5 Not So Obvious Signs He's Cheating On You

By: Carlos Cavallo

No one wants to think that their significant other is seeing someone else behind their back.

It's the ultimate feeling of betrayal, and that's one of the most powerful emotions we have as human beings.

BUT you can spot the signs that will tell you whether or not he's sliding down the slippery slope of infidelity. And if you know the signs, you can also stop the situation from getting out of control - and keep your relationship safe.

safety 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

And that's what we're going to talk about here...

And you'll be able to do it without strapping him into a lie detector. (Because it would be pretty embarrassing to be wrong, no?)

Chances are that you'll ignore the signs that really give away the truth. So I want to give you the real facts to help keep your relationship together.

What I DON'T want you to do is become paranoid that everything he's doing is an indication of some kind of sneaky behavior. If you get it in your head that he's seeing someone else every time you're apart, you'll just drive yourself nuts with suspicion.

Before we get started, I want to cover a few points with you about cheating:

1) The first thing you have to remember is that a happy, satisfied, fulfilled man in a relationship doesn't cheat.

Yeah, I know... every one of your girlfriends has you believing that men will just jump in the sack with the next hottie that comes along if the opportunity is there. (And the slutty little vixen that lures him away from you.)

paranoid 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

Now, if you know me, you know that I don't subscribe to the "all men are cheaters" philosophy. It's a popular opinion that men are the only ones who cheat, and that we do it at the drop of a hat.

Sorry, that's just not true.

In fact, nearly as many women cheat as men.

What IS true is that guys who are unhappy - just like women who are unhappy - will find and justify the means to cheat. It's human nature.

No one wants to walk away from the relationship they have - breaking up is truly hard to do.

BUT test driving another one is always a safer option, which is why cheating seems to be a great option if your old relationship isn't doing it for you anymore.

So if you can remember one thing here that will serve you best, it's this: Keep your man happy!

I mean, you should already be focused on that... Just like he should be focused on keeping YOU happy. But it's something we all have to re-learn every day if we're going to have a happy relationship.

2) Make sure the "rules" are crystal clear...

I've talked with more than my fair share of couples who have a distinctly different opinion on what the "relationship" actually is.

In many cases, the woman had already made up her mind that they were "exclusive" - without having discussed it with him.

Many women fear that conversation and all it entails that they often rehearse it in their head so much they think they've actually had "The Talk" with him. And then they're surprised when he doesn't share the feelings.

suprised 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

Before you get it in your head that he might be unfaithful, you need to be sure that he's on the same page as you about the status of your relationship. And make sure that it's clearly understood - not just implied.

Yeah, most men would prefer a more "informal" dating relationship - to suit their need to feel unencumbered, not because they are on the hunt for another "conquest." So you might have to be very specific with your language.

And while you're at it, make sure you check in and find out what you both consider "in bounds" and "out of bounds" for your relationship.

If he doesn't see it as a problem to go to dinner with an old girlfriend, but you do - he has to know that.

3) Put away your judgment.

I talk to people every week who condemn and vilify anyone who would even consider being unfaithful. Yet, 90% of the people I've dated or talked to have cheated in some way. (And I suspect the other 10% were lying like rugs...)

Cheating HAPPENS, people. And it happens far more than many suspect. (Especially when most people doing it distort reality to make it seem like they're not.)

it happens 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

It's that harsh sting of betrayal (and rejection) that makes us lash out in pain.

Yes, it sucks - but there are VERY few people who ever cheat that did it to hurt the other person.

It was a selfish act that they didn't understand the consequences of. And even if they did, they got wrapped up in the lust and heat of the moment.

Hey, I'm not here to justify the act - just to share the understanding.

Now, let's jump into the signs and indications that your man might be looking to step out on you...

Signal #1: The Usual Suspects

It's a little cliche, but you have to keep your eye out for the obvious stuff that might give away his indiscretions:

- Lipstick on shirts
- Scent of another woman's perfume
- Marks on his body - like bites or small hickeys

Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater - Signal #2: He's top secret with his phone

These days, if you're going to step out on someone, your mobile phone is going to be your primary communication tool. What's more, you'll restrict anyone else from accessing it like it was a matter of national security.

national security 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

So if he's changing his unlock code frequently, that could be a good indication something is going on that he doesn't want you to know about. He'll also be spending a lot more time on his phone with both calls and texting.

Another thing to watch for are a lot of phone calls that he won't let you hear. Occasional privacy is understandable, but a lot of it could indicate a problem.

You may also see him need a lot more privacy from you. Yeah, time for himself is one thing, but when the pattern changes - or the frequency and duration increases - something else might be going on.

What's he up to? Sign #3: Renewed focus on his image...

If your guy is going to the gym a lot more regularly, and he's been upgrading his wardrobe, grooming, and appearance in general, you should consider this a warning sign.

He's obviously trying to prep his appearance for someone - and if it's not himself, there might be a third party involved.

grooming 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

He might even refresh all his "tools" - like his razor, his after shave, his soaps, his cologne, etc.

By the way, guys go through waves of "refresh" where they decide to purge out their old stuff. So watch out for this as well.

Is he stepping out? Signal #4: His weird disappearances...

He goes "dark" for days or more at a time. It's usually some half-baked explanation about a "thing at work", or involving his family and/or friends.

spy dude 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

You might even notice he's spending a lot more on leisure activities for himself and whoever else he's with. And when he is with you, he might as well be on the moon because his mind seems to be wandering far, far away.

