If you've read my articles or viewed my videos, you probably know about something I call the "Men's Desert of Touch."
You see, a man's life is largely vacant of meaningful touch. Guys can go their whole lives and get maybe 10% of the touching that women get. Which is often why a man seeks out a relationship - just to get his Recommended Daily Allowance of affection.
Our necks are a very vulnerable area, for obvious reasons. If you want to awaken some erotic fire, just make it a point to target this area like this:
Breathe on his neck - do this while you're talking to him and you'll see the reaction. Just find a reason to snuggle up close and tell him a secret...
Taste the skin - Obviously when you're in a more intimate situation. Just a light flick of your tongue on the skin of his neck will get his attention...
Teeth are legal - a slight bite on his neck (go easy!) is another way to trigger a surge of love hormones. Just take his skin between your teeth gently and let the sensation drive him - and you - a little wild...
Vampires aren't the only ones who can enjoy the pleasures of the neck...
WHERE HE WANTS TO BE TOUCHED #2: Fingers in the Mane...
Ever gotten a really good hair washing from your stylist? Mine used to massage my scalp when she washed my hair, and it was so enjoyable I'd fib and tell her I thought there was more soap in my hair to get more of it.
Stimulating the scalp directly, or indirectly by pulling on hair is a good way to jump start some excitement.
Send shivers up and down his spine...
Just run your fingers through his hair, coming up from behind the neck. Weave your fingers in and out (depending on how much he has) and use your fingertips to apply pressure to his head. If you add in a little "undulating finger" action, he'll definitely remember your touch.
You can also stroke the outside of his hair, kind of like petting him.
Most guys don't get weird about their hair - but if you know he puts a lot of time into it, you may want to get permission first...
PLACES TO TOUCH HIM #3: The Forbidden French...
Remember when "French kissing" was a big deal? You were probably about 10 years old at the time when you heard about it, but it was the most taboo thing to do...
But there's a reason we do this, and it has to do with - you guessed it - evolution.
You see, besides the pleasurable part of this kind of intimate kissing, the reason it's always led to co-mingling tongues and not just lips is because your tongue can actually sense things about the other person's saliva.
First of all - you sense whether or not that person's immune system is compatible with yours or not. This is actually an important step, because if your immune systems are not genetically compatible, your children could have some challenges.
If you've ever had a kiss with someone and then just felt kinda turned off by them, chances are your mouths did the talking... well, at least your saliva shut down this romance.
Another reason is that the lips on humans have been setup as a pleasure zone for this kind of activity, and it's further enhanced by dancing with the tongues.
So you might want to do a bit of "deep kissing" early on in your relationship to see if it's going to work out. It's nice to be able to trust your own biology to make the decision for you...
WHERE TO TOUCH A GUY #4: The Secret Sexy Spot...
There's a place a guy likes to be stimulated during sex that no woman can afford to ignore.
This one requires a small amount of adventurousness on your part, but if you can work yourself up to it, this pays off.
The Sacrum is an area of a man's body that he may not admit to liking, but it really is one of those spots that is a huge turn on. You'll find it right at the base of the tailbone. This works out to be about the middle of his butt - just a couple inches below where Mr. ButtCrack starts.
If you've heard of "Kundalini" you may already know of this erotic zone...
Kundalini is a Sanscrit term from ancient India that identifies the arising of an energy and consciousness which has been coiled at the base of the spine (sacrum) since birth, and is the source of the life force - or so those folks say.
You will want to massage the area to either side and around his tail bone, without putting too much pressure on the bone itself. Just work the soft tissues around that area, and he'll find this to be a great source of energy and excitement. There are pressure points here as well, so be firm without overdoing it.
WHERE HE LIKES BEING TOUCHED #5: Sacred Sexy Spot...
Since we're turning this into the tongue twister issue of dating advice, I felt this one was absolutely necessary.
There's a place a guy likes to be stimulated during sex that no woman can afford to ignore.
It's called the perineum, and it's one of the sacred chakras - The "Root" Chakra - or energy source. It's also connected to a lot of other mystical energy channels in the body.
WHERE TO FIND IT: This zone, located between his anus and testicles, is extremely sensitive and a top erotic target, once you know how your man likes this area stimulated.
You can try a number of stimulation techniques, including gently pressing it with your fingers or softly rubbing your fingertips over it. Some men enjoy a rolling motion of the flat part of your knuckles against this spot.
Start slowly and notice his response – he might not have experienced these sensations with anyone else before.
WHERE HE ENJOYS BEING TOUCHED #6: The Inner Zone...
If you like having your legs stroked, I want to invite you to try the same with your man.
The inner thighs is an awesome place to touch.
First, because it's a sensitive area of skin.
Second, because it teases about you touching his Johnson.
Simply stroke and touch this area of his legs, from along the v-path of his groin down into his inner thighs.
Hurts sooo good...
Just a warning, though... this area is really sensitive - and as with all areas of a man's body - if done without the right level of pressure you could wind up tickling him instead of turning him on.
WHERE HE NEEDS TO FEEL YOUR TOUCH #7: Face Time...
There are a couple zones on a man's face that deserve attention and are good to go after when you want to level-up the romance...
The third eye: This might sound like I'm talking about his little guy, but I'm not. The third eye is the chakra between the eyes - right on the forehead. Supposedly, this is a mystical focus of energy. You can simply press your fingertip here for about a minute - or press with your thumbs while you massage this point.
The temples: Just a delicate fingertip massage here is all that's needed
His lower lip: As I mentioned with kissing, the lips are a very sensitive zone, with a high concentration of nerve endings.
The Ears: You probably know this one feels awesome. Just a nibble on the earlobe, or a casual blow in his ear is enough to tingle him right up to blind desire. You can also rub the ears, as there's a lot of pressure-point relief in this area...
If you're delicate with your fingertips, or you use the back of your fingers or hands to stroke his skin, you'll have no problems engaging him on "face time."
Take the time to connect through touch...
The truth is that most any place on a man's body can be turned into a hot zone of pleasure, if you know how to do it. We covered 7 of the primary areas for you to focus on in this article.
But there's one zonethat makes a man want you like nothing else - and that's being able to connect with him.
Ultimately, the only place you really need to touch a guy is his HEART!
I know, it might sound corny - but it's true.
Men are more guarded about being emotionally swept away.
He's more defensive because he knows just how easily he can be drawn into love.
When you know how to connect with a man, you'll have unlimited access to his heart, mind, and soul.
Go watch my special presentation and discover the Connection Code - and discover why Some Women Are Cookies, And Some Are Broccoli - Which One Are YOU?
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