If you feel like you're not able to steer this relationship...
You sense that you can't play games with him, and you don't want to...
You feel a little thrown off because you're not the one calling the shots, and he's even a bit intimidating to you.
How do YOU deal with those feelings?
This loss of control is absolutely necessary for you to feel infatuated with him, so it's a GOOD thing...
Sign You're In Love #2: You're 'rebooted...'
Not only do you feel like you're ready for a deep relationship, you can't even remember your ex anymore. He seems like a distant, faded memory.
You feel open again, your heart is ready for love.
Your brain and your heart are rebooted, and your only system error is that you're feeling a bit vulnerable.
Doesn't it feel awesome to start with a clean slate?
But the risk feels good - like it's genuine...
Sign You're In Love #3: You feel the goodwill returning to your heart...
There are a lot of factors that make a relationship succeed, but one will really make a huge difference: The balance in your emotional savings account.
I'm sure you know what it feels like to have that account go into overdraft, don't you?
Right at the end of a relationship that has taken far too much out of you, you feel depleted. Wiped out.
You can't give what you don't have...
And that was probably one of the signs that you needed to end it. Or that it was good that the relationship did end.
Now you feel your heart is full again. You can invest in the relationship without having to worry about getting your emotional 'money' back right away. You can make small loans, and see if they pay you back.
Remember: Love is ... getting loved in return.
The lame poetic nonsense you hear about loving someone with no expectation of getting back is a myth.
Yes, give with no expectations. A few times, maybe.
But if you don't get the love you want back, you don't blame yourself for wanting the payback. Blame him for being unable to open his heart.
These are powerful - and I'm trusting you to not manipulate a man with any of them.
Good - let's start with:
Make Him Fall In Love - Secret Trick #1: Delight His Mind...
Men really want to know that you're his friend - first.
Did you find yourself just chuckling at that thought?
No, really. It's true.
For all his creepy sexual needs that seem to want to pull you into bed at the first chance he gets, a man also wants it to turn into something long term.
Not every guy wants a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am kind of deal...
WARNING: Most guys will NEVER admit this! In fact, he'd prefer you still believe that old nonsense about men being "commitment-phobes" and "emotionally shut down."
The truth is more sobering...
Guys can only sort women into a few groups. Here they are:
Group 1: Girls he's not that interested in. But he'd still sleep with you. (Yeah, you knew that.)
Group 2: Girls he's interested in AND wants to sleep with. (Another "Duh.")
Group 3: Girls he's interested in AND wants to sleep with ... AND he hopes she will keep him waiting a bit longer.
That Group 3 is tricky, because most women today just give it up way too quickly.
Sorry, it's true.
And it's rarely ever for the cause of feminism, or having the freedom to have "no strings attached" sex.
It's not hard to find the "Group 3" guy if you play it right...
Ask any woman under oath to tell you how she REALLY feels when she 'dates like a man,' and she'll tell you that she wishes she hadn't done it.
So give him a chance to hang out with you, and draw it out into a romance. Don't rush it into the bedroom.
Force Him To Fall For You - Secret Trick #2: Delight his tummy...
I know you've probably heard that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach?
And even MORE true today than it ever has been.
Mostly because - let's be brutally honest here - most women don't know how to cook.
A recent study in the UK showed that only ONE woman in six knows how to cook.
That's about 16 percent...
I'm not telling you some kind of age-old message of chauvinism, here. The simple fact is that we both know a MAN has to have certain skills and qualities for you to find him attractive.
Nothing wrong with having standards...
That's a fact.
And, yes - the same goes for women.
A guy will always be DELIGHTED to find a woman who can prepare a loving meal. Mostly because it's true what they say, about how the love you put into your cooking is the love a man can expect later. A man knows that you'll nurture him.
It's a gift you give him, and he'll appreciate it.
I was dating and single for about 25 years, and I can count on one hand the number of women that could cook.
In the end, I married one of them. You be the judge of that...
Get Him To Fall In Love - Secret Trick #3: Delight his eyes...
Compatibility is the most powerful primal force in romance.
But I'm not talking about the kind of compatibility you read about in online dating profiles. In reality, whether you two held lighters up at the same Hootie and the Blowfish concert in 1995 doesn't make ANY difference to the quality of your relationship.
And no, it doesn't matter if you both like the same colors, or watch the same shows.
What matters is that he sees a synchrony between you. That you appear to have more in common.
The look on your face speaks volumes - and can make or break your connection...
From expressions of interest on your face, to the smile you give him after you're deliciously spent in the bedroom...
A man will be more likely to fall for you if you have a similar expression of emotion on your face. The more facial expressions you share at the same time, in the same way, typically means you will feel a stronger bond of love.
It's a weird quirk of psychology, so don't abuse that one...
Make Him Fall For You - Secret Trick #4: Delight his heart...
Men are happiest when a woman talks to him in a soft, affirming way.
By contrast, a man is most unhappy when a woman is communicating her discontent and grievances.
It goes without saying that you probably feel the same way about him.
So be wary of how you communicate to a man about his shortcomings. Even if he's being a little negative and not telling you what you'd like to hear, you can't fall into the trap of complaining to him - about him.
It's in your hand now - be careful with what you do with it...
He's probably well aware of his own faults by now. What he's most likely waiting for is a woman who knows how to support and motivate him THROUGH those shortcomings.
Is that woman going to be you?
Be careful with your criticism...
Get Him To Fall Crazy In Love - Secret Trick #5: Delight his ears...
Men are visual, as I'm sure you know.
But did you know that he's also very auditory?
A man can be very aroused and inspired with the right words...
So when you know what kind of things to say to a guy, you will inevitably have a leg-up when it comes to getting his heart to open to you.
If you want him to fall for you, you need to say the words that a man needs to hear.
Here are a few of the things he needs to hear from you:
- Words of respect: A man needs to know you respect him. It's the report card that his masculinity needs to see to know he's doing a good job at being a man...
- Words of desire: A man needs to know you want him. So badly that you're ready to tear his shirt off and pull him on top of you the second you walk through the door. (Just make sure the kids aren't home when you do it, K?)
- Words of appreciation: Ooh - this is so huge that I should stop this article right here...
If you make a man feel appreciated, he's going to lose control of his emotions. He'll want you like nothing else. Mostly because he NEVER gets appreciation from a woman...
We just don't know how to tell you, but it is BIG deal for us...
If you knew just how rare it is for a man to get genuine, heartfelt appreciation, you'd drop everything and write a text to all your guy friends with just a short message of gratitude.
Not joking, or exaggerating there. It would astonish you how many of these guys would follow you around like lost little puppies.
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