The point is that he's shutting you out from the other parts of his life because he's off spending entire chunks of time WITHOUT you. The less details he shares about his "sudden" emergencies, the more you should be concerned about his secretive behavior.

Could he be cheating? Warning sign #5: He's extreme with his interest...or disinterest

He'll either be really into you (mostly out of guilt) - or he will almost completely ignore you. With a cheating guy, his behavior will be on the opposite ends of the spectrum.

For instance, you might notice he's suddenly TOO nice and accommodating.

There's nothing wrong with being sweet of course. But if you feel that he's going overboard with the kindness, that's something you should take note of.

His unexplained burst of enthusiasm might be on account of his affair, or maybe his way of making up for cheating on you.

On the other hand, he might be the complete opposite and act like you're not there. For example, might be giving you one-line responses to anything you say or ask him.

If he wasn't like that at all before, that's a bad sign. Worse, the only attention you get is when he snaps at you or finds something to complain about.

He's probably withdrawn and easily rattled because of the affair - not to mention the mental stress of hiding it from you.

However, you need to remember that not everything is an indication that your man is cheating on you.

Sometimes, you'll spot his desire to just change things up a bit in his life. A man can become dissatisfied and eventually just want to clean house.

The reality is that the groundwork for cheating is often laid for months - and sometimes years - before a person finally takes action.

We hope the other person will notice and suddenly fix their wicked ways - pulling us close once more.

Trust your intuition. If your gut is telling you something is off, then there is.

sadness woman 5 Not So Obvious Signs Hes Cheating On You

He may deny it (so would you if your roles were reversed). So you have to stick to your guns and keep your eyes open.

The truth of the matter is that everyone needs to step up and take notice of the things that could be an indication of the need for something new.

Novelty is always enticing, and sometimes sexual novelty will present itself. We just need to be on alert for the changes that could indicate his infidelity.

On top of being vigilant, you can further safeguard your relationship by making your connection with him as REAL as possible. And the best way to do this is by learning his unique Connection Style.

This is the secret to make any man committed to you and keep him from leaving. If you want to discover how to unlock his desire to stay with you forever, click HERE and get started TODAY.

What To Talk About With A Guy - 18 Tips

Have you ever been talking with a man and found yourself wondering what to say next? You wonder what to talk about with a guy… I'll be the first person to tell you that talking to a man is really not that difficult. The problem is that you only learned how to talk to other […]

Read More
Are You Dating A Married Man? The 26 Rules - And How To NOT Get Hurt

Most women never set out to date a married guy. But for some reason this guy was so appealing and so interesting, and now you find yourself dating a married man. He could be a guy you work with, a guy you met at a party, or really anywhere. Maybe you started talking and realized […]

Read More
How To Make Him Jealous - And Love You More! - 12 Secrets

One of the most common problems a woman has is when a guy seems to be losing interest. And you know that one of the best ways to get him interested again it's figuring out how to make him jealous - and how to make him love you again. It always seems like he's got […]

Read More
Why Do Good Girls Like Bad Guys? 9 Reasons Your Mom Would Never Admit

Have you ever fallen for a bad boy? Almost every woman has felt the attraction for a guy who's a little rough around the edges. And that might make you wonder why do good girls like bad guys? “So why do good girls like bad guys? I had this question for a real long time […]

Read More
Why Do Guys Ghost - 17 Reasons - And How To Stop It From Happening! 

When a guy disappears on you it's one of the most annoying things that can happen when dating. Especially if you started liking him and thought “This one might be different!” And now all you can wonder is - Why do guys ghost? You know the situation: You've been talking to him for a while. […]

Read More
How To Fix A Broken Relationship - 10 Steps You Need To Know

If there's one thing for sure, it's that you will have problems in your relationship. So you need to know how to fix a broken relationship, no matter how bad. The good news is that if you can detect it early enough, a broken relationship can be fixed. And unlike a broken piece of pottery, […]

Read More
The 20 BEST Compliments For A Guy

Women want to feel more seen, heard, loved, and appreciated. But did you know guys do too? Do you know any compliments for a guy to make him feel your love? Let’s put it this way: How long would you stick around if you didn’t feel his love and appreciation? Well, he won’t stick around […]

Read More
20 REAL Signs That He Cheated - Is He Having An Affair?

If you want to create a relationship of love, trust, and connection, you have to know if your man is being faithful. It's also important to see any signs that he cheated - or if he's thinking of being unfaithful or having an affair. Some men can stray - and usually not because he's a […]

Read More
10 BEST Ways To Say I Love You - To MEN!

There are probably as many ways to say I love you as there are people to say it. You might be wondering how to say I love you to someone special. Even more important, you probably don't want to scare that person off when you tell them! One of the most common problems I run […]

Read More
10 Long Distance Relationship Tips - How To Make It Work!

A lot of people believe that long-distance relationships are a really bad idea. In fact, if you know what you're doing with a few long distance relationship tips, you can actually make it work. As a matter of fact, long-distance relationships can work just as well and even better than regular relationships. Whatever "regular" is. […]

Read More
linkedin facebook pinterest youtube rss twitter instagram facebook-blank rss-blank linkedin-blank pinterest youtube twitter instagram