Why Being Afraid is Unattractive

By: Carlos Cavallo
 |

Have you ever been hurt by a guy? Did you ever experience the soul-crushing feeling of getting dumped or turned down?

Maybe your not-so-pleasant experiences in the past have made you a bit jaded about the future.

Because of this, perhaps you get the jitters whenever you entertain the possibility of getting into a new relationship with someone – or before going on a date.

If you’ve ever been scared of getting burned like last time, it’s a perfectly normal reaction.

Fear of the unknown – or history repeating itself – is basically your brain’s knee-jerk response to a perceived threat.

mensleep main 300x200 Why Being Afraid is Unattractive

As a woman, you’re subconsciously wary in some way of dating because you wouldn’t want to end up with a loser.

After all, you have to look out for number one, right?

But you can’t shut yourself out to the infinite possibilities out there because you’re afraid. Fear is an instinct designed to protect you, but it shouldn’t rule your dating life.

Consider the following situations, and tell me if there’s a real difference between the two:

-  Shun dating altogether so you won’t get hurt, bury yourself under the bed covers and go on a Netflix binge

-   Take a risk and try your luck anyway

Either way, you’re going to feel a certain degree of anxiety.

So I say: go with option #2.

If you choose the first one, you’ll hurt yourself thinking about the unrealized possibilities, even if there’s a risk of getting hurt.

With that, you might as well take the plunge despite the risk involved.

And besides, if you continue not doing anything about it, you’ll become less and less motivated to improve your situation. You’ll only dig a deeper hole for yourself.

%name Why Being Afraid is Unattractive

That’s not the best place to be if you’re trying to be more attractive to guys!

And there’s another kind of fear that keeps women from experiencing more happiness in their lives. It’s that “all the good men are gone” mentality which gives rise to a desperate, needy attitude.

And as you probably know, neediness isn’t the most attractive of qualities to have.

NEWS FLASH: There are, in fact, plenty of quality men around!

You just need to have the right attitude to keep them around when they come along.

Picture this: you’re out on a date with a cute guy, but your brain is working overtime from thinking about the following possibilities:

-   He won't find you attractive

-   He’ll never call you after the date

-   You’ll say something dumb and turn him off

-   You’ll never find another guy like him

Look, having these fears is totally NORMAL, but it doesn’t mean you actually have to listen to them.

Instead, you can shut off your brain for a moment and take pleasure in the fact that you are, indeed, on a date with this gorgeous man.

%name Why Being Afraid is Unattractive

Maybe he won’t turn out to be the father of your children or the man of your dreams. But does it really matter at that very moment?

By cutting off those fear-driven thoughts like a toxic weed growing in your head, you’ll allow yourself to have some fun with this guy - regardless of the final outcome.

The flip side to this is that not caring will actually boost your chances of hitting it off with him!

Just look at it from his point of view: would you hang out with a girl who’s stuck in her own thoughts, acting aloof and giving off a weird vibe?

Or would you rather enjoy the company of a woman with a relaxed, warm aura that naturally draws people to her?

I think the choice is clear.

So what this all boils down to is that fear is nothing more than your brain showing you a hypothetical scenario. It doesn’t mean it will happen, and you don’t have to let fear rule your life.

Banner 2 240x400 180x300 Why Being Afraid is Unattractive

The good news is that you no longer have to be afraid, because you can do something about it.

It starts with knowing a guy’s unique Connection Style; once you’ve mastered this simple concept, you’ll blast away all the fear, anxiety and uncertainty you’ve been feeling until now. Go here to find out how.

Yours In Perfect Passion...

- Carlos Cavallo

More Articles

"My Boyfriend Won't Make Time For Me!" - 9 Tips To Be His Priority

If you've ever been in a relationship where you want to get the attention you deserve, you might have found yourself feeling neglected and unwanted. You may have even told your friends "My boyfriend won't make time for me! What the heck should I do?" Let's tackle this tricky situation and give you the tips […]

Read More
How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work - 20 Secrets To Success

A long-distance relationship can be one of the most challenging situations for dating. If you want to know how to make a long distance relationship work you gotta know what most women don't know! There are a lot of barriers to keeping a long distance relationship healthy. A lot of people don't believe that long-distance […]

Read More
Is He Just A Friend - Or Is He Interested In You? - 16 Tips!

If you've ever been in love with a guy and wondered: Is he just a friend or is he interested? - you're not alone. When a man and a woman hang out, even if they're only friends, there's always going to be a little bit of sexual tension. Many studies have shown that the number […]

Read More
Dating A Younger Man? 25 Things You Better Know

One of the most controversial parts of dating and relationships is the age of your partner. Is it okay to date someone younger, older? If you're dating a younger man, you better know what to do. We often think about older women dating younger men as “cougars.”  But that label is just not fair. You […]

Read More
Will a Man Change For The Right Woman? Will He Change For YOU?

One of the most common Romance novel plots is the rich, womanizing playboy that finds an amazing woman, realizes the error of his ways, and settles down to be tamed by this amazing woman. But is this realistic? Will a man change for the right woman? Well, we all change over the course of our […]

Read More
When To Date Exclusively - When does a relationship become exclusive?

One of the most important milestones in a relationship is when you become exclusive. It's also one of the most anxious times for women because she's waiting for weeks or even months to figure out “Where is this going?"  So let's talk about exclusive relationships, and when does a relationship become exclusive? In many surveys, […]

Read More
What Do Men Look For In A Woman? 26 Things He Wants From You

Men are hard to read - and even harder is knowing what he’s thinking about your relationship. If you’ve ever asked him what he’s thinking, you know what I’m talking about. You are probably desperate to know: What do men look for in a woman? Maybe you want to get married, settle down and start […]

Read More
Chemistry In A Relationship - Do you have it? Find out…

Chemistry is one of those things that almost seems mystical. And if you don't know what you're looking for, you might not know if you have chemistry in relationship. Everybody talks about chemistry. And it is really important. If you don't have chemistry in your relationship, chances are your passion will just flicker and die […]

Read More
Communication In A Relationship - 9 Tips To Reach Your Man

Any woman who has been in a relationship knows that communication is one of the most important things. In fact, if you don't have communication in a relationship, you don't really have a relationship. But how do you communicate with guys? Men can seem so difficult to talk to. The funny thing is, to men, […]

Read More
How To Be Mysterious - And Make Any Man Desire You

If you ever watched a movie where a woman seduced a man, you may have wondered how to be mysterious like that. How do you make yourself attractive and alluring by being mysterious? Unfortunately, most women don't learn the ancient art of how to use their Feminine Mystique anymore. It's very rare that girls are […]

Read More
linkedin facebook pinterest youtube rss twitter instagram facebook-blank rss-blank linkedin-blank pinterest youtube twitter instagram