How to make him worry about losing you - 5 Ways...
By: Carlos Cavallo
If there's one thing that would you happy, it's knowing how to make him worry about losing you...
Have you ever felt like you could "forget" to call your man - and he wouldn't even notice?
Do you feel like he's taking you for granted?
Wouldn't it be nice to make him worry for once about the relationship? And even better - make him worry that he might be losing YOU?
I'm pretty sure every woman has asked herself these questions at one time or another.
Will he miss you?
Knowing that someone misses you and is afraid of losing you is the ultimate power in relationships. And it's also a power you should be very careful of manipulating.
Look, I won't kid you - we all fantasize about this from time to time. Even guys.
It's easy to assume that the other person is always going to be there for you. Once a relationship starts, we all hope this means we don't have to worry about losing them, right?
I mean, we all want the peace and security of being in a stable relationship. The problem is when the guy doesn't tell you where he is, what he's doing, or who he's doing it with. Leaving you feeling unsure, and insecure.
Wouldn't it be great if you could make HIM worry about you for once...?
Games can be fun...
Well you can... And I'm going to show you 5 ways to make him worry about losing you...
And let me insert my little "Game Disclaimer" here:
I don't approve of game playing... but let's face it - ALL social interactions are a form of game playing. I show you how to do these things not to manipulate, but to leverage the power of healthy interactions to get the romantic results you want...
Good, let's get on with:
Make your man worry about losing you for once - TIP 1: Remind him of life without you...
A man will quickly forget how crappy it was without you. He'll forget in just a few days just how alone and sex-free his life was before you came into the picture.
So you should remind him on occasion. (Gratitude is forgotten quickly - but loss is felt right down the the bones.)
Girl's Night Out!
There are a ton of ways you can do this one:
Make plans with your girlfriends on a night you usually spend with him. Be prepared for his best "sad little boy face." Let him pout it out. He needs a little incentive to remember what he's got.
Be vague about plans you've got that don't include him. Let him wonder about where YOU are and what YOU are up to for once. Stop being so accountable for him.
Stop answering his texts so quickly. Yeah, I know - he complains when YOU don't answer quickly, but when HE doesn't you get crickets.
Flirt with other guys. No, this does not constitute cheating on your part. We all know women flirt. Flirting does not imply that you're a slut, either. What it does is remind him that you're not a possession - you're a subscription that is always up for renewal.
Level the playing field...
Oh, and if you feel weird about this, like you are the mean, naughty, bad girl... go splash some water on your face and get a grip. Women who make themselves TOO available and work too hard to make HIM happy wind up as doormats.
I won't let that happen to you...
Make your man worry about losing you for once - TIP 2: Stand up to him...
Here's something about guys you might not know:
The reason you don't get what you want from a man is usually because you're offering the OPTION to him.
Chances are, you've gotten used to communicating with women - where being firm and telling it like it is will get you thrown out of the group.
But this isn't how men work.
If you give a man an option, he'll take the one that works best for him. It's not selfishness, really. (Well, okay, it's a little bit selfish.) It's mostly about his convenience.
Be a challenge.
So in a relationship, it's very tempting to a woman to "go along to get along." Don't rock the boat, right?
Men respond to backbone in a woman.
We don't like pushy, annoying women. But we LOVE it when you challenge us.
Don't be so easygoing about your relationship. The nature of men is that we will simply take anything for granted that is handed to us.
Don't let things get TOO easy in your relationship.
Make your man worry about losing you for once - TIP 3: Make him wonder...
Our imaginations are a fertile playground... It's easy to make someone wonder what you're up to.
Sometimes we do this by mistake... We forget an important date or event - or the time of some friend's party. And our absence is noted.
So right now I'm telling you that you need to intentionally forget your man a little bit. And make him wonder what's going on with you. It reminds him that he's not the be all, end all of your life.
For example, texting. Yeah, you know you do it.
Because texting is to a woman what ESPN is to a guy...
A way to feel connected. In touch with the "score" - if you will - of your priorities.
For men, that might be his pro football or basketball team.
For women, it's your relationships.
And the score is ESSENTIAL.
Yes, you can do it!
If he sends you a text, don’t answer him right away… or at all.
If you don’t answer him, you will be amazed at how fast he'll be calling you and pestering you - wondering what's going on - what changed? He'll freak out that your feelings for him might be changing.
Make yourself a challenge again by not being so clingy and responsive.
(Remember the coy game you played when you first met him? How you played it extra cool when you first started seeing him? Yeah. THAT stuff.)
Another example:Buy yourself flowers and put them right out there on the table. If he asks who got them for you, you can just avoid answering. Or play with him a little and say it was some hot actor that keeps calling on you.
The less you say, the more attention you'll get from him.
Make your man worry about losing you for once - TIP 4: Keep your boundaries...
What are your boundaries?
Women are much more flexible with their personal boundaries. I believe this is because a woman's identity typically includes her many relationships. So having more fluid and relaxed boundaries makes it easier to feel the quality of your relationships.
Men are a bit different. We are more protective of our personal boundaries. We are quick to get angry if a friend tries to inconvenience us or take advantage of us.
So what you should do is to shake up the status quo by putting up some personal boundaries that remind him that you won't be walked on, you won't be taken advantage of, and you won't let him run your life.
Here are a few ways to do this:
Lock your phone...
With a code he does not get to have. Yeah, you might think that it's good to show that you "have no secrets," but not with your phone. Let his imagination run wild with the reasons why. (If he thinks some guy is chasing you, that only works to help you, by the way.)
Are you hard to get?
Stop peeing in front of him...
Yeah, you heard me. I know how it is when relationships get comfortable. You see no problem sneaking in for a quick pee while he flosses... but this is a plague on your relationship. Some couples do it to "prove" to themselves how comfortable they are with each other. (Always lookin' for a new way to demonstrate the relationship strength.)
DON'T DO IT! Keep some private times in your life.
Turn your phone off at night.
Look, we're big folks here, right? The fact is that about 8 out of 10 people now sleep with their phones. Some keep it under their pillow!
What the...? Are you hoping he will booty call you at 3:14 AM? The cold harsh truth is that women who understand men - and attract men - don't pay that close attention to their phones.
Why? Because they're too busy going out with guys!
Turn your phone off - get at least 6 to 8 good hours of sleep, and you'll be right as rain in the morning. And a whole lot less edgy.
Make your man worry about losing you for once - TIP 5: Get Him To Fantasize About You...
The single best way you can make a man focus on you is to get him to think about you when you're not around. You may already know this intuitively. If a guy can't stop thinking about you - you've won his heart.
You have to get his attraction building for you when you're not around - night and day!
The secret is a part of a man's mind that I call the "Obsession Switch." This is a secret loophole in a man's mind that gives you complete override and control of his emotions.
Become his obsession...
Have you ever seen a guy who was obsessed with his sports team? Or maybe a video game?
Maybe it was his car...
Whatever it was, I'll be you wished you could be that important to him, right?
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