Yes, it’s natural to outgrow the romantic feelings you have for a person. On the surface, changing the way you feel about the person you love can be a scary thought.
However, once you push past this fear, you’ll eventually understand that you can replace these romantic feelings with a deeper kind of love later on.
Taking Off The Blinders and Moving Forward With Love
But it’s not going to happen without making the effort it takes to get to the next level in your relationship.
That’s why the worst thing you could do is assume that you’ll get through this stage even if you don’t put in the work needed to make the gears turn in your relationship.
And doing that means actively deciding to adjust to these changes instead of turning a blind eye, or resisting them.
Those who don’t do this end up believing that their changes are too much for them to handle. And when they go down this path, their relationship will eventually fall apart like a faulty car, leaving them permanently stranded along the road.
But this is totally preventable. As dangerous as it is to resist change in your relationship, adapting to it isn’t as hard as you might think.
The first step is to stop denying that you and your partner will become different people down the road
Let it be a given that you’ve been changing the moment you become a couple, and it directly affects the dynamic of your relationship.
With this kind of mindset, you’ll spend less energy resisting change and focus on adjusting to your differences.
You might think at first that there’s nothing you could ever disagree about with your partner, but soon enough those differences WILL emerge – and it won’t be pretty.
There’s no getting around the reality that you were raised differently from your partner and you had different experiences growing up.
Like it or not, your respective principles and values are going to step into that ring and duke it out. So, you might as well learn to embrace this chaotic time in your relationship to come out of it in one piece.
And if you want to prepare for this inevitable ‘title fight’, you’ll need to see things from your partner’s perspective.
Ask yourself some key questions about your relationship partner, such as:
“Why is he so passionate when we argue about how we spend money in the relationship?”
“Why does he shut down whenever I make the slightest mention of commitment or settling down? What makes him so skittish about those topics anyway?”
“He seems so stoic at times and I don’t get why he doesn’t share his feelings with me. He thinks I’m too emotional just because I don’t shut him out like he does.”
By exploring these tough questions, you’ll dig into each other’s hearts, revealing that inner part of yourselves that wasn’t so obvious before.
And this is where the REAL growth in your relationship begins.
Slowly but surely, you’ll get past this emotionally turbulent part of your relationship and learn to adjust to your ever-emerging differences down the road.
Of course, this process is gradual and you’ll spend quite some time making those little discoveries and milestones along the way. But all that effort will pay off in the end.
Taking the time to know each other on a deeper level is, in many ways, investing in a richer future for you and your partner. Best of all, you’ll be come to be with OK with the fact neither the relationship or your partner has to be flawless.
By working with those flaws, you can use them as a way to appreciate your partner, warts and all. And then those petty arguments won’t matter as much anymore; that’s because you’ll finally understand WHY you have them in the first place.
That’s the beauty of lasting relationships:
Couples who’ve grown old together know that there are some things they’ll NEVER agree on, but they’ve learned to live with it.
This single quality is what separates them from other couples. But none of this will be possible if you don’t take an active role in dealing with your differences.
By the way, if you’re interested to know what he’s REALLY thinking about, you need to check out “How To Read His Signals”, my program which explains what makes men tick.
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