5 Signs A Married Man Is In Love With You…
How Do You Know If A Married Man Is In Love With You…
It’s taboo and it’s not for the faint of heart…
It’s when a guy who’s already married starts to show interest in you.
But at the same time, you’re probably – dare I say it – kinda hoping for a little of that interest?
Maybe it wasn’t what you wanted at the start, but you’ve got his interest now – and it feels pretty good, right?
BUT – you also might not welcome it. You know it’s messing around in a place you don’t want to go. Like when a married coworker starts to show interest.
I mean, think about it: You spend upwards of 8 hours with some of the people you work with, and usually less with your own family during the week. It can get very intimate.
I have a close relative who was once seeing a married guy – ironically right after she got divorced from a husband who had… well, cheated on her. Go figure.
So whatever the situation may be for you, you now have a situation to deal with.
So how do you handle the possible signs a married man is in love with you?
Let’s take a look – starting with:
Sign #1 A married guy is falling for you: He hides the band…
You know that little gold or silver ring he normally has on his left hand?
You might see it catching the glint of the sun in a few of his social media pictures. Or when he’s at certain places with … her. But when he’s able to just hang out with you, for whatever reason that ring keeps disappearing.
You might even see that telltale line on his finger… slight tan line.
Of course he’s going to feel a little guilty and weird about this attraction, as you probably do. So taking that visual reminder out of the picture is a way to alleviate some of that feeling.
And the ring makes him feel like there’s an invisible tentacle of “wife” there watching him.
Let’s be clear here, though: He’s not necessarily going to act on this feeling. If his marriage isn’t a happy one, sure, it could happen.
But most likely he’s just looking to flirt and play with that kind of romantic energy every once in a while. We ALL want to feel desired. And it’s probably been years since he felt that initial thrill of new attraction with a woman.
Married women do this sort of thing all the time. (I should know, I liked to flirt with them, too. )
When the wedding ring disappears it lets him play with the notion that he is free to flirt.
It always comes down to whether or not his flirting will be acted on when the time comes, of course.
Which brings us to:
Sign #2 Married dude is flirting: He gets closer…
Body language is inescapable. When we’re into someone, we definitely act differently than we do when we’re just friends with them.
You’ll feel that magnetic pull of wanting to get closer to that person, on the chance that you might come in contact with them… feel that static charge of skin on skin.
“One of the signs that a married man is in love with you is the physical contact he tries to have with you…”
If you’re out and about, he will make it a point to be near you, often intruding on your personal bubble. If you ever find yourself excited by the sudden change in distance to him, chances are he moved closer intentionally.
When he talks to you, he’ll make it a point to touch your arm or shoulder. (Most guys will avoid the hand – it’s far too intimate too soon.)
He probably has a secret crush on you, and probably wants to know if he actually does have a chance with you. (Whether or not he decides to act on it.)
Remember that the body works on a different frequency than the mind. So his subconscious desire for you will act out with his body language. You’ll also see him mirroring your body language – facing you, pointing his hips toward you, leaning in, etc.
The one thing you can be sure of is that his body is keeping the score – and it will show if he’s falling in love with you by how he lets these “tells” out.
Sign #3 Married dude wants you: He starts unloading…
The reality is that many people (both men and women) in a relationship or marriage are not getting their emotional needs met. This is simply due to the fact that they are not working on their communication, and have no idea how to foster that kind of real-world intimacy.
Yes, ladies – this means you, too. Women relate easily to women, and men to men.
If a married guy is falling in love with you – especially if he wants to act on it – he’s very aware that his feelings aren’t something to be proud of. Quite the opposite.
But he also will feel the pull of his emotions near you. He’ll want to start opening up to you and telling you what’s going on with him emotionally. Men have a habit of being vulnerable this way to a woman to signal her that she’s “special” to him.
- He’ll also start complaining about his wife in detail…
- To get sympathy…
- To see if you are also going to move in to take over for her – thus showing your interest in him
- He’ll tell you that the marriage is “dead,” “sexless,” “over,” or a million other things…
- He’ll tell you about his past, his desires, his plans… all in hopes that you’ll fall in love with his potential…
But you have to be wary that he will not verbalize that he’s a married man falling in love with you. He’ll skirt around that to see if the interest from YOU is there first.
Sign #4 Married dude wants you: The monkey starts to dance…
Men live to please women.
This is a fact that most women are not taught these days. I was very surprised to find that moms are rarely explaining to their daughters about how men work. This explanation was something that has been done for countless centuries. And now that it’s not happening, women are having a tough time understanding men.
I guess that’s where I fit in!
So let me be very clear with you that men do live to make women happy. It’s a priority for us.
Hard coded in our wiring.
Even more for men who are the “true gentleman” type.
- When a guy starts acting like a dancing monkey to impress you and to make you happy, there’s a good chance this married guy is in love with you and looking to act on it.
- When he starts checking in with you to see if you’re okay, he’s starting to fall for you.
- When he asks if anything is wrong, or if anything is bothering you, that’s another clue…
When a guy puts in effort to be polite AND works to please you, he might also start doing this next sign –
Sign #5 Married dude wants you: He goes out of his way…
When he realizes that he’s interested in you – and may be falling in love with you – he’s going to start making it a point to go out of his way for you.
But what does this mean to you exactly?
Well, he’s trying to do a few things…
- He’s trying to please you (we already talked about this)
- He’s trying to demonstrate his value as a mate – All animals on this planet do this…
- He’s trying to look good in front of you – He wants you to see him in the best light…
- He makes excuses to talk to you and to see you – Since he can’t ask you out, he will do his best to find ways to get time with you…
Some of the indicators you might catch are:
- – He’s dressed nicer when he’s around you
- – He’s wearing cologne – or just smells good
- – He’ll also preen and adjust his appearance to maximize it for you
The one clincher – the all-time granddaddy when it comes to signs he’s starting to fall for you, though – is when you can tell he’s starting to get jealous of other guys.
He knows he’s falling for you, but he really can’t show it. And he’ll be threatened by any guys that show interest in you. He may even try to convince you to break up with your guy for reasons that sound a bit weak. Maybe pointing out flaws that just don’t sound very good or even accurate.
Look, I’ll be straight up with you: Don’t court married men. Don’t get involved with them.
Let these guys pull some other unsuspecting woman into their flytrap of discontent.
If he’s really not getting any sex or good times from his wife, getting less from women OUTSIDE his marriage will give him more incentive to do the right thing and leave his marriage.