Myths about men you might believe…
Women tend to seek advice from female friends when it comes to just about anything – life, career and most especially their love life.
And you ask for their opinion of what is right or wrong. Or what you should or shouldn’t do.
Your girl friends are just so willing to give you advice. But, what we don’t realize is… is their advice good?
Is it applicable to what you’re going through? Where’s their “recommendation” coming from?
You need to realize (and you must have done this at some point) is that, more often than not, the advice we get and the recommendations we got are most likely coming from their personal experiences.
Imagine when you just had a tiny argument with your boyfriend, you got frustrated, you call your girlfriend who just had a bad experience with her ex…
What does she tell you? “Men are all the same, you should break up with him.” And, you’re left wondering, “Maybe I should…”
Researchers from University College London and Aarhus University in Denmark recruited 28 volunteers to help explain why we care what other people think …
The study suggests that the area of our brains associated with reward is more active when others agree with, and reinforce, our own opinions.
“It seems that not only are some people more influenced by the opinions of others, but by looking at activity in the brain, we can tell who those people are.” – Chris Frith, emeritus professor of neuroscience at UCL’s Wellcome Trust Center for Neuroimaging.
Therefore, there’s a HUGE chance that this will block you with your chances of getting a MAN and keeping him.
So, how do you prevent yourself from falling into this trap? Check out these man-myths, which can give you insights about what women STILL believe about men.
MAN MYTH # 1: All men are the same.
Each one of us are uniquely molded by our experiences and choices as we navigate through life. Through those experiences, we’ve come up with our own beliefs, opinions – that makes up who we are and what we are.
So, when you hear “Men are all the same,” push it out of your mind, because, there are different types of men.
If you’ve experience the same scenario with different guys, then you must have met one type of man – and maybe it’s high time for you to explore the other types out there.
MAN MYTH # 2: If he’s still single, then he must be gay
We’ve all heard this one before – when we see a guy who’s still single, we stay away thinking he’s either crazy or gay. He’s still not with a woman, so there’s must be something wrong with him.
Funny enough, guys have a similar myth about single women, only that they’re un-dateable or a crazy cat lady.
(That’s a subject for a whole other article…)
If he’s still single, instead of believing the myth, widen your understanding.
Look at his life. Maybe, he’s single because he’s that guy looking for “THE ONE”.
And you might be that woman he’s waiting for.
Not to mention all the men who may have put their dating on hold to accomplish some things in their life.
Like get their career going. Do some travel, perhaps.
He’s single maybe because he chose to establish himself first – he wanted to be financially stable, make a mark in this world or find out who he really is and what he’s passionate about.
Abandon this faulty belief, because that might stop you from being with the man that you’ve been looking for all this time.
MAN MYTH # 3: He’s intimidated by a successful woman
Keep this in mind – not all guys are afraid of successful, “empowered” women. This is where you can tell which are the mature men and ones who are immature.
Oftentimes, a man who does avoid a relationship with a woman who has a career is doing so because of a very practical reason: men need a woman that will make him a priority.
A lot of men have had relationships with women who put their career first, only to discover there was no room for him.
In the same way, a woman wants her man to be there for her, to have moments to share and a connection to nurture, a guy wants to know that he’s got a woman that will make him an important part of her life.
So if your first thought is: “He’s intimidated by me…”
Men are actually deeply attracted to a woman who has her “financial shit together,” and can take care of herself. He’s only being pragmatic about what he wants in a relationship – and eventually, a family.
These are just a few myths about men, but these are the ones that are perpetuated the MOST.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t go to your girlfriends for perspective. It’s not bad to seek advice from your peers.
But when you do, make sure that you keep an open mind.
And remember that you are making a decision based on what’s good for you and NOT what others think is good for you.
So keep your own best interests at heart, and always be willing to “break from the pack” on occasion to get what you really want.
Yours In Perfect Passion…
– Carlos Cavallo