What kind of things will a man do if he really loves you?
Well, if you were to ask one question to define "romantic," I think it would be exactly that: "What would a man do for love?"
It's pretty much the theme of all romantic movies ever made, too. The man is put through a chivalrous test to win his fair maiden's hand in marriage.
Well, these days (if you watch television or the movies) it's more about the guy being a doofus, and the woman is the one to straighten him out. I'll bet it feels like that a lot, too - that you have to bring him around to your way of thinking.
I recently got an email from someone asking me this:
"What if the guy doesn't invest much effort into getting to know me? He's very busy... works 2 jobs, takes care of his parents, has a son.. but I think he could at least text me.
"Should I ask him why he's not making any effort??"
Even if his life is busy, he'll make time...
The really sad part of this email is that it's apparent that - even if he does love her (which I don't think he does) - she can't compete with his life.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in wanting love sent back to us that we miss the reality that they are not available. It's fairly obvious that this guy doesn't have the time to really be there for her.
Well, I want to show you what to look out for so that you don't wind up with the wrong guy - or a guy who doesn't really love you the way you deserve.
Are you curious about what a man will do for love?
Then let's dive right into the 7 things a man will do - only if he REALLY loves you...
What A Man Will Do For Love #1: He Will Pull The Trigger...
Men are expected to be manly, no matter what the news might say about gender roles. A woman simply will NOT be satisfied by a man who is not charged with some degree of masculinity.
And one of the critical "masculine" traits is INITIATIVE.
You see, a guy has to take the lead on pursuing you. If he doesn't, or you step in to make things happen in the name of empowerment, the whole house of cards known as 'romance' is likely to collapse.
"You can't catch me!"
Let me explain...
Let's say you find a guy you're interested in, and you make that interest known. He seems to be interested back, and you go out on a few dates.
- You'll probably be very unsure about where you stand with him. Rightfully so! You were the one to initiate, so it's unclear if he would have asked you out if you didn't.
How would that feel? Probably horrible.
- You'd feel compromised and insecure. After all, you made your interest known, and now you have to see if he will do his part and show some initiative.
- Hey, he doesn't have to work too hard now. You did all the work for him! So it's way more likely he's NOT going to chase you since he's pretty sure he knows how you feel. (Yeah, men are MOTIVATED when they DON'T know if you're interested.)
Do you see how nothing good can really come of you being the chaser?
It never works out for the woman who chases the man.
So look for his initiative to tell you whether or not he's in love. A man in love is putting the energy in to make things work.
He'll Do THIS If He Loves You #2: He'll Go For "The Bone..."
Okay, get your mind out of the gutter... I'm talking about the FUNNY bone.
When a guy loves you, he'll want to make you laugh. And if you're being honest with yourself, this is one of the most important things for you to have in a guy.
A must have? Charming wit!
The reason women find a good sense of humor so important is that it demonstrates both intelligence AND flexibility in a man. That kind of perception in a guy is priceless to a woman's happiness.
He should be making jokes and teasing to get you to laugh, and doing it regularly.
He should be working to make you feel happy - which is how you know he's cherishing you.
What A Man Does When He Loves You #3: He Will Be Your Cop...
You know the police motto on the side of all their cruisers, right?
"To Protect & To Serve"
Well, your man needs to protect you - and serve you when you need it. Feeling safe in a man's arms is one of the most powerful elements of attraction.
Give him purpose.
A man who is in love will worry a bit about you. He'll want to make sure you're taking care of yourself.
And - not to mention - he will serve your needs along the way. It might only be in little ways, but he'll put time and thought into what you need - whether it's a drink from the fridge or bringing something over for your meal together.
When A Man Loves You, He'll Do THIS - #4: He Will Show You His Belly...
In the animal world, one of the most powerful displays of vulnerability is when an animal rolls on its back to reveal its stomach. Dogs do this when they're playing and want to demonstrate submission.
Your man will also do this when he loves you. Well, not literally roll over, but he'll do it EMOTIONALLY.
He'll be vulnerable to you and reveal himself to you. Now, that doesn't mean he's going to start crying and confessing his soul. But it does mean that he should be letting you in on his feelings and thoughts.
Let him ease into your relationship...
He'll start to tell you when things bother him, or the problems he's having with people at work, or the things he worries about.
He may start fairly small, and that's because he's testing the waters to see if you'll spot what he's doing. He wants to feel SAFE in order to reveal more. If you violate his emotional safety, he'll pull back and not risk it again.
If he does get vulnerable, that's when you need to know how to connect with him in a way that makes him feel safe.
So watch out for a man to reveal his vulnerabilities - no matter how small.
When A Man Loves A Woman - #5: He Won't Miss The Small Stuff...
A guy who's really tuned into you will know the little things that you care about. He'll notice - and he'll try to not only meet you where you are, but pull you in.
A perfect example of this is behavior...
Nothing sexier than a man who helps around the house...
He will make small - but important - changes to his behavior to show you that you're important to him. Maybe you mentioned that you had an ex that you used to hike with on the weekends.
Now, if he's into you, he'll make the effort to either get in better shape, or he will take you on hikes.
He’s mentally noting what you like and what excites you, inspires you, and makes you happy.
When the time is right he'll try to charm you by showing off this improved part of his life.
He will demonstrate the behavior he thinks you want - whatever makes you desire him. He won’t really consider it “changing for you”… just showing that he wants your approval.
If He REALLY Loves You - #6: You'll Be On The Inside...
A lot of women are concerned when she doesn't get to meet a man's family and friends, and rightfully so. After about a month or so of dating, you should be a part of his "inner circle."
A man will naturally pull you into the social network of his life if he has more than sexual feelings for you.
When his emotions are engaged for you - i.e., he LOVES you - you're going to meet everyone in his life. He'll want to show you off to others if he thinks he's got a "catch."
You're a keeper!
You need to be included on holidays after 3 or 4 months as well. If this isn't happening in your relationship, you have to start asking some hard questions. Because, typically, a man will only invite you into the "inside" if he thinks you're a keeper and he's falling for you.
So consider this a huge signal of his love...
What A Guy Will Do For Love - #7: He'll Tell You...
Yeah, crazy, huh? But if a guy is really in love, he'll find a way - or many ways - to tell you.
This doesn't always mean in words, though. Some guys have a really big wall between their ability to feel (yes, we do feel - DEEPLY) and our ability to describe those emotions to others.
You may have experienced this in a variety of ways. Some women will put the "I love you" out there, desperately wanting to hear it back. (I recommend you never tell a man you love him unless you DON'T need to hear it back.) Then they're crushed when he doesn't say the same thing back. Not because he doesn't feel it, but because he's not as attached to the words.
He'll let you know often, and in a million little ways.
But keep an eye out for all the other ways a man can show you his love through ACTION. This is how most men say they love you, but it's completely missed by women because it doesn't match her "love language."
- Does he fix things for you?
- Does he go out of his way to look stuff up on the Internet and send them to you?
- Does he bring you coffee in the morning?
- Does he anticipate some small need of yours in advance?
These are just a few of the small ways a guy will show you he loves you.
Remember that you can't control how people love you back - so make sure you aren't missing how he might already be loving you...
- keep your eyes open!
And if you want to know how to get inside his head - to connect with him on a level that will have him instantly worshipping the ground you walk on...