Having a man close to you is a wonderful feeling...
The warmth of his embrace...
The smell of his skin...
The safety and comfort when you're near him...
And one of the most frustrating things a woman can feel is the suspicion that you might have accidentally pushed him away...
That you may have even scared a good man off for good.
Well, the truth is this: (WARNING - I'm not going to sugar-coat this)
The reason he doesn't want you or desire you is simply because you never made him feel like you really "GET" him.
You Gotta Show Him You GET him!
Let me explain...
Most women think it's enough to make herself look appealing by fixing her hair, makeup, and clothes. The usual "peacocking" stuff that captures his eye.
The thought goes that, if you make yourself LOOK good enough, he'll desire you and fall in love with you...
But this is backwards. And it feels *desperate* to men.
YES, you absolutely do need to be appealing to the eye (and that does NOT mean you need to look like a supermodel or have backbreaking boobs.) There is no question that this will initiate interest.
What he REALLY needs to feel
is that you UNDERSTAND him
as a MAN...
And you'd be VERY surprised how easy it is to send a guy the wrong signal and make him think you don't get him AT ALL.
For example: A lot of women pretend to understand a man in order to to pry open his heart. But it backfires on her when she doesn't do it the right way...
Like when she pretends to be interested in his hobbies or sports or television shows, but it's just her faking "good behavior." You know, that "getting to know you" pretending that both men and women sometimes do.
QUICK SECRET: Men And Women
Have Developed a Keen Radar
Most human conversations (these days, anyway) tend to have the feel of: "Mmm hmmm. Mmm hmmm. Just waiting for my turn to speak."
To be fair, we all get a little nervous on dates.
And we want to yak it up and make a good impression. But sometimes we gotta drop the whole "Facebook culture" thing and not need to broadcast ourselves or our lives.
SO when a woman pretends (even if she's really sure she's putting up a good act of interest), an alarm goes off in his head when he figures it out (and believe me, he DOES) - and then slams the door to his love on you.
It can happen on the first date
- or the umpteenth...
There's no statute of limitations here
You have to show him that you not only understand MEN - but the unique things about HIM as a man.
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