I'll also give you a little understanding of how and why they work on a man to give you what you need from him. Here we go...
SEXY TEXT 1: "I think I'm liking that shirt on you..."
When you send it: Anytime after the first date.
Why it works: Men almost never get good compliments on their clothes. Mostly because most guys don't really have good fashion sense.
But besides that, he'll love to hear that you dig his appearance.
It's small, subtle, and lifts him up.
BUT - it also is just light enough that he might wonder if you're really into him. It's indirect, and he'll want to know if this means more.
SEXY TEXT 2: "Kinda cold under the blankets - sec while I put on some clothes"
When you send it: After you've been out on a date and there is obvious chemistry.
Why it works: DUH! Because it hints at you being nekkid!
Leave it up to his imagination...
This text will work wonders for you based on the subtle sexual hint that it carries. Guys love the titillation factor of this one.
Just a note: if he starts getting too sexual for you, then you've got a good indication of where he's headed.
If his reply is TOO much, simply don't respond for a few hours, then pick it up on a more serious note. He'll get the hint.
If not, he's an idiot - or too much of a horn-dog.
Mind you, this text should not be used for brand new relationships, but anytime after you sense that he's into you is fine.
SEXY TEXT 3: "Step 1 - Tell me how bad you want me and why"
Followup text: "Step 2 – If your answer is good enough – we move on to Step 3"
When you send it: Anytime just before or after you get intimate with him. (Better if before.)
Why it works: It's commanding.
This is one of those *slightly* bitchy texts that commands him to prove himself. If you think you've got the moxy and his keen desire, it's a good one to let fly.
BONUS: Don't text him back for at least an hour or two after he responds. Leave him hanging.
Turning up the heat means doing it in STAGES. When you escalate gradually, he'll be bursting at seams with anticipation.
SEXY TEXT 4: "I think I saw the barista checking you out"
When you send it: 2 or more dates in.
Preferably, you should use this text when you've been out somewhere that he might have been seen by other women.
He'll feel sexy and desirable...
Like I said earlier, guys are wired to appreciate the attention of ALL women, even though he's not actually going to do anything about it.
Of course, if you're not at a coffee shop, you'll have to adjust your text accordingly. Just change up the details to suit the situation.
Why it works: This type of text is excellent for a couple of reasons
REASON 1: It's a small boost to his ego to think another woman was checking him out. Most guys are OBLIVIOUS to this in the world.
When you point this out to him, it makes him feel like a million bucks. Like I said, there's nothing wrong with a guy knowing other women dig him.
It's not like he's suddenly going to hit on the next lady who gives him THAT look. So go ahead and give him a little indirect compliment - he'll be flattered as hell (even if he doesn't admit it).
REASON 2: It makes him notice that you're not an obviously insecure type - at least not at first. If you're secure in yourself enough to let him know you saw someone checking him out, that speaks volumes to him.
It tells him that you're not threatened by other ladies. You're the cool girl who can handle the "competition" checking out your prize.
BONUS REASON: By extension, YOU also find him attractive since you pointed out other women fancy him. It's basically admitting how YOU see him without spelling it out - and that's HOT to a guy.
Oh, and if you ever want to have some MORE fun, just change the person in question to a guy. Hilarity will ensue.
SEXY TEXT 5: "OMG - That was amazing!"
You can also send a more specific/explicit version:
"OMG - you were amazing last night..."
Feels sooo good...
When you send it: After you've had sex for the first time.
Why it works: He needs to know he's competent in the sack.
You might wonder if you want to send something like this if he wasn't all that in the bedroom, and the answer is... maybe.
If you're not going to keep seeing him, or if he's just a test drive, let him think he was at least okay. But don't ever reward poor performance with cheers and accolades.
SEXY TEXT 6: "OUT! OUT!"
When he responds with "What?" or "?", you should reply with:
"Get out of my head! You've been in here all day..."
When you send it: After you've had a few dates, Late in the day.
Why it works: Curiosity!
Keeping him curious is a great way to keep him engaged and seeing you as fun. When you can keep a guy guessing, you're giving him the best kind of challenge.
SEXY TEXT 7: I had a naughty dream last night and you were in me...
FOLLOW UP TEXT: "WHOOPS! I mean, IN IT..."
When you send it: Anytime just before or after you start getting sexually intimate.
Why it works: The old Freudian slip is a great way to get dirty without compromising your dignity and femininity.
Oops! I did it again...
Use it when you want to hint him into going that direction - or if you're afraid he's losing interest in the conversation. He'll definitely sit up and take notice - even make him spit out his morning coffee...
SEXY TEXT 8: Wanna play a game with me?
When you send it: Anytime.
Why it works: Again, curiosity.
I like this one because you take it almost ANYWHERE. You can go into playful questions, or even into the naughty zone.
I highly recommend having a few good "truth or dare" type questions. Use the Power Questions I give you in my programs (click HERE to check it out now).
Men actually LOVE having their brains picked. So choose the questions that allow you to get to know him better.
The quickest way to reach a man is through his...
And when you do it over text, it gives it a more exciting, clandestine edge to it. Imagine him furiously typing as he gives away his deepest, darkest secrets while he's at work...
He'll get a kick out of this one, that's for sure.
SEXY TEXT 9: When did you last ... take care of yourself?
When you send it: Anytime after the intimacy is all but a done deal.
Why it works: It's provocatively erotic to talk about your solo sex habits.
Guys are a bit bashful about their ME time. Which makes it a great place to kick off an out-of-the-blue text conversation like this.
When you pry open the topic out of nowhere, it'll give him a rush. He'll likely be stoked to reveal his dirty side over text, so keep this kind of text handy.
It will also give you a bit of a "dominating" presence to the sexual energy, which is a huge turn on for a lot of guys. The sexual side of a relationship is a bit of dance, and a guy loves it when you take turns taking the lead.
BONUS - Send this: "Did you think about me when you did?"
Even if he didn't, he'll probably say yes.
And then the next time, he will.
You can also take any one of those texts and juice it up - or tone it down. Keep in mind that there are 3 levels of flirting with guys:
SUBTLE - Hard to pick up, and can qualify as teasing. If you don't know him well, always err to the side of too subtle. If he's missing your hints, then by all means dial them up a notch or two.
OBVIOUS - He won't miss these signals of interest from you. You go to this level when he's flirting back or showing CLEAR signs of interest in you. Until he does, don't get obvious with him too soon or he'll think you're too easy and will lose interest.
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