that men want you to send XXX-rated text messages with naked pictures.
This is one comfort zone you don't have to leave...
This is not only completely false - it's destructive.
Sure, if you're in a bit of a randy mood and you want to send him something a bit on the dirty side, go right ahead.
But what I usually see is that women feel like they have to send dirty messages to guys that:
1. Aren't comfortable with them - but they do it to get his attention and interest...
2. Appeal only to his sexual needs...
3. Just don't feel authentic
4. Don't work - because men are actually subconsciously turned off when women TRY to be dirty...
Well, the good news is that you don't ever have to do this.
You can sext him without getting downright filthy.
Okay, now you need to know what to text him that will get him fantasizing about you non-stop.
Sexting Message 1: Send him a 'Naughty' picture...
Okay, this one is a bit of a 'trick' but it works GREAT to start the process of gently teasing a man into wanting you more.
Find a smooth patch of skin on your arm and take a picture of it with your phone - then send the image to him with this text: "Just got out of the shower and thought you'd like this..."
Dynamite, meet fuse...
That's it, no explanation after that. Let his imagination run wild.
Some people even go so far as to bend their arm and take a picture of the crease of skin there, making it look like cleavage, or other naughty areas. You don't need to do that, but you can if you feel gutsy.
But this little "trick" is almost guaranteed to get him fascinated with you.
Remember - the goal is not the "money shot" - it's to trigger his curiosity.
Sexting Message 2: "Once upon a time" him...
This one is a load of fun, and it's good for figuring out where his head is at almost any time you want to know.
Send him this:
"Once upon a time, there was a naughty boy who had the hots for a girl he knew. One night, he came over to her house late at night and..."
And just leave it like that. See what he comes up with.
This works really well because it puts him in charge, and lets him take the lead on the nastiness that ensues.
Not all fairy tales have to be for kids...
And don't be afraid to text him back with: "C'mon! I gave you a perfect start to our fairy tale... I'll give you a second chance..."
Sexting Message 3: Send him a challenge...
Here's the text: "Here's your mission for today: Send me a picture of a couple doing a PDA"
When he asks you, tell him a "PDA" is "public display of affection."
Yeah, he'll most likely text you back with: "What's in it for me?" or a similar response.
Is he up to the task? Only one way to find out...
You can tease him with "rewards" for the activity, but I say you should be ballsy. Just tell him to do it with NO promise of reward.
If he doesn't bite into this challenge, he was never that into you.
Sexting Message 4: Send him a tease...
Guys LOVE being teased sexually - as long as we know it will eventually pay off.
Send him something that SOUNDS sexy, but is really a double entendre.
A double entendre is something that could be taken either "dirty" or clean - depending on how you read it.
Basically anything with suggestive words like: Hard, turned on, sausage... you know.
Don't underestimate the power of the mind's eye...
Like this: "I had a dream last night that I was eating this spicy sausage..."
OR: "If a light sleeper sleeps with the LIGHT on, what does a hard sleeper do?"
Sexting Message 5: Leave him hanging...
Heheh. So to speak...
There's a rule in show business - and they call it the first rule of show biz:
Always leave them wanting more...
I want you to adopt this as your #1 rule for dating men.
You never want a man to feel completely satiated - and yes, I mean that in EVERY way.
In recent years I've noticed an epidemic of women (and men, in a lot of cases) who are convinced that if you just give enough to a person - or let them walk all over you like a rug - that they'll somehow realize you're the one for them and fall in love with you.
Sorry. It doesn't work like that.
People don't fall in love with what you DO for them. They fall in love with the idea of what they might GET later.
You'll be surprised how far he'll go with the RIGHT kind of push...
Does that sound selfish and manipulative to you?
Welcome to the human race, where we do all the most irrational things imaginable. Especially in relationships.
So how do you text him in a way that you "leave him wanting more"?
Easy... Try this one:
"Fill in the blank: Your (blank) makes me want to (blank)..."
Sure, he'll take that in a dirty direction. Let him. And then you simply don't respond, or just change the subject.
You'll leave him hanging, and he'll feel that aching unrequited feeling.
Another one: "Nighty night... And if you dream of me - remember I like it rough..."
Here's one that's a bit cocky - but guys love it:
"When it does happen, your legs will shake, and your neighbors will know my name...."
The key here is to not get into a bunch of back and forths with him. The more you leave him without the answer he seems to want so bad, the more he will be fascinated and curious about you.
Fuel his desire...
You can be sexy, without being overtly sexual.
Here's a little bonus tip for you - if he sends you a dick pic at any point in your sexting with him, just say this:
"Thanks, I've seen these before. Hopefully you've got more inspiration for me..."
Don't react to his childish side - spank him and let him know he's got to do better.
Let him know he's got to seriously up his game to stand a chance with you. It's all about posture, honey, and if you're making it easy on him, he'll lose interest!
Keep him inspired and wanting you, by using these priceless sexting examples that will have him begging you to be his woman.
First of all you need to understand my method for attracting men. This technique ALWAYS works because it's based directly on the timeless principles of sexual attraction.
Most of what I see women doing these days is reliant on chasing the man. Which is completely wrong for getting a man to:
- Love you (there's actually something he can feel BEYOND love - and I'll tell you more about that later)
- Desire you (desire doesn't always come with love)
- Commit to you
I'll be very clear with you - men don't commit to or marry a woman that is chasing him.
So if you're in that mode right now, STOP. Take a deep breath, relax, and get your head on straight.
Take a moment to slow down...
As the saying goes, if what you're doing right now isn't getting you the result you want, stop doing it!
Doing the same thing over and over hoping for different results isn't persistence. That's called insanity.
So it's better to be sure if you're on the right track - a.k.a. if he's feeling the L-word for you - before you keep flirting with a guy.
After all, you can't start a raging bonfire if you don't have nice, hard wood (heh) to begin with, right?
(Sorry, couldn't help myself - this sexting thing is getting to me.)
And luckily, I've got a super short quiz that'll tell you if your man loves you or not. CLICK HERE now to get started and learn the truth